Umcabango ontsha ohamba ngezinsuku ungenza ngisho nabazali abazolile kakhulu ukwesaba okukhulu. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuvumela intsha yakho inkululeko encane yokuzama ukuphola ngenkathi esaphila ngaphansi kwephahla lakho.
Yakha imihlahlandlela ecacile mayelana nokulindela kwakho ukusiza ingane yakho iqonde ukubaluleka kobudlelwano obuphilile kanye nezingozi ezihlobene nomsebenzi wobulili.
Noma yimiphi imithetho oyikhethayo yokudala kufanele ixhomeke ezingeni lokukhula kwengane yakho. Ngenkathi intsha eningi ingakwazi ukuphatha izinsuku zeqembu eneminyaka engu-14, abanye abavuthiwe ngokwanele ukuphatha ukuthandana baze bekhulile.
Nazi ezinye izinto okufanele uzicabangele uma udala imithetho yengane yakho:
1. Yazi Noma Yimuphi Umntwana Wakho Ofuna Ukuthandana Naye
Uma usuku lwakho lwentsha lukhuphuka futhi luhlonipha uphondo ngaphandle kwendlela yokuza ukuhlangabezana nawe, yenze kucace ukuthi ingane yakho ayihambi ngosuku. Ungahlala uqala ngokuhlangana nosuku ekhaya lakho izikhathi ezimbalwa zokudla ngaphambi kokuvumela ingane yakho ukuba iphume ngosuku olulodwa.
Yakha imihlahlandlela ecacile mayelana nobuhlobo be-intanethi kanye. Intsha eningi ikhuluma nabantu ngabanye kuyi-intanethi bese iqala umqondo wamanga wokusondelana. Ngenxa yalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi bahlangane nabantu abaye baxoxa nabo ngosuku ngoba ababukeli njengabantu abangabazi.
2. Yazi ukuthi ubani, kuphi, kuphi, futhi nini
Qinisekisa ukuthi unendlela ecacile yosuku lomntwana wakho.
Kwabancane abasencane, ukumema ukuba nesithakazelo sothando endlini kungase kube izinga lokuthandana okudingekayo. Noma ungakwazi ukushayela ingane yakho nosuku kuma-movie noma endaweni yomphakathi.
Kodwa intsha ekhulile cishe ifuna ukuphuma ngezinsuku edolobheni ngaphandle komshayeli.
Yenza kucace ukuthi udinga ukwazi imininingwane yalokho ingane yakho ezoba nayo, lapho izobe khona, nokuthi ngubani ozoba khona.
Hlela isikhathi sokufika esifikile . Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ingane yakho ifika nini uma iphuma ngezinsuku.
3. Hlela imikhawulo yobudala
Kwamanye amazwe, intsha ingakwazi ukuthandana nanoma yikuphi abayifunayo uma befinyelela ku-16, kodwa kwamanye athi ayinayo leyo ndlela kuze kube yilapho eseba ngu-18. Kodwa, ngaphandle kwezindaba zomthetho eceleni, wabeka imithetho ethile mayelana nobubanzi bomdala wokuphola.
Ngokuvamile kuvame umehluko omkhulu ezingeni lokuvuthwa phakathi komuntu oneminyaka engu-14 ubudala oneminyaka engu-18 ubudala. Kungase kube nobuningi obuningi bokulala ocansini noma oneminyaka engu-14 ubudala bangase balwele ukufakazela ngosuku oludala. Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi idlale nabantu abaseduze.
4. Gcina Umnyango Wembhedlele Uvulekile
Uma ingane yakho ingumema emzini wakho, yenza umthetho othi umnyango kufanele uhlale uvulekile. Intsha ezinikezwa ubumfihlo obuphelele cishe zilingwa ukuba zihlanganyele emsebenzini wocansi.
Qala ukulindela okucacile ngokubaluleka kokwenza ingxoxo nokwenza imisebenzi ndawonye engahlanganisi umsebenzi wobulili.
5. Yazi ukuthi ngubani oyikhaya endlini yowomunye umuntu
Uma ingane yakho iya ekhaya lusuku, thola ukuthi ubani ozoba ekhaya. Xoxa nabazali bosuku ukukhuluma ngemithetho yabo.
Iminye imindeni kungenzeka ingabi nemithetho ebekiwe noma ingaboni isidingo sokuhlinzeka noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuqondisa.
Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukubuza ngendlela ehloniphekile kodwa ngendlela eqondile ukuthi yiyiphi imithetho kanye nokuqondisa okuzohlinzekwa.
6. Xoxa ngezobuchwepheshe
Ubuchwepheshe bungabangela inkinga kubasha ababandakanyeka ebuhlotsheni bomshado ngezindlela eziningana. Ngezinye izikhathi, intsha ilingwa ukuba ihambisane nesicelo sosuku ukuze ithumele izithombe ezingezansi . Ngeshwa, lezi zithombe zingaba umphakathi omusha ngokushesha futhi ezingenakulindelekile zingahle zichithe izimpendulo zabo ngokushesha.
Ukuncenga nokudlulisa izithombe ezitholakala ezinganeni ezincane ezinezinwele zingabuye zibe nemiphumela esemthethweni. Uma umfana ethola isithombe sesintombi yakhe futhi uyidlulisela kubangane bakhe, angathola amacala ngokusabalalisa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile ezinganeni.
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali baxoxe ngezingozi zokuxoxa ngezicansi nezithombe nge-inthanethi.