Ukweba isimilo esingasungiswa
Ukweba ukuziphatha okuvame ukuphazamisa abazali, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ingakanani. Kuyaphazamisa lapho ingane yakho ithatha izinto ezingebonazo ngaphandle kwemvume. Kodwa ukweba kungenzeka yini kuholele ezinkingeni ezingathí sina zokuba izingane?
Ingabe Izingane Ezincane Ziyiqonda Ukuthi Ukubi Kuyiphutha?
Akunjalo ngempela. Eqinisweni, izingane eziningi ezincane zithatha izinto ngaphandle kokubuza ngoba zithuthuka, azikwazi ukuqonda imingcele ngokuthi yiziphi nokuthi zini abanye.
Kuze kube neminyaka emihlanu kuya kwemihlanu, ukuthatha okuthile okubamba isithakazelo somntanakho akufanele kuthathwe njengokuba. Ngokufundisa, izingane ngokuvamile zingaqala ukuqonda ukuthi ukweba akulungile phakathi nonyaka we- enkulisa ngebanga lokuqala. Kuleli qophelo, baqala ukuqaphela ukuthi abantu empeleni banezinto nokuthi ukuthatha izinto ngaphandle kwemvume akufanelekile.
Kungani Izingane Ziba?
Izingane zingase zibi ngenxa yezizathu eziningana. Kubalulekile ukucabangela izizathu eziningi ezikhona ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana kahle nokuziphatha. Isibonelo, uma ingane ingafundiswa ngumuntu omdala ukuthi ukweba "kubi," ukubhekana nokuziphatha ukweba kuyodinga indlela ehlukile kunalokho uma ingane ishayela ukuze inakekele umuntu omdala, noma esikhundleni sokuba indlela yokuvukela umuntu omdala.
- Ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziba ngenxa yokungabi naso, ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela engaba khona yezenzo zabo.
- Ngezinye izikhathi ukweba kuyindlela nje yokuziphatha okungalungile oklanyelwe ukuba umuntu omdala aqaphele.
- Ngeshwa, ngezinye izikhathi izingane ziye zabona ukweba ngabanye futhi zifanekisela lokho kuziphatha.
- Ezinye izingane azifundile kumuntu omdala onakekelayo ukuthi ukweba akulungile.
- Izingane ezihlukunyezwayo nokunganaki zingase zibe ngenxa yokuthi into eyebiwe ibanika umuzwa wenduduzo.
- Ezinye izingane ziba "ukukhahlela."
- Ezinye izingane ziba ukuze zivumelane neqembu lontanga elihlonipha ukuziphatha (ukucindezela kontanga.)
- Ezinye izingane ziba njengendlela yokuvukela igunya.
- Ezinye izingane ziba umqondo wokuzimela zibapha zona.
- Ezinye izingane, ikakhulukazi izingane ezindala, zingase zithe ukuthenga utshwala noma izidakamizwa.
Abazali Bangayitshela Kanjani Ukuphanga?
Abazali bangakwazi ukweba ngokufundisa ingane yabo ukuthi yiba yini nokuthi akulungile.
Uma ukuziphatha kwenzeka, uma kungenzeka, abazali kufanele babe nengane babuyele into eyebiwe bese bexolisa ngokuyithatha. Ukuba ingane ishintshe ngendlela ethile kumuntu ayebiwe kumsiza ukuthi aqonde ukuthi ukweba kunemiphumela. Akugcini nje ukuthi ingane yakho iguqule ingamsiza ukuthi aqaphe ukweba kwakhe, kodwa kuyithuba lokumfundisa ngozwela.
Abazali kufanele baphinde bachaze ukuthi ukweba akulungile futhi akuyona indlela efanele yokuziphatha. Ngaleso sikhathi, ungase ulingeke ukuba udlule ukweba, ikakhulukazi uma kukhona isizathu "esiqondakalayo," njengengane ekhanga umzalwane noma udade othole okunye okunye. Noma kunjalo, khumbula ukuthi awuqeqeshi nje ingane yakho ukuthi ingabe ukweba kepha ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ifunde ukuthi ukweba okungalungile kuyomsiza ukuba athuthukise umqondo wokuthembela kwabanye.
Ezimweni eziningi, lapho izingane zibanjelwa ukweba, ukungenelela okuqondile kumele kulungiswe inkinga. Kungadingeka ukukhumbuza izingane ezincane izikhathi eziningana ukuthi ukuthatha izinto kwabanye kungalungile futhi kuyalimala kwabanye.
Ukwengeza, abazali nabafundisi kumele babonise ukuziphatha okuqotho ukuze izingane zithole izibonelo ezinhle ekhaya nasezikoleni.
Ukukhuluma Nezingane Zakho - Ukuthula, Ukuqina, Nokuvuma Ukuziphatha Okuhle
Kubalulekile ukuzola lapho ukhuluma nezingane mayelana nokweba . Ukuthula nokuqina kuhlale kunconywa ngokukhuza noma imiphumela embi ngezingane ezincane.
Yamukela ukuziphatha okuqotho ezinganeni zakho futhi ubongeze ngezinqumo zabo ezinhle.
Lapho Ukweba Kuqhubeka
Ezimweni ezingavamile, ingane ingase iqhubeke ukweba naphezu kokulungiswa. Kulezo zimo, kungadingeka ukuthi abazali baqale ukwanda kwemiphumela yokweba. Isibonelo, ingane ingabuyisela into futhi mhlawumbe ilahlekelwe ilungelo elithile isikhathi. Uma ukuziphatha kuqhubekela phambili, imiphumela iba yinto ephawulekayo njengokubheka noma ukukhipha izinhlobo zokuzijabulisa. Izingane zingadingeka futhi zenze imisebenzi eyengeziwe njengendlela efanele. Ungase ucabange ngeminye imiphumela enengqondo engase isebenze kangcono ingane yakho ethile.
Uma inkinga iqhubeka, kungadingeka ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Umeluleki wesikole somntwana wakho noma isazi sengqondo sezingane esikoleni angase asize ngokululekwa nokuthuthukisa amasu okusiza.
Zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ingane yakho isela
Ukukhuluma nengane yakho kungasiza ukunikeza ukuqonda ukuthi kungani eba. Ukubuza imibuzo evulekile kungakhuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ikhulume. Hlala uzolile. Nakuba kulungile ukukhombisa ukuthi awujabuli ngokuziphatha, gwema ukuhlazisa ingane ngoba ufuna ukwabelana ngolwazi ngokukhululekile. Yisho ukuthi, "Ngitshele ukuthi kungani utshontshe imali. Uhlele ukwenzani ngemali?" Ingxoxo enjengale ingasiza ingane yakho ukuba ivule futhi ibonise ubunzima empilweni yakhe. Uma wazi ukuthi kungani ingane ibambe into, cishe uzokwazi ukumsiza akhethe izindlela ezithembekile zokuxazulula izinkinga zakhe kunokuba athathe ukweba. Zama ukusebenzisa isiqephu sokuba njengomzuzu onokufundiswa.
Imithombo:
I-American Academy of Child kanye Nezingane Zengqondo Zengqondo Yengane Enesibindi. Ukweba Ezinganeni Nezinsana. Kubuyekezwe i-12/2014. https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-Who-Steal-012.aspx