Okuyisisekelo Ukuba Umzali Wabazali
Izitatimende ezilandelayo ezingu-6 zichaza isisekelo solwazi oluyisisekelo sabazali abaphumelelayo abazali. Yiqiniso, kukhona okunye okumele kube ngumzali okhulayo, kodwa la maphuzu ayisithupha ayindawo enhle yokuqala.
Skill Care Skill # 1 - Yazi ikhaya lakho nomndeni wakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uphumelele ekunakekeleni izingane, imindeni eminingi isebenzisa iminyaka emibili noma emithathu nje icabanga ngakho. Nazi amaphuzu ambalwa okumelwe ucatshangelwe ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo sokugcina sokunakekela noma ukungazinzi ukunakekela izingane.
Kunemingcele embalwa kulabo abangaba ngumzali okhulayo futhi umbuso ngamunye unemihlahlandlela yawo yokulandela.
Kukhona amakhono amaningana abazali abaphumelelayo abaphumelelayo kudingeka baqonde kahle, njengokubekezela kanye nekhono lokushiya kahle.
Kubalulekile ukulungiselela izingane zakho ukunakekelwa kwabantwana. Wonke amalungu emndenini wakho oseduze, ngisho namadoda ahlukumezayo, adinga ukugibela lesi sinqumo njengokungeza emndenini, ngisho noma nje yesikhashana, kushintsha ukugeleza kwemvelo ekhaya lakho.
Yazi ukuthi akuwona wonke umndeni wakho nabangane abazosekela isinqumo sakho sokuba ngumndeni okhulile.
Qonda ukuthi ukukhuthaza kungakwazi futhi kuyothinta umshado wakho, kodwa umthamo onempilo wamahlaya unganciphisa isimo esicindezelayo.
Qonda ukuthi ukuhlinzeka ngokunakekelwa kwabazali kuzoba nethonya kubantwana bakho, kodwa ukulungiselela izingane zakho nokukhetha izinhlobo zokuziphatha ozikhulayo kuzosiza.
Uma ngemuva kocwaningo oluthile unquma ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwabantwana akusikho kuwe, kunezinye izindlela zokuba izingane ezisekela izingane noma labo abazali abakhuthele.
Mhlawumbe ufuna ukukhuthaza, kodwa uzizwe ukuthi lesi akusona isikhathi esifanele. Kunezinto eziningana ongazenza manje ukuze uzilungiselele wena nomndeni wakho ukuze ube abazali ababeletha kamuva.
Skill Care Skill # 2 - Yazi indlela yokuxhumana.
Uzoxhumana nabantu abaningi abahlukene njengomzali okhulayo. Lolu hlu lungabandakanya:
- umndeni wokuzalwa
- othisha kanye nezinye izikhulu zezikole
- therapists
- abasebenzi bezenhlalakahle nabanye abasebenzi be-agency
- abahluleli nabanye abasebenzi bezinkantolo, njengeGAL noma isisebenzi se-CASA
- abanye abazali ababelethi
- umndeni wakho nabangane, abangase bangaqondi nje indima yakho njengomzali okhulisayo.
- ingane
Ikhono Lokunakekelwa Kwabalandeli Bezintambo # 3 - Yazi ukuthi ukusebenza nezingane ezikhulayo kanye nesistimu yokunakekelwa kwabazali kungaba inselele.
Izingane ezisekela izingane zivame ukukhuthazelela ukuhlukumeza nokungahoxiswa ngokweqile. Indlela yengane yokuxhumana ivame ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha. Uhlelo lokunakekelwa kwabazali lubuye lube yinhlangano entsha yabazali abaningi abangabantwana.
Cabanga ngeminyaka, ubulili, nokuziphatha kwezingane ekhaya lakho nomndeni wakho kuzokufanelekela kahle.
Yazi ukuthi izinselele zokusebenza nomntanakho zihlanganisa nezinselelo zokusebenza nesistimu yokunakekela izingane ezikhungathekile.
Cabanga ukuthi usuku lokuqala nomntanakho ozohlala ekhaya lakho luzohamba kanjani nokuthi uzosungula kanjani indima yakho entsha njengomzali okhulisayo.
Ubuchwepheshe bokunakekelwa kwabantwana be-Foster # 4 - Yazi ukuthi ungaphatha kanjani ngokuphumelelayo iziphathamandla zezingane eziyinselele.
Ngenxa yokuhlukumeza nokungahoxiswa esikhathini esidlule, ukujeziswa komuntu akuvumelekile ukuthi kusetshenziselwe izingane ezinakekelwa ngabantwana.
Uma indlela yokuziphatha idala ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba, akulungile. Isibonelo: ngaphandle kokudla, ukugodla ama-breaks-breaks, ama-push-ups, noma ukuma ekhoneni kuma-tip-toes.
- Qonda ukuthi ukuphatha ukuziphatha kwengane, kungase kube kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantwana kwenzeka kanye nezici ezingozini ezidlala ingxenye.
Khumbula ukuthi umsebenzi wakho njengomzali okhulisayo ukwakha okunamathiselwe nomntwana okhulayo kanye nokuziphatha ngokomzimba kungabhubhisa isibopho ozama ukusidala.
- Kubuye kubalulekile ukugcina ubumnandi bakho njengomzali okhulayo. Lokhu kungaba nzima ngoba ngezinye izikhathi izingane ezikhulayo zicindezela imingcele. Kubalulekile ukwenza konke esingakwenza ukuze sigweme ukuhlukunyezwa kubantwana ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka.
Skill Care Skill # 5 - Yazi indlela yokuphatha ukulahlekelwa kwengane kanye nokwakho.
Izikhathi eziningi ukudabuka nokulahlekelwa kwengane (ukudabuka ukulahlekelwa ekhaya kanye nomndeni kanye nokuhlukunyezwa kwangaphambilini) kungabangela izimpendulo kubazali abathandayo.
- Usizi luyimfihlo kakhulu futhi ingane ngayinye izobhekana nosizi ngesikhathi sayo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda inqubo yokuzisola nokulahlekelwa ezinganeni ukuze sikwazi kangcono ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo.
- Kunezici eziningana ezingahle zithinte usizi lomntanakho. Ubude noma ukujula kosizi kungase kube nomthelela ohlobo lokuhlukunyezwa noma ngisho nokukhula kwengane.
- Ingxenye yokuba ngumzali okhulisayo kusiza ingane ukuba ibuhlungu ngokulahlekelwa kwayo ngendlela enempilo.
- Yazi ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuqedela ukunakekelwa kokunakekelwa kwengane yomntwana owakhuthazayo. Iningi lamazwe lizogxila ekubekeni ingane ngezihlobo kuqala uma ingane ingakwazi ukubuyela ekhaya kubazali bayo. Kodwa-ke, kunezinkulungwane zezingane ezingenasemthethweni futhi zilungele ukwamukelwa kusukela ekunakekelwa kwabantwana.
Skill Care Skill # 6 - Yazi ukuthi ungasebenza kanjani nabanye.
Njengomzali okhulayo, uzobe usebenza nabasebenzi abaningi abahlukene. Lokhu kuyahambisana nokukhulumisana, kepha kuningi lokuba ilungu elihle lethimba.
Njengomzali okhulayo, uzocelwa ukuba ube khona emihlanganweni neqembu labantu. Kubalulekile ukuba uzimisele ukuhlanganyela. Unokuqonda okubalulekile izidingo zomntwana futhi iqembu lidinga ukuzwa ukuthi kufanele uthini.
- Abazali abasha abaningi abasha bayesaba ngokuhlangana nomndeni wokuzalwa kwengane, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ungathola ukuthi ukhuthaza noma ufundisa umndeni wonke. Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba abazali ababelethi bayingxenye enkulu yenqubo yokuhlanganiswa komndeni.