Ukuqomisana nomuntu ohlukumezayo kungakulimaza ukuzethemba kwakho
Uma unjengoba iningi lentsha, ungase ungaboni ukuthi ukuxhashazwa okuvamile kwezingane ezisencane kuyini ngempela. Ungase ukholelwe ukuthi kwenzeka kuphela komunye umuntu esikoleni kude nendawo ohlala kuyo. Ungase ucabange ukuthi izintombi azikwazi ukuhlukunyezwa, ukuthi yibo kuphela abafana, noma ukuthi ukuxhashazwa ngokomzimba kuphela okubalulekayo. Okungokoqobo ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwentombazane kwentsha kwenzeka nakwezinye izindawo, ngisho nasesikoleni sakho.
Izibalo zithi amaphesenti angama-23 amantombazane asetsheni kanye namaphesenti angu-14 abafana baye babhekana nobudlova obuthandana nabo ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwabo kwe-18. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, umfundi oyedwa kwabafundi abayi-10 esikoleni esiphakeme uye wahlukunyezwa, washaywa noma wabuhlungu ngokomzimba isoka noma intombi. Izinkinga ukuthi kungenzeka kuwe noma umngane wakho.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuvimbeleni ukuhlukumeza ukuphola empilweni yakho ukuthi uyazi izixwayiso zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo. Uma omunye wakho obalulekile enza enye yalezi zinto, udinga ukucabanga ngokujulile ngokuphuma ebuhlotsheni.
Ukungahloniphi Wena
Uma umngane wakho osondelene naye ehlekisa ngawe futhi ekubiza ngamagama angenhlonipho, usebudlelwane nomuntu ohlukumezayo nomhlukumezi. Okunye ukuhlukunyezwa okungahloniphi ukuziphatha okumele kukhishwe kubandakanya:
- Ukukugxeka nokwehlisa imibono yakho
- Ukutshela ukuthi kufanele uzizwe kanjani kunokuba wamukele imizwa yakho yangempela
- Ukusola ukuthi unesihawu kakhulu noma umzwelo uma uzama ukuxoxa ngokuziphatha okubi
IzEnzo Eziphakeme Nezihloko
Iziqhwaga zikhuluma nabanye futhi zihlambalaza futhi zihlambalaza. Ungase uzwe ethi imibono yakho (nemibono yabanye) iyisiphukuphuku noma ayinangqondo.
Ngokuvamile, izihlukumezi nabahlukumezi bakhuluma ukuthi wena noma abanye baphansi ngendlela ethile. Kalula nje, lezi zenzo ziyingxenye yesu lokugcina amandla nokulawula phezu kwakho noma abanye.
Incike ekunciphiseni
Ukuziphatha okungaqiniseki kuyindlela engokwengqondo kanye / noma yokwenyama yokuzama nokugcina amandla nokulawula phezu kwakho. Umlingani wakho obuseduze angase:
- Yiba ngokomzimba ngokushukumisa ngezenzo ezifana nokushaya izindonga, ukuxhashaza izilwane zakho, noma ukuphonsa ifenisha nxazonke
- Bonisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ngezinsongo zokukuhlambalaza ngokuveza ulwazi oluyimfihlo
- Sebenzisa amagama akwenza uzizwe ungakufaneleki ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi awufanelanga ukwelashwa okungcono
Ungabi nozwela
Uzwela ukungabi nesizwe eminye imizwa yabantu kanye nekhwalithi abantu abahlukumeza ngokomzwelo abavame ukungena. Ababonisi imizwelo yangempela noma ukukhathazeka kwabanye abantu. Ngokwesibonelo, bangabonisa imizwa, kodwa abaqotho ngempela ngabo. Esikhundleni salokho, kubonakala sengathi bafaka isenzo sezinto ezamukelwa ezimweni ezinikeziwe. Futhi abanakho ukuzisola kwangempela nganoma yisiphi isenzo esingalungile.
Ukulwa Nomona Nesihawu
Ukuboniswa komhawu nomona kuyinto ifulegi elibomvu. Kubuye futhi kube yinto yezinto zokuqala ozozibona. Ungaphutheli umhawu ngothando.
Lokhu kuziphatha okungavikeleki kuholela ekulawuleni izimpikiswano futhi kubonisa ukwesaba koxhashazi lokulahlekelwa ubuhlobo. Uma umngane wakho osondelene naye enomhawu kakhulu, sekuyisikhathi sokuhambisa ngaphambi kokuba izinto ziqhubeke.
Yenza Izidingo ezingenangqondo
Iziqhwaga zivame ukungaqondakali nabanye, ikakhulukazi labo abacabanga ukuthi bancane kunabo, njengobunikazi noma abanye abasebenzi basevisi. Ekugcineni, umlingani wakho uzobeka izidingo ezingenangqondo kuwe, futhi. Isibonelo, umlingani wakho angase:
- Cela ukuthi uchitha isikhathi sakho ndawonye
- Zama ukulawula lokho okugqokayo
- Ukumangalela ngokungazinikele ebuhlotsheni uma ungahlangabezane nezidingo zakhe noma ulandele imithetho yakhe
I-Ostracizes ne-Isolates You
Ukuxhashazwa nokuhlukumeza kukhona konke okuphathelene nokulawula. Laba bashushisi banokulindela okuqinile futhi baxoshe noma ubani ongenzi ibanga.
Njengoba bephenduka ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho, bangase bazame ukulawula impilo yakho ngokuthi:
- Ukuthatha iselula yakho ukuhlola imibhalo yakho, ukubiza izingodo, nemilayezo ye-voicemail
- Ukugxeka abangani bakho namalungu omndeni wakho
- Ukukuphathisa ukuba usebenzise isikhathi sakho nabo kanye nokuthukuthelela abanye abangane bakho
Usebenzisa kabi abanye
Iziqhwaga nabahlukumezi ngokuvamile bahlazisa abantu phambi kwabanye. Umgomo wabo ukukwenza omunye umuntu azizwe encane futhi engasizi ngalutho ngenkathi esebenzisa amandla akhe esimweni. Uma isoka lakho noma intombi yakho ihlala ebizwa ngegama , sekuyisikhathi sokuphuma ebuhlotsheni.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Khumbula, ukuhlukunyezwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo aluyona ingxenye yobuhlobo obuhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlukunyezwa komlingani wakho nokuhlambalaza akusona iphutha lakho. Lezi ziphambeko ezingalungile zikhetha ukuthi umhlukumezi wenza futhi lowo muntu wedwa unesibopho sokuziphatha.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi isithandwa sakho singase sikuhlukumeze, sithole ukwesekwa kwangaphandle futhi ubuke izinketho zokuthi ungaqeda kanjani ubuhlobo. Khuluma nabazali bakho noma omunye omdala omethembayo futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokuqapha ngaphambi kokukubiza. Lesi yisikhathi esisodwa lapho ukuphulwa ngomyalezo wombhalo noma esidlangalaleni kulungile. Ukuhlukunyezwa kuvame ukukhula lapho ubuhlobo buzophela. Qinisekisa ukuthi uhlala uphephile uma wenza ukuphumula kokugcina.
> Imithombo:
> Amasevisi Okulawula Nokuvimbela Izifo. Ukudlwengula Intsha. UMnyango WezeMpilo waseMelika kanye Nezinsizakalo Zabantu. 2018.
> Amasevisi Okulawula Nokuvimbela Izifo. I-Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance-United States, 2015 . UMnyango WezeMpilo waseMelika kanye Nezinsizakalo Zabantu. 2016. https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/pdf/2015/ss6506_updated.pdf