Eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule, "i-grit" isibe yi-buzzword ekuthuthukiseni ingane kanye nemibuthano yemfundo. I-Grit in Psychological ichazwa ngokuthi "umphumela omuhle, ongaqapheli ngokusekelwe othandweni lomuntu womgomo othile wesikhathi eside noma isimo sokuphela, okuhambisana nesisusa esinamandla sokufeza umgomo wabo."
Kusukela ngo-2005, u-Angela Duckworth, uF.D.
, isazi sezengqondo eYunivesithi yasePennsylvania, uye wafunda ukufunda nokuziphatha kwabafundi. Ubheka ngokuqondile abafundi abaye babonisa impumelelo yesikhathi eside emigwaqweni yabo yokufunda nokuphila. Uthole ukuthi i-grit, hhayi i-intelligence noma ukuphumelela kwezemfundo, yayiyi-predictor ethembeke kakhulu yomphumela omuhle. Izingane ezinezinyosi ze-spelling zazingekho kahle kunontanga; bavele basebenza kanzima ekutadisheni amagama. Uthole ukuthi i-grit ibaluleke ngaphezu kwamandla wengane okufinyelela amandla akhe okugcwele kunokuba ahlakaniphe, ikhono, noma amamaki.
Ngokungafani ne-IQ, okungahleliwe, i-grit yiluhlobo lwekhono wonke umuntu angathuthuka. Abanye abantwana ngokwemvelo banamafutha amaningi kunabanye, kodwa kunokuningi ongakwenza ukuze usize ingane yakho ithuthukise i-grit nokubekezela kwayo ukuze imsize iphumelele.
UPawulu Tough, umbhali we-"Indlela Izingane Eziphumelela ngayo," wavuma ukuthi ukuthuthukisa amakhono afana ne "grit, ukubekezela, ukuzithiba, ithemba, ukubonga, ukuhlakanipha kwezenhlalakahle, ukuncika, nokuzibuza" kubaluleke kakhulu kune-IQ.
Uxoxa ngokucwaninga okubonisa ukuthi lezi zici zingakhuthukiswa ezinganeni uma zinamathele kubazali bazo futhi zivikelekile ekucindezelekeni ekuqaleni kokuphila kwazo.
Ngakho-ke, yini ongayenza ukuze usize ingane yakho ithuthukise i-grit ngaphezulu?
Vumela Ingane Yakho Ithole Ukukhathazeka
Iningi lezingane ezincane abanayo "ukufutheka" kepha njengoba izingane zikhula, ukuphishekela intshisekelo ukuthi bazikhethele zona kuzosiza ukuba bahlanganyele emsebenzini onzima nokubekezela okudingekayo ukuze baphumelele.
Uma umzali ekhetha lo msebenzi, kunengqondo encane ingane ezozizwa ixhunyiwe futhi angase angafuni ukusebenza kanzima ukuze aphumelele.
Esinye sezici zabantu "abanesizotha" ukuthi "bakhuthazwa ngokukhethekile ukuba bafune injabulo ngokuzibandakanya okugxile futhi kunomqondo wencazelo noma injongo," ngakho ukuvumela ingane ukuthi ithole intshisekelo yakhe iyadingeka isikhathi eside.
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Abazali kufanele bakhuthaze izingane zabo ukuba zizame futhi ziqhubeke nemisebenzi engaba inselelo noma ukukhathazeka. Ukukhuthaza izingane ukuzama izinto ezintsha kubanika ithuba lokufakazela ukuthi bangakwenza noma yini.
Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uma sihle noma singahle emakhono, kungenxa yokuthi sazalwa ngaleyo ndlela. Inkinga ngale nkolelo ukuthi ihola izingane eziningi ukuyeka izinto kalula uma zingaphumelelanga ngaso leso sikhathi. U-Duckworth ukhombisa ukuthi unikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokuphishekela okungenani into eyodwa enzima; umsebenzi odinga isiyalo ukuze usebenzise. Umsebenzi wangempela awunandaba nomzamo kanye nesipiliyoni sokufunda esiza nalo.
Vumela Ingane Yakho Ikhungatheke
Abazali bayazonda ukubona izingane zabo zihlupha, kodwa ukuthatha ingozi nokuzikhandla kuyindlela ebalulekile izingane ezifunda ngayo.
Uma ingane yakho isebenzisana nekhono, umsebenzi, noma umdlalo onzima ukuyiqonda, umelane nesifiso sokungena ngaphakathi futhi "uyisindise" futhi ungamvumeli ukuba ashiye isibonakaliso sokuqala. Qaphela amazinga akho okukhathazeka. Ungesabi imizwa yengane yakho yokudabuka noma ukukhathazeka; yile ndlela abahlakulela ngayo ukuqina.
Uma ingane yakho ingalokothi ikwazi ukuphumelela kokuthile okunzima, angeke ihlakulele ukuqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi ukubhekana nezinselele. Ungavumeli ingane yakho ihambe ngoba idinga usuku olubi. Ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ilahle izinto eziyisibili ziphazamise ukufundisa ukuthi ukulwa akuyona ingxenye yokusebenza kanzima futhi uma beyeka, ngeke baphinde babone ukuthi ubukhulu obungenzeka kanjani uma bebenza kanzima.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele yini wenze izingane zakho zilandele kuyo yonke imisebenzi, ngisho nalabo abaye bamhlophe bese bekhala? Ukwehluleka ukuqeda yonke imisebenzi kuze kube sekupheleni kwenkathi noma iseshini. Uma ingane yakho ikhetha ukungabhaliseki futhi, vumela lokho. Okubalulekile ukuthi baphumelela ekuhluphekeni okuyingxenye yemvelo yenqubo yokufunda into entsha.
Bonisa isibonelo se-Mindset yokukhula
Ku-TED Talk ka-2013, uDuckworth uthe indlela engcono kakhulu yokwandisa i-grit ezinganeni ukufundisa lokho uCarol Dweck, uprofesa waseStanford nomlobi weMindset: I-Psychology New Success, kubiza "ukucabanga kwengqondo."
U-Dweck uthole ukuthi abantu abanengqondo "yokukhula" banamandla futhi banamathele emzabalazweni ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi onzima uyingxenye yenqubo futhi abakholelwa ukuthi ukwehluleka yisimo esihlala njalo. Ekuqondweni, abafundi bayaqonda ukuthi amakhono abo namakhono abo angathuthukiswa ngomzamo, ukufundisa okuhle nokuphikelela. Okuphambene nomqondo wokukhula kuyinto engqondweni. Izingane ezinengqondo ehleliwe zikholelwa ukuthi zinesibalo esithile sobuchopho nethalenta futhi akukho lutho olungashintsha lokho.
Ukucabanga kwengqondo kuhlotshaniswa ngabantu abadala ngokusebenzisa ulimi nokuziphatha esikufanekisela izingane. Ukuze ukhuthaze ukucabanga kwengqondo, khumbula ukucabanga kwakho kanye nemilayezo oyithumela kubantwana bakho ngamazwi nangezenzo zakho. Ukudumisa izingane ngokuba yi-smart kusikisela ukuthi ithalenta yangempela iyisizathu sokuphumelela, kanti ukugxila kule nqubo kubasiza ukubona ukuthi umzamo wabo uholela kanjani empumelelweni. Lapho abazali bekhuluma kahle ngokuwenza amaphutha, izingane ziqala ukucabanga ngamaphutha njengengxenye yemvelo yenqubo yokufunda.
Hlanganisa ndawonye
Uma ingane yakho ihlukumezeka, enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu umzali angayenza yimbangela ukuba angashiyi endaweni ephansi. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisa isipiliyoni njengendlela yokufundisa ukuqina kanye nethuba lokuphumelela.
Msize ahlaziye amasu futhi enze uhlelo lwezenzo azithathayo nokuthi uzoqhubeka kanjani, kodwa mvumele ukuba athathe ubunikazi isisombululo. Uhambo oluthile ngezinye izikhathi lunemizwelo engapheli, njengokudideka, ukukhungatheka noma ukukhathazeka ngokuphelele engqondweni yakho. Uma izingane ziqonda ukuthi ukufunda akufanele kube lula ngaso sonke isikhathi nokuthi ukuba nesimo esinzima ngekhono akusho ukuthi bayisiphukuphuku, lokhu kuwukuthi ukuqina nokukhuthazela kuyakhula.
Fundisa ukuthi ukuhluleka kulungile
Khuluma nezingane zakho njalo ngezihluleka zakho kanye nendlela oqhubeka ngayo noma izindlela ongase uqiniseke ngazo. Izingane zifunda kubantu abadala abazungezile, ngakho-ke uma ufuna izingane zakho ziphathe ukushiyeka ngomusa futhi imodeli ezolile nokuzimisela, udinga ukuzitholela lokhu.
Ukukhuluma nezingane zakho mayelana nokuhluleka kwakho kuzokusiza ukuba baqonde ukuthi kulungile ukuhluleka futhi bazobona ukuthi abantu bangaxazulula kanjani ukuxazulula nokubuyisela emuva. Khuluma ngezikhazamiso njengoba ziphakama. Siza ingane yakho ukwakha izinhlelo ezihlukile futhi ucabange ngezindlela ezahlukene zokubuka izimo. Babonise ukuthi ukuguquguquka nokukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga kuyinhlangano ewusizo futhi evuthiwe.
Xoxa ngomzamo nokungafezeki
Umgomo womsebenzi awuphelele futhi uma ungenelela njalo, ingane yakho izobona ukuthi awunamathemba emakhono abo. Zingxoxo ezingxoxweni zomndeni ngokuzama izinto ezintsha bese uvumela ilungu ngalinye lomndeni ukuthi likhulume ngezinto ezinzima kubo. Xoxa ngezinhloso zesikhathi eside nesikhathi esifushane nokuthi ufeze kanjani kokubili. Vumela amalungu omndeni ukuba ahlanganyele ngokukhululekile izinkinga zabo nokuthi bawadlula kanjani. Yabelana ngemizwa ngezinselelo futhi ujabule lapho amalungu omndeni ezama ukuphikelela ngemisebenzi enzima.
Yiba ngumzali weGritty
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba izingane zifunde ukuba "grittier" zivela ekubukeni abazali bazo. Ungatshela izingane izinto eziningi ozifunayo nokuthi uzifunele ukuthi zenze kanjani, kodwa isifundo sangempela sendlela osebenza ngayo. Bonisa izingane ukuthi uthatha imisebenzi ngezinye izikhathi ezesabekayo, nokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ulwabalale noma uhluleke bese uphinde ubuyekeze. Isibonelo sokuqinisela izingane zakho futhi ubonise ukuthi ukwehluleka akudingeki wesabe.
Phatha ukukhathazeka kwakho bese uyeka ukulawula izenzo zengane yakho; esikhundleni sokuqeqesha ngokwenza imisebenzi nabo, hhayi kubo. Qhubeka njalo ukhuthaze ingane yakho futhi ufundise ukuzikhuthaza. Izwi lakho labazali ekugcineni liba izwi ekhanda labo ngakho bahlanganyele enkulumweni enhle. Ukusola kuyodumaza ingane yakho ukuthi ingafuni ukuzama futhi.
Imicabango Yokugcina
Ukunika ingane yakho ithuba lokuhluleka nokubuyisela emuva yisinye sezipho ezinkulu kakhulu ongayinikeza njengomzali. Vumela izingane zakho ukuba zihlukane futhi zizizwe zingakhululekile. Vumela ukuba badlule imizwelo yokudumala nokudideka futhi babasize baqonde izinyathelo ezilandelayo zokwenza isimo sibe ngcono futhi siphumelele. Kungaphakathi kule nqubo yokufunda ukuthi bayoba nokukhuthazela, ukuqinisela, kanye neqiniso, okuzobenza baqondise impumelelo yekusasa labo.