Ukuqamba Amanga Okuzungeze Ubuhlobo Obunobuntshontsha
Nazi amaqiniso angu-11 mayelana nobuhlobo zonke izintombazane kufanele zikwazi ?. Iningi labantu abasha, ikakhulukazi amantombazane, bathengile emcabangweni we-BFF, noma umngane omkhulu kakhulu. Kodwa lo mbono wokuthola umngane omkhulu futhi umgcine kuze kube phakade ungaba yinkolelo engaphezu kweqiniso kwamantombazane amaningi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umqondo we-BFF uhlezi endaweni lapho bengalokothi balwe khona, basondelene kakhulu futhi bayajabula ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Futhi, ama-BFF amaningi, anomoya opholile.
Ngenxa yalokho, amantombazane amaningi awela ngaphansi kwengcindezi yokuthola i-BFF futhi awela esicupheni sokuzama ukuthandwa yibo bonke abantu nokujabulisa abanye. Akukhona kuphela lokhu okungahambi kahle, kodwa futhi kungavula umnyango wokucindezela kontanga nokucindezela kontanga . Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi amantombazane abaluleke kakhulu nabangane bawo okubandakanya ukuvuleka nokuthembeka mayelana nemizwa yabo yangempela banokuxhumana okusheshayo nabangani babo.
Noma kunjalo, kumantombazane amaningi, lapho impilo yabo yomphakathi ihamba kancane, bayayichaza njengenhlekelele esikhundleni salokho. Zizibeka icala futhi zivame ukuthula. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nendodakazi yakho mayelana nobungane bangempela. Mfundise ukuthi izindaba zobungane ziyiqiniso lokuphila. Mtshele ukuthi kungokwemvelo ukuthi umngane abe nesisindo esithile, ukuthi amantombazane ngezinye izikhathi angathanda umfana ofanayo futhi abangani akudingeki bavumelane ngakho konke.
Qinisekisa nokuthi naye angabona amantombazane ashoyo nabangane abaqhamukayo , nokuthi uyazi izici zobungane obuhle .
Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, wabelane ngamakhaza abandayo, amaqiniso anzima mayelana nobungane bangempela. Uma wenza kanjalo, khona-ke indodakazi yakho ayinakuzithengela uma izingxabano zenzeka. Futhi uzoba nokuzimisela ukufuna ukusekelwa nokuqhubeka.
Esikhundleni sokulindela ubungane obuphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, uzofunda ukujwayela ukuzivumelanisa lapho ubungane bakhe behlushwa emgwaqweni.
Nazi amaqiniso angama-11 anzima kodwa abalulekile mayelana nabangane ukuthi wonke umzali kufanele atshele amadodakazi abo. Ngokwenza kanjalo, mhlawumbe ungamkhulula isifo esibuhlungu ngokweqile emgwaqweni.
"Ubuhlobo obuphelele buyinganekwane."
Kuzoba nezikhathi zobungane bonke abantombazane lapho ecasuka khona into ethi umngane wakhe uthi noma uyakwenza. Ngomngane onempilo, angabelana ngemizwa yakhe yangempela ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuthi ubuhlobo buyophela. Eqinisweni, lezi zingxabano ngezinye izikhathi zenza ubungane buqine futhi busondele. Ukwengeza, kuzoba nezikhathi, lapho indodakazi yakho izodinga khona ukwamukela i-quirks encane mayelana nabangane bayo ukuthi bayayikhathaza futhi bayayihambisa. Akufanele azame ukulungisa noma ukushintsha abangane bakhe. Uma esamukela abangane bakhe ukuthi bangobani, futhi bamamukela ukuthi ungubani, ubungane buyoqina nakakhulu ekugcineni.
"Ngezinye izikhathi Uzoshiywa Ngaphandle Noma Ungavunyelwe."
Ukukhipha kungase kwenzeke ngoba othile uhlukumeza indodakazi yakho ngokuzama ukumxosha . Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, kuyiphutha elilula futhi othile ukhohliwe ukufaka indodakazi yakho. Ngezinye izikhathi, kuyindaba yesikhala futhi umuntu omemayo unqunyelwe ukuthi bangaki abantu abangabandakanya.
Into ebalulekile ukukhumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi kuyokwenzeka futhi ukuthi kuvamile ukuba uzizwe udabukile ngakho. Kodwa futhi akusho ukuthi ukuphila sekuphelile. Qiniseka ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyaqaphela ukuthi akudingeki ilinde izimemo zokwenza okuthile okujabulisayo. Kunalokho, mkhuthaze ukuba enze isikhathi esilandelayo esizayo.
"Ngezinye izikhathi Abangane Bashaya."
Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi "abangane abangcono kakhulu kuze kube phakade," akunakwenzeka. Kufana nokuthandana. Ngezinye izikhathi abangane bahlukana, futhi. Uma ubungane buphela, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuthi kukhona okuphukile. Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuba ingahlali kulokho okungenzeka, kodwa esikhundleni salokho kubheke njengethuba lokuvumela umngane omuhle olandelayo.
Qaphela ukuthi indodakazi yakho ingase idabuke yilokho okuhlangenwe nakho, kodwa umkhumbuze ukuthi inhliziyo yakhe iqinisile . Uzothola futhi umngane omusha futhi masinyane.
"Ukufuna Ukuchitha Isikhathi Sakho Nonke Kuyiqiniso."
Kuyinto evamile ukuba ubungane buqede futhi bugeleke futhi kulindeleke ukuthi into ehlukile ayinempilo. Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi kuzoba nezikhathi lapho umngane wakhe ematasa kakhulu ngemisebenzi kanye nezibopho zokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Noma, kungase kube nezikhathi lapho ematasa kakhulu. Noma yikuphi, kungalimaza ukungabi nesikhathi ndawonye, kodwa akuvamile ukuba umuntu. Ukwenza lokho ngokuvamile kwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyaqonda ukuthi ukunamathela kakhulu noma ukufuna izinto kungaxosha umngane wakho. Msize aqaphele ukuthi ukuphumula kumngane akuyona into embi. Esikhundleni salokho, kumvumela ukuba isikhala sakhe sibone abanye abangane angakwazi ukuxhumana nabo.
"Ngokufanayo, isoka lakho akufanele lisidle isikhathi sakho sonke."
Amantombazane amaningi enza iphutha lokuyeka abangane babo ngokushesha nje lapho umfana efika. Kodwa njengabangani bakhe, ubuhlobo bakhe bomshado buyaphilile uma engasichitha isikhathi sakhe nalowo muntu oyedwa. Kuyingozi kakhulu uma isoka lakhe lifuna sonke isikhathi sakhe. Ukuzikhohlisa nokulawula isimiso somntanakho kuyisibonakaliso sokuxwayisa sokuhlukumeza ukuthandana . Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu buhambisana nokuchitha isikhathi esithile nabangani kanye nesikhathi esithile nesoka lakhe. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi uyazi ukuthi angabheka kanjani isoka lokuhlukunyezwa nokuhlukumeza ngaphambi kokungena kakhulu.
"Wonke Amantombazane Uyazibuza Uma Ubuhlobo Bakhe BanjengokuVala Njengabanye Abantu."
Amantombazane avame ukuqhathanisa ubungane bawo nalokho abakufunda ezincwadini, bheka kumabhayisikobho noma ubukele kuthelevishini. Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi lezi zibonelo ziyiqiniso futhi hhayi izibonelo zangempela zokuphila. Futhi azifinyeleleki. Ngokufanayo, lokho akubonayo kumasayithi omphakathi, njenge-Instagram ne-Twitter, futhi akuzona izibonakaliso ezinhle zokuthi abanye abantu bangabani. Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi imithombo yezenhlalakahle ingumdanso ovelele wokuphila komuntu. Iningi labantu libeka izithombe kuphela ezibonisa izingxenye ezijabulisayo zokuphila kwazo. Okuthintwa yindodakazi yakho yizikhathi lapho lezi zifunda nabo nazo zihamba ekhaya zithukuthele. Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi akunangqondo ukuqhathanisa impilo yakhe nengxenye encane yokuphila komunye umuntu.
"Ngezinye izikhathi Uyoba Nabangane Abangafani Nabo Bonke."
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi akuphelelanga nje kuphela ukuba nabangani emibuthanweni ehlukene, kodwa futhi kusiza ukuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa . Ngokwesibonelo, indodakazi yakho ingaba nabangane abadlala imidlalo efanayo noma ithuluzi, abangane ababazi kusukela esikoleni samabanga aphansi nabangane ukuthi uyazi esontweni. Kodwa lokho angase angaqapheli ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi unabangane nabantu abahlukene, lokhu akusho ukuthi bayothandana. Mtshele ukuthi angaphoqeleli inkinga. Kungokwemvelo ukuchitha isikhathi ngezigaba ezahlukene zabangani. Kodwa kufanele futhi aqaphele noma ubani ohlukumezayo, ongahloniphi noma othanda umngane wakhe. Nakuba kuhle kumngani wakhe ukuba angahambisani nomunye umuntu, akuyona ilayisense yokuxhaphaza lowo muntu. Uma umngane wakho efakazela ukuhlukunyezwa phakathi kwabangane bakhe, qiniseka ukuthi uhlome amathuluzi okumelana nokuxhashazwa . Akufanele neze abe ummeli wokuhlukunyezwa phakathi kwabangane bakhe.
"Uyoba Nabangane Abangabani Ngempela Abangane Kubo Bonke."
Qinisekisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi kuzofika isikhathi kwezinye zobungane bayo lapho ebona ukuthi ubungane buyingxenye eyodwa. Lokhu kuqaphela kuyomlimaza, kodwa umkhumbuze ukuthi ukuhamba phambili kuvumela indawo, ubungane obuphilile. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uhambe kude namantombazane ashoyo nabangane abanobuthi . Isikhathi esiningi esichitha nabantu abangenampilo, umonakalo omkhulu uzomthatha. Ngokushesha lapho ebona ukuthi udinga ukuqhubekela phambili, kungaba ngcono kuye.
"Kuyoba Khona Abangane Abafuna Ukukulawula."
Qinisekisa ukuthi uqala ukufundisa indodakazi yakho ekuqaleni ukuthi ungabe usho kanjani futhi uphakamise lokho akukholelwayo. Uma eshaya esikoleni esiphakathi ubuholi bezenhlalakahle buyaqhubeka futhi buphume kulezi ziqephu futhi kusho ukuthi amantombazane avela. Uma indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi ingubani futhi ikhululekile esikhumbeni sayo, iyobe ikwazi ukubhekana nokucindezela okumele ivumelane nayo. Kodwa, kukhona amantombazane abengafuni ukuhlala futhi athandwe ukuthi azovumela abanye ukuba balawule kubo. Qinisekisa ukuthi uhlomisa indodakazi yakho ukuthi ibhekane nalokhu. Mkhumbuze ngemigqa yokuthandwa nokubaluleka kokuba yiqiniso kuye.
"Kufanele Uzame Ukugcina Ubuhlobo."
Amantombazane amancane avame ukungacabangi ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi bathelela imiyalezo futhi basebenzise imithombo yezokuxhumana, bangakwazi ukugcina ubungane bephila. Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyazi ukuthi ukuba abangane ku-Facebook, ukuthanda izithombe ku-Instagram nokwenza indaba ye- Snapchat akufanisi nobungane obuhle. Ubuhlobo obunempilo bukhula uma abantu bechitha isikhathi ndawonye, ubuso nobuso. Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuba ichithe isikhathi nabangani bayo. Vula ikhaya lakho futhi uvumele ukuba baqhube lapho noma bazimisele ukuthatha izitolo, kuma-movie, ngaphandle kwe-ayisikhilimu noma ukubuka indawo. Umgomo wukuthi indodakazi yakho ifunda ukuthi idinga ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani bakhe ukuze ithuthukise ubungane obuqinile.
"Ubuhlobo Bunzima Besebenza, Kodwa Bayizuzisa."
Khumbuza indodakazi yakho ukuthi abangane bayo bayomyeka. Bazokwenza amaphutha futhi bangamlimaza. Akekho ophelele. Kodwa ubungane obuhle bufanele umzamo awenzayo. Kuzodinga ukutshala imali ngesikhathi sakhe namandla akhe. Futhi kungase kuthole ukuhlukumeza kancane endleleni. Kodwa uma esebenza ngezimpikiswano, angathola ukuthi uyakwazi ukwakha okuthile okuqinile endleleni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzoba mnandi kakhulu phakathi.