Nakuba isilinganiso seminyaka yabesifazane besifazane nesikhathi sokuqala sokubeletha e-United States sesenyuke kancane eminyakeni embalwa edlule, abesifazane abaningi basengumama eminyakeni yabo yokuqala. Isibonelo, izibalo zakamuva ezivela ku-CDC zisitshela ukuthi izinga lokuzalwa kwabafazi abaneminyaka engama-20-24 ubudala lalizalwa ngo-79 ngabesifazane abayi-1 000.
Njengoba abesifazane abaningi bekulinda kuze kube ngu-30 noma ngaphezulu ukuqala ukuba nezingane, kungase kube nzima kunomama abasha ukwazi kahle indlela yokuhamba njengomuntu omdala futhi enomntwana.
Ngesikhathi esizizwa sengathi iningi labantu abayishumi nambili abahlala ezindlini zabazali babo eminyakeni engamashumi amabili, bangabi nhlobo ukukhulisa izingane, nokuba ngumama osemncane bangase bazizwe behlukanisa.
Kodwa uma ungumama omncane, akufanele uzizwe unamahloni. Kunabanye abaningi besifazane ababa omama kulabo abangamashumi amabili nabesifazane abaningi bathola izinzuzo eziningi zokuqala umndeni wabo ngaphambili, njengokungathi ziguquguquke emisebenzini yabo kanye nokunye okukhethwa kukho kokuzala. Uma ungumama osemncane noma ucabanga ukuthi ungumama osemncane, nanka amanye amathiphu okugubha umama eminyakeni yakho yokuqala.
Zinike Isikhathi Sokuthola Umdlandla Wakho
Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi ukuba nomntwana ekuqaleni kokuphila kusho ukuthi uzolahlekelwa yizinkanuko zakho namaphupho akho, cabanga futhi. Abesifazane abaningi abaye baba nezinsana eminyakeni engamashumi amabili bathole ukuthi ukuba nengane ekuqaleni empilweni kuye kwangempela kwabasiza ukuba bathole izinkanuko zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisimo sokuzilibazisa, ukubuyela emuva noma ukuqeda isikole, noma ukuphishekela umsebenzi wephupho.
Asikho isisusa sokwazi ingane yakho ekubukele ukuthi ufike ngezinkanyezi. Futhi ukwazi ukuthi unesikhathi sokuthola ukuthi amaphupho akho angakulethela yini induduzo, ngisho nalapho ungaqiniseki ngokuphelele ukuthi izifiso zakho zisekhona okwamanje.
Thola imali yakho ku-oda
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza njengomama osemusha usebenzisa iminyaka yakho ukuba inzuzo uma kuziwa ekulondolozeni ikusasa.
Hlanganisa amathiphu wokuthi ungayisindisa kanjani uma unesana , qalisa isabelomali, uqonde ukuthi yimuphi umshuwalense wezempilo ozoba nawo, futhi ulondoloze umhlalaphansi. Setha i-aphoyintimenti nomeluleki wezezimali ukukusiza ukuthi uqalise ukulondoloza ngokuthatha umhlalaphansi wakho manje ngoba uma usemusha, ngisho nokulondoloza imali encane kuyokhokha isikhathi eside ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Umeluleki angakusiza futhi ukuthi uqale uhlelo lokulondoloza ingane yakho.
Thola Usizo Lokukhokhela Ikholeji
Kunezinhlelo eziningi zokusiza ezitholakala kumama omncane ekolishi. Uma usekolishi noma uhlela ukuya ekolishi futhi okwamanje ukhulelwe, qiniseka ukuthi ufaka ingane yakho kwifomu lakho le-FAFSA. Uma usuku lwakho olufanele luwela phakathi nonyaka wesikole, ungase ufanelekele usizo olungaphezulu lwezezimali ngokumcela ingane yakho njengomuntu othembekile uma ufaka iphepha lakho. Kubuye kube nokuningi kwezifundo zendawo kanye nezangasese ezitholwa omama abancane ekolishi, ngakho cela umeluleki wezezimali ukuthi yiziphi izinhlelo ezitholakala esikhungweni sakho.
Yamukela Izinzuzo Zokuzalwa Kwasemncane
Kubonakala sengathi ukukhuluma ngokwezinto eziphilayo, imizimba yethu yenzelwe ukuba nezingane ezineminyaka engama-20. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi omncane kakhulu (abasha) nabamama abadala (abangaphezu kweminyaka engama-35) banezinkinga eziningi nakancane kusukela kokukhulelwa kuya ekulethwa kwezidingo, ngakho-ke uma uneminyaka engama-22 futhi uqeda ukukhulelwa kwakho kokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi umzimba wakho kungenzeka ukukubonga ngakho, noma ngabe uzizwa sengathi 'usemncane kakhulu.'
Ekugcineni, isikhathi sokuphela "sokunene" sokuba nomntwana kungukuthi sekuyisikhathi esifanele kuwe. Kodwa njengoba umphakathi wethu uhambela omama nemindeni enezingane kamuva, omama abancane bangase badinga ukwesekwa okungaphezulu kokulungiselela nokufaka umzali. Abanye omama banamathuba okuba nezinsana ezincane futhi uma kufika lapho, futhi umama nganoma yisiphi isikhathi angakwazi ukuzuza ezinsizeni ezimbalwa eziwusizo kanye namathiphu okuhamba ngomzali. A