Izihluthulelo Zokukhulisa Intombazane Engenaye Baba Ekuphileni Kwakhe

Ukukhathazeka kwezintandane ezingenabantwana sekulokhu kunakekelwa yingxenye yabososayensi bezenhlalakahle kanye nochwepheshe bezingane eminyakeni yamuva. Kusukela kwisiqephu seThelevishini sika-2013 ku-Oprah Winfrey Network kuya ocwaningweni oluqhubekayo lwesayensi yezenhlalakahle, ochwepheshe baye babhala ngokucophelela izinselele ezingenakubalwa amadodakazi angenabantwana, nokuthi indlela abahlangene ngayo ngayo ihluke kanjani kumantombazane akhula nobaba empilweni yabo.

Cabanga ngeminye yemithelela empilweni yentombazane evela ekuntulekeni kukababa njengoba ekhula.

• Ukulwa nokuzethemba okuphansi nokuzizwa kungenakufaneleka
• Ukuntuleka kwezindinganiso empilweni yakhe njengoba zihlobene nabantu
• Ukulahlekelwa umuzwa wokulondeka
• Amazinga aphansi enhlalakahle
• Amazinga aphezulu okucindezeleka okuhlobene nentukuthelo
• Izinselele zemizwelo ebuhlotsheni obuseduze
• Umsebenzi wangaphambili wezocansi nokukhulelwa kwentsha
• Kungenzeka ukuthi bashade eminyakeni yabo yobusha
• Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuba nomntwana ongaphandle komshado
• Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuhlukaniswa ngesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubaba akekho esithombeni ngenxa yokufa, isehlukaniso, ukulahlwa noma ukuboshwa, izinselele zisashintsha. Futhi umama noma ugogo nomkhulu ngokuvamile ugcina ezama ukugcwalisa igebe empilweni yentombazane, ngezinga elihlukene lempumelelo.

Uma ungumzali wezintandane, kunezinye izindlela ezibalulekile ongayisebenzisa ukumsiza ukuba abhekane nokuntuleka kukababa futhi agweme ezinye zezimiphumela ezingalungile ezingahle zenzeke empilweni yakhe.

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Thola uBaba Ovumelanayo noxhunyiwe Buka kuMpilo Yakhe

Amantombazane kufanele abe nesibalo esihle futhi sesikhathi eside esisezingeni labo empilweni yabo, futhi uma lokho kungenzeki nobaba wabo ophilayo, kungase kudingeke kwenzeke nomunye umuntu omuhle. Ngezinye izikhathi umkhulu uyindlela enhle, noma kungenzeka kube ngumalumekazi. Qinisekisa ukuthi umlingisi wesilisa owukhethayo uyisibonelo, uyamthanda indodakazi yakho, futhi ubeka isibonelo esifanele kuye nakwawe.

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Yazi Izindlela Zokubhekana Nezimo Ezinhle Angase Asebenzise

Indodakazi yakho kungenzeka ukuthi isivele ikhiqize izindlela ezinhle zokubhekana nokuntuleka kobaba empilweni yakhe. Kufanele uvuze futhi ubone izindlela ezinhle zokubhekana nokubhekana nokukhuluma ngokukhululekile nawe, ngokuqaphela ukuthi amadoda amphatha kanjani namanye amantombazane, emi lapho ebhekene nomfana noma indoda engase ifune ukuyihlomula futhi ihlale ixhunywe nenethiwekhi enhle wabangane namalungu omndeni. Uma ubona izibonakaliso ezithile zokuxwayisa ukuthi kungenzeka azame ukunxusa abantu besilisa abangalungile noma abacindezelekile noma abadangele, bamsize basebenzise izindlela zakhe zokubhekana nokuqina nezinhlamvu zamagugu ukuze bagweme izinkinga ezengeziwe.

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Msize Athole Amamodeli Asemqoka EmaRoma

Ngaphandle kwamalungu omndeni, sisiza indodakazi yakho ithole izibonelo ezinhle kwezinye izingxenye zokuphila kwayo. Laba bantu abalungile bangaba obaba babangane bakhe, umqeqeshi weqembu lezemidlalo, uthisha, noma ilungu lefundisi bakho. Lapho ebona ukuthi abantu abalungile baziphathe kanjani nokuthi baxhumana kanjani nabanye abantu, angaqala ukucacisa izici zobuntu ezichaza abantu abalungile. Futhi ugweme ukuletha uhlangothi olude lwamadoda ekhaya, ikakhulukazi labo okungaba yingozi noma bamane nje abahluphekile abesilisa abayizibonelo zendodakazi yakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi amadoda osebenzisana nabo, futhi asebenzisana nendodakazi yakho, ayisibonelo futhi ahle.

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Thola "Village" efanele

Khumbula inkulumo ethi "kuthatha umzana ukukhulisa ingane." Umzali ongayedwa wezintandane kudingeka azungeze yena nomndeni wakhe babe neqembu labangane, amalungu omndeni nabanye abakhuthazayo nabasekelayo. Uma abangani bakho abangcono kakhulu abalingani bakho beqembu futhi ungabeki isibonelo esihle endodakazini yakho, ungase uthande ukucabangela ukuthi ukhetha kanjani abangane bakho nabantu abanethonya endodakazini yakho. Ukuxhuma nabangani abanomuntu omuhle njengobaba wengane yabo kungenzeka ukuthi bangahlali bekhululekile njalo, kepha lezo zixhumanisi zingasiza indodakazi yakho.

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Misa Umama Njengesigungu Sabazali Esifanele Ukuhlonishwa

Enye yezinto ubaba oyisibonelo akwenzayo ukukhombisa inhlonipho yabesifazane empilweni yakhe. Umama ongashadile ngezinye izikhathi uvame ukuvumela inhlonipho ithathe isihlalo emuva ukuba "abangane" nezingane zakhe. Ngokubonisa nokufuna inhlonipho ekubelethweni kwakhe, angakwazi ukukhokhela ngezindlela eziningi zokuntuleka kukababa okungase kufundise into efanayo.

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Yazi Abangani Bakho Bomalokazana Futhi Usize Ababone Njengoba Abayikho Ngempela

Njengoba amantombazane ekhula, athambekele ekuthonyeni kakhulu abangani bawo kunabazali bawo. Kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuba nabangane abakha ukuzihlonipha kwentombazane futhi babe namahlombe abesilisa abahle ekuphileni kwabo futhi babe nabangane abangalethi lezo zici etafuleni. Abangane abahle bangahle babeke imingcele enembile futhi enempilo, engasiza noma yiliphi intombazane eqenjini lifunde ukuthi akulona ilungile kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nalezi zinhlobo zemingcele nabafana empilweni yakhe.

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Msize Athole Amathuba Okuthuthukisa Ukuzethemba Kwakhe Nokuziqhenya

Esinye sezilahlekelo eziyinhloko ezingase zenzeke ngentombazane engenabantwana ziphathelene nokuzethemba kwakhe. Udinga umuzwa oqinile wokuziqhenya ukuze uphile futhi uphumelele ezweni lakhe, futhi engenakho ukuzethemba kungamholela ukuba afune ukuqinisekiswa kuzo zonke izindawo ezingalungile. Mngene emisebenzini evame ukwakha ukuzibaluleka. Izinto ezinjengezemidlalo, amaqembu esikoleni, amaqembu esonto, umculo, nomdanso kungaba imithombo enhle yokuzihlonipha intombazane.

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Dumisani isimo saKhe okungcono nokubukeka kwayo okuncane

Amantombazane ngaphandle kobaba angase ahlukane nokuziqhenya njengoba kuhlobene nokubukeka kwakhe. Amantombazane angenasithakazelo avame ukuzama ukukhokhela ngokugqoka ngokungathí sina, esebenzisa ukwakheka okuningi noma ecindezela ngesisindo sakhe nesithombe somzimba. Ngokugxila emakhakheni akhe nemisebenzi yakhe, abazali bangamsiza ukuba abone ukuthi ukhulu kakhulu kunokubukeka kwakhe. Mbeke ezimweni lapho angahle khona futhi angakwazi ukuthuthukisa ezinye zezici ezinhle ezizomsiza ukuba abe nesithombe esihle ngaphandle kokugxila ekubukeni kwakhe ngendlela efanele.

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Mlalele Lapho Efika

Ngokuvamile, amantombazane abangenabuthakathaka abhekana nezinkinga futhi angase athole athukuthele, aphumele noma adideke ngenxa yokungabi nobaba. Lalela ngokuzithandela lapho ehlanganyela imizwa yakhe nemicabango yakhe, futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyakubona njengomthombo ophephile wothando nokuhlakanipha. Gwema ukukhononda ngokuntuleka kwakhe kobaba, futhi umsize abone ukuthi ukukhulumisana okunempilo kungamsiza ukuthi athole indlela yakhe yokulahlekelwa.

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Thola Inethiwekhi Yakho Yokusekela

Okokugcina, umama wentombazane engenamzali udinga ukuziqinisa futhi abonise izinto azethemba ukuthi indodakazi yakhe izoyifaka. Xhuma nabanye abomama abakhulisa amadodakazi bodwa kodwa ngendlela enhle. Thatha amanye amakilasi, uhlanganyele emaqenjini abesifazane emphakathini wakho noma esontweni lakho, futhi ufunde ezinye izincwadi ezinhle mayelana nokubeletha. Khuluma nabangani abanokuhlakanipha okukhulisa abazali owethembayo. Njengoba uqinisa amakhono akho wokubeletha, ungaba umzali ongcono kubantwana bakho.

> Imithombo:

> "Amantombazane angenalwazi & rsquo": Indlela Ukukhula Ngaphandle Kokuthi Ubaba Uthinta Amazinga Omfazi Nokuzikhethela

> Iprojekti Yengane Yomntfwana.

> Jackson, uLM (2010). Uphi ubaba wami? Imiphumela yokungabi nantandane ekukhulumisaneni kwabafazi. (I-Master's Thesis, iSan Jose State University). I-SJSU Scholarworks.