Izinselelo Ziningi, Kodwa Imiklomelo Injalo
Abanye ogogo nomkhulu kukhona izicathulo ezigijima kakhulu kunezihlalo zokugwedla, imithombo yezokuxhumana engaphezu kwezokuphepha komphakathi. Njengoba isilinganiso sobudala sokuba ngu-grandparent singama-47 noma ama-48, kusobala ukuthi abantu abaningi baba unogogo nomkhulu ngaphambili, mhlawumbe ngisho nase-30s. Labazali nodadewabo abancane ngokungajwayelekile babhekene nezinselele eziningana. Ukuba umkhulu-nkulu esemncane kungabhubhisa konke okulindelwe ingxenye yesibili yokuphila.
Kungabuye kwandise injabulo futhi, ngokumangalisayo, gcina ugogo nomkhulu.
Izinyathelo Ekukhuleni Okuqala
Kungenzeka ukuba ugogo nomkhulu lapho ushada kakhulu nomuntu omdala onabantwana kusukela emshadweni wangaphambili. Ngokuyisisekelo, labo abazuze abazukulu ngale ndlela bangabazali-nokhokho, kodwa kwabaningi, umehluko uyisayensi. Zizibheka njengokhokho nogogo.
Indlela abazali abaningi abakhulu abancane abadalwa ngayo, kodwa lapho umzali owakhiqiza esemncane unomntwana owenza okufanayo. Yiqiniso, lokhu kwenzeka kaningi kangako, njengoba iminyaka yobudala yokubeletha kokuqala yenyuka yaba ngaphezu kuka-26 kwabesifazane baseMelika. Noma kunjalo, ukukhulelwa kwentsha kuyaqhubeka kwenzeke, kubalwa cishe ku-1 kwaba-7 bokuzalwa kokuqala.
Ukukhathazeka Ngabazali Abasha
Izikhathi eziningi, ugogo nomkhulu omncane-bakhathazeka kakhulu ngesimo sabazali abasebasha kunabo. Izibalo zokukhulelwa kwentsha ziyingozi kakhulu.
Isilinganiso sokushona kosana siphezulu kakhulu kunesilinganiso uma umama engumfana osemusha. Amantombazane amaningi asencane aqede isikole esiphakeme, futhi njengeqembu abanciphisa amathuba okuthola i-degree yasekolishi kunontanga yabo. Obaba abasebancane abahambelani kahle, kodwa iyiphi idatha ekhona ebonisa iphethini efanayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali basencane noma ngaphezulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bashadile noma bangashadile, izibalo zibonisa amathuba okuba nemiphumela encane yabazali abasha. Yiqiniso, ugogo nomkhulu bakhathazekile. Ukuhumusha ukukhathazeka okunjalo ngosizo olufanele kungaba yinto ekhohlisayo. Nikeza usizo olukhulu, futhi abazali abasha bangase bangavuthwa abadala. Nika kancane, futhi wonke umuntu emndenini omncane angasengozini. Ugogo nomkhulu bafuna okuhle abazukulu babo. Lapho befuna ukwenza lokho kwenzeke, kulula ngabo ukuba badlule imingcele.
Ekugcineni, imindeni kufanele ithole indlela yayo. Izindlela ezisebenzela umndeni owodwa kungenzeka zingasebenzi kwabanye. Sula ukukhulumisana kusiza, kodwa okusiza kakhulu kunogogo nomkhulu ukuvumela abazali ukuba benze ngendlela yabo ngangokunokwenzeka ngenkathi bekhona uma kudingeka.
Ukulungisa ku-Grandparenthood
Uma ukukhathazeka ngabazali abasha bengayigxili, inkhulu-ncane nogogo nomkhulu-babe nzima ukuzibona njengogogo nomkhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kukhishwa kungenxa yemidwebo yemidiya nogogo nomkhulu njengegrey-haired and curmudgeonly noma, nakakhulu nakakhulu, senile. Ngezinye izikhathi sikhumbula okhulu nomkhulu bethu, esingabakhumbula - ngokulungile noma ngokungalungile - njengabantu asebekhulile nabagulayo.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuphendula kungaphezu kwe-visceral kunokwengqondo: "Ngisemncane kakhulu ukuba ngingumkhulu omkhulu!"
Enye indlela abanye nogogo nomkhulu ababhekana nayo ngokukhetha igama lomkhulu lendabuko. Esikhundleni sikaGogo, abanye bakhetha i-GaGa noma i-G-Mom. Esikhundleni sikaMkhulu, abanye bakhetha uMkhulu noma uPopz. Ngezinye izikhathi, noma kunjalo, igama elibi alithathi, futhi ugogo nomkhulu omncane banamathele emakhokheni abakhohlisayo. Cishe ngaphandle kwalokho, bafunda ukwamukela noma yini abazukulu babo ababizayo.
Inkinga ehlukile yukuthi ukuba ngu-grandparent esemncane kungabeka isinyathelo esisodwa nontanga. Kungaba nzima ukuyeka ukuphuma nabangani, ngisho nangezinjabulo zokuzalwa komzukulu.
Futhi ngisho nabangane abangcono kakhulu bangase bakhathele ukuzwa mayelana nabazukulu lapho bengenalo eyabo.
Ukuba ugogo nomkhulu njalo kudinga ukulungiswa, kodwa kukhona ukulungiswa okulula kunalokho umuntu angase acabange. Futhi injabulo yokuhlangana nomzukulu ijwayele ukwenza zonke ezinye izimo zithinteke ngemuva.
Ukuba Umzali noGogo
Ogogo nomkhulu omncane bavame ukuba nezingane zisesekhaya. Bangase babe nezingane ezincane ekhaya. Ngenkathi imindeni yayinkulu, kwakungavamile ukuba izingane ezindala kakhulu zibe nezingane ngenkathi umama wabo esazala. Namuhla akuvamile, kodwa kusenzeka.
Ukuphazamiseka kokuba umzali kanye nogogo nomkhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa ukucindezeleka kwesikhathi. Kungaba nzima ukujabulela ngokugcwele umzukulu lapho unengane eyakho okwamanje idinga ukunakekelwa okuningi. Ngolunye uhlangothi, unina / umalume nomshana / umshana wakhe uzoba nabalingani abadlala kahle. Bangase bakwazi ngisho nokwabelana noma banikeze izingubo zokugqoka, imishini yezingane, namathoyizi.
Lapho izingane nabazukulu bekhula cishe ngasikhathi sinye, umbuzo wobuzwe ngezikhathi ezithile uvuselela ikhanda. Isimo esivame kakhulu ukuthi ingane imangalela umzali ngokuthanda umzukulu. Ngezinye izikhathi leli cala liyafaneleka. Emkhakheni wethu ogogo nomkhulu kulindeleke ukuba bachithe abazukulu. Kodwa akunakwenzeka uma umkhulu-nkulu osalokhu engumzali efaka umzukulu futhi ephethe umthamo phezu kwengane.
Lapho abantwana ekhaya bekhulile kunabantwana, izimpikiswano nezinkinga zesikhathi zisengenzeka. Ngokuvamile, noma kunjalo, izingane ziyakuthanda ukuba nonogogo nomalume futhi bangase babe ngabasizi bezobuchwepheshe lapho ogogo nomkhulu bebazali.
Ukucindezelwa Komsebenzi
Uhlobo olungafani lwezingxabano lungase luvele lapho okhulu nomkhulu omusha besengaphakathi phakathi komsebenzi. Izikhathi eziningi lokhu lapho izidingo zomsebenzi zikhulu kakhulu. Amahora amaningi nokucindezeleka komsebenzi osheshayo kungathatha umthamo wokukwazi ukuba ngumkhulu omkhulu.
Ugogo nomkhulu kufanele bathathe isikhathi sokuboshwa nomzukulu ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ngisho noma kusho ukuthatha izinsuku ezithile zokuphumula. Akukho okunye okufaka isikhathi sokuchitha isikhathi nomzukulu, ikakhulu uma umzukulu esemncane. Ukuxhumana njalo kungenye yezinto ezisekukhulumeni omkhulu nomkhulu. Ogogo nomkhulu ugogo kumele bavakashele uma kungenzeka futhi bahlale bexhumana nge-Skype noma i-Facetime uma bengakwazi ukuvakashela.
Ugogo nomkhulu onomsebenzi omatasa kungase kudingeke ukuba ugogo nomkhulu bahluke kancane. Esikhundleni sokwenza ubuciko obuhle, ukuhamba nokuhamba isikhathi eside, kungase kudingeke ukuthi bachithe isikhathi esifushane ekuphishekeleni okulula. Lokho kungenzeka empeleni kube okuhle. Ucwaningo oluthile lubonisa ukuthi imisebenzi elula efana nokudlala ngaphandle yiyo leyo izingane ezikhumbula kakhulu.
Kubudlelwane obukhulu bomzukulu nabazukulu, ukuhlala ndawonye kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho kufika umhlalaphansi umhlalaphansi, ugogo nomkhulu bayoba nesisekelo esinempilo sokuba nobuhlobo obuningi obunesikhathi.
Izinzuzo Zokuba Umkhulu Omncane
Ngesikhathi ogogo nomkhulu omncane bebhekana nezithiyo, ubusha babo bubahlinzekela ngokungapheli. Bangakwazi ukuwela kalula phansi ukuze badlale nabazukulu, bese bevuka kalula. Akunamathuba amaningi okudinga ukulala naphakathi kokuvakasha kwabazukulu. Njengoba abazukulu bekhula, kungenzeka ukuthi bahambisane nezithakazelo zabo kunomkhulu omkhulu oneminyaka engu-60 plus.
Yiqiniso, unogogo nogogo abaningi bayakwazi ukuhlala behlelekile futhi beqhamuka eminyakeni yabo emdala, futhi abaningi banakekele ukubandakanya ugogo nomkhulu naphezu kokuhamba kancane. Noma kunjalo, omkhulu nogogo abaningi basencane bajabulela amandla, amandla, kanye nokuqina ukuthi omkhulu nogogo omdala bangaba nomona kuphela.
Ngokuqinisekile abazukulu bawuhlobo olungcono lokuguga okwamanje. Bashukumisela ugogo nomkhulu ukuthi baqhubeke behamba, befunda futhi bedlala. Futhi lokho kusebenza ukuthi noma ogogo nomkhulu basencane noma bakudala, bafanele noma bafunde.