Ukuveza nje ukuthi ukungabi ocansini akusebenzi
Uma kuziwa ukukhuluma ngezocansi, ukuvimbela ukubeletha kanye nokuthandana kwentsha, kubonakala sengathi abazali bavame ukuboshwa ukwenza amaphutha athile angaziwa . Elinye lala maphutha lihlobene nokuxoxa kuphela ngokuziqeda. Lapho ebuzwa ngalolu daba, intsha iye yasabela ngokukhululekile ukuthi idinga ukuzwa okuningi kubazali bayo kunokuba "ungabi nobulili." Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyindawo eyodwa lapho intsha izwa khona ukuthi abazali babo kufanele banikeze inzuzo yokungabaza.
Abazali akufanele bavumele ukuthi bangene emgodini wokukholelwa ukuthi ingane yabo izothola imilayezo exubile noma ididekile uma kuxoxwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyayihlonipha uhlakaniphile ngokwanele ukuze uhlanganyele kulezi zingxoxo ezithintekayo. Njengamanye izicelo ezivezwe intsha eningi:
Abazali - Kumelwe Uyenze Okungaphezu Kwesifundo Nje Ngokuziqeda
Ngiyaqaphela ukuthi lokhu kungaba umthambeko osheshayo. Kubalulekile ukuthi wena (njengomzali) uchaze ngokucacile ukuthi ingane yakho inethemba lakho namagugu akho ngokuziphatha kwayo. Kukulungele ngokuphelele ukuthi wabelane ngemibono yakho, ukuziphatha nokulindela mayelana nobulili nengane yakho. Kungase kube usizo, kodwa, ukuthi uqale ucacise ngemibono yakho yokuziphatha ngokocansi ngaphambi kokuba ube nengxoxo. Uma unengxoxo, qiniseka ukuthi uchaza ukuthi kungani uzizwa ngendlela owenzayo (lesi akusona isikhathi sokuba "ngoba ngishilo"), ngifuna ngokugcwele ukufakelwa kwentsha yakho futhi ulalele lokho okushoyo.
Ngifisa, kodwa, kungaba lula lokho. Ngeshwa, ezweni lamanje, abazali kudingeka benze okungaphezu kokutshela ingane yakho ukuthi ingalali. Lesi yisikhathi okufanele uxoxe ngaso ngocansi nokukhulelwa kwezingane:
- Ngokufanelekile
- Ngokuzethemba
- Futhi uthembeke uma ungaqiniseki ngento ethile
Yenza kube Ingxoxo
Kungasiza futhi ukuxoxa ngendlela ozizwa ngayo lapho usemusha ...
ukukhumbula engqondweni ushintsho lwezikhathi. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza le ngxoxo esikhundleni senkulumo.
- Buza ingane yakho imibono yakhe
- Lalela
- Yiba nenhlonipho
- Ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngokuphepha nokukhulelwa, khuluma ngemizwelo engabelana nobudlelwano bocansi
- Cabanga ngombono wakho wengane wengane
- Khuthaza imibuzo bese uphendula lokho okumele bakusho
Kungaba usizo ukwazi ukuthi intsha engama-53% ithi abazali babo noma izinkolelo zabo, izinkolelo nezindinganiso zabo zenkolo zithinta izinqumo zabo zobulili kakhulu. Intsha abazali babo abahlinzeka ngemilayezo ecacile mayelana nokubaluleka kokuziqeda kungenzeka ukuthi bayalinciphisa ulwazi lwabo lokuqala locansi, futhi abazali abaxoxa ngokukhulelwa komzimba bangase babe nentsha esebenzisa ukulawulwa kokubeletha lapho ekugcineni ekhetha ukwenza umsebenzi wocansi.
Ucwaningo
Abacwaningi uMichelle M. Isley et al. wathola ukuthi ukuzithiba-imfundo kuphela ayanele. Ukutadisha kwabo kwembula ukuthi intsha ekholelwa ukuthi ithole imfundo yezocansi eyayiqukethe ulwazi mayelana nezindlela zokulawula ukubeletha yayingcono kakhulu ukusebenzisa indlela yokuvimbela ukubeletha okokuqala ngesikhathi bahlanganyela ocansini. Kubonakala sengathi intsha eyayixoxisana ngemfundo yezocansi eyayibandakanye izinkulumo eziqinile ngokuziyeka yayingenakusebenzisa amathuba okukhulelwa ngesikhathi sokuqala kocansi.
Le datha ibonisa ukuthi imiyalezo yokuzilahla kuphela ijwayele ukukhansela, noma iyanciphisa, imiphumela engaba yinzuzo evezwa ngolwazi mayelana nezindlela zokulawula ukuzalwa. Ngakho-ke, kubonakala sengathi lokhu kugcizelela kakhulu ingane yakho ukuba ingacingi, ikakhulukazi uma kungekho ulwazi mayelana nokukhulelwa kwengculazi olufakiwe, kungaholela ekusetshenzisweni kokulawulwa kokubeletha okungenakwenzeka.
- Imfundo Yezocansi Eningi Ngokumelene Nokuziqeda-Imfundo Yodwa
Lolu cwaningo lubuye lwabonisa ukuthi lapho abazali bexoxa ngezihloko zobulili ngokuningiliziwe (hhayi nje ukuyeka ukuzibophezela), kunendlela ephakeme yokuthi intsha yabo izosebenzisa indlela yokulawula ukubeletha ethembeke ngokwengeziwe. Lezi zingxoxo zocansi eziphakathi kwabazali kanye nentsha (ehamba ngaphezu kwabazali etshela intsha ukuthi ingaboni ucansi) usizo ekukhuthazeni ukuziphatha okuhle ngokocansi kwentsha.
Abazali kufanele baxoxisane nezindlela zokulawula ukuzalwa kwe-hormonal ngoba intsha ezisebenzisa lezi zindlela zivame ukwenza njalo njalo. Le ngxoxo akumele igcinwe kuphela kwentsha yabesifazane.
- Intsha eningi yesilisa ibonise ulwazi olulinganiselwe mayelana nokukhulelwa kwe-hormone (ikholelwa izinkolelo eziningi mayelana nephilisi, isibonelo) noma kungenzeka ukuthi azi ukuthi yiziphi izinketho ze-hormone ezitholakalayo. Uma abazali behlinzeka ngamadodana abo asetsheni ngolwazi, kuzobasiza bazizwe bevikelekile kakhulu kolwazi lwabo - lokhu kuzosiza ekusebenzeni njengento ebalulekile ekusizeni lawa majaha ukusiza izingxoxo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo mayelana nezinkinga zokukhulelwa nezintombi zabo.
Khuluma Mayelana Namakhondomu
Okokugcina, kubonakala sengathi intsha ehlanganyele ezingxoxweni namalungu omndeni mayelana namakhondomu angase asebenzise amakhondomu ngokwabo. Ngakho-ke, isihloko sami sokugcina ... lapho abazali bekhuluma ngendlela yokusebenzisa amakhondomu noma ukuthenga amakhondomu (kunokugxila ekuziqeleni), ukusetshenziswa kwekhondomu kwentsha kuyanda.
Futhi ukuze ngibuyele emuva kukho konke lokhu, i-American Academy of Pediatrics, iKomiti Yezingane Zengane, isekela ngokuqinile futhi ikhuthaze odokotela ukuba bayeluleke intsha mayelana nokusetshenziswa okulungile nokuqhubekayo kokuvimbela ukukhulelwa kanye namakhondomu phakathi kwalabo abenza ucansi noma bacabangela umsebenzi wobulili . Njengoba kunikezwa ukuthi ucwaningo lusekela ngokucacile ukuthi abazali bangathonya ngokuqondile ukuthi izingane zabo zentsha zibandakanya imikhuba evikelekile yocansi uma belala ngokocansi, abazali kanye nentsha kufanele bakhuthazwe ukuba bakhulume ngezimpikiswano ezenziwa yilabo abasha kanye nodokotela ngesikhathi sokuqokwa kwakhe.
Okubalulekile lapha, bazali: Sekuyisikhathi sokuhamba ngaphezu kwezifundo zokuzigwema:
- Ingane yakho ayifuni ukuzwa ukuthi angaboni ucansi.
- Ingane yakho idinga ulwazi olunzulu lokulawulwa kokubeletha futhi kumele lukhuthazwe ukusebenzisa imithi yokubeletha okuphumelelayo.
- Intsha kufanele iqonde ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwenzeka kanjani .
- Usizo luqinise amakhono akho okuxoxisana kwentsha, ngakho-ke angakwazi ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba kokusetshenziswa kokukhulelwa nabalingani bakhe kanye / noma angakwazi "ukuthi cha" ngempumelelo.
- Intsha efundisa ulwazi mayelana nemikhuba yocansi ephephile ngabazali bayo kungenzeka ukuthi ihlanganyele kulezi ziphathekayo ngokwazo.
- Yenza okungaphezu kwenkulumo mayelana nokuziqeda - vimbela ingane yakho futhi umsize ukuba aqale ukwenza izinqumo zocansi ezinempilo nangokwethenjelwa.
Imithombo
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UMichelle M. Isley, u-Alison Edelman, uBliss Kaneshiro, uDawn Peters, uMark D. Nichols, uJeffrey T. Jensen. "Imfundo yezocansi nokusetshenziswa kokubeletha ekuqaleni kwe-coital e-United States: Imiphumela kusukela ku-Cycle 6 we-National Survey Yokukhula Komndeni." Ukwelashwa . 2010. 82 (3): 236-242. Kufinyelelwe ngokubhalisa kwangasese.
URecca D. Merkh, uPaul G. Whittaker, uKaysee Baker, uLinda Hock-Long, uKay Armstrong. "Ukuqonda kwamadoda angashadile ukuqonda ukubeletha kokubeletha kwama-hormone." Ukubeletha . 2009. 79 (3): 2284-235. Kufinyelelwe ngokubhalisa kwangasese.