Ungavumeli Ukuzithoba Kuvimbele Ukuphulukiswa Kwakho
Ukuziphendulela kungenye yezenzo ezivamile cishe bonke abesifazane abahlangabezana nakho ngemuva kokukhulelwa kwesisu . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukulahlekelwa kwakho kwasekuqaleni kwakungeke ukwazi ukuthi ukhulelwe noma ngabe usuzinsuku ezivela ngosuku lwakho olufanele, kunzima ukungazibuza ukuthi wenze noma yini engalungile nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuze uyivimbele. Iqiniso elikhuni ukuthi cishe kwakungekho into ongayenza.
Ezimweni eziningi, kwakungenalutho umuntu owayengakwenza ukuze avimbele ukukhulelwa kwakho.
Izindlela Zokubhekana Nesizathu Sokuziphendulela Ngemva Kokuthatha Umshado
Ukuqaphela ukuthi cishe awunamandla okuvimbela ukukhulelwa kwesisu noma ukubeletha kuyisinyathelo esinzima kodwa esibalulekile ekuqedeni icala lakho. Ngeke ukwazi ukuqeda ngokuphelele imizwa yokuzibuza ethi "kuthiwani uma ..." futhi "uma mina kuphela ..." Kodwa ungase ukwazi ukuveza ukuthambekela kwakho kokuzibamba kwaba yinto enhle.
Ayikho indlela elula yokukhipha imizwa enecala noma ukuyeka ukuzitshisa, kodwa kunezindlela ezithile ongayenza ukuze unciphise leyo mizwa.
Qonda ukuzithoba
Ezingqondweni, inkohlakalo ibhekwa njengomzwelo ovela ekwenzeni noma ekukholweni ukuthi senze okuthile okungalungile uma sithola ithuba lokwenza okulungile. Endabeni yokukhulelwa kwesisu, inecala cishe liphumela emicabangweni yokungabi namandla. Sifisa ukuthi kukhona isixwayiso kulokho okwakuzokwenzeka, enye ithuba lokungenelela.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuthi abantu babone into engenakugwenywa, ikakhulukazi ngomuthi wanamuhla onawo. Ngenxa yalokho, sivame ukubheka noma yini esingayenza ngokuhlukile, futhi sizizwe sinecala lokuthi asikwenzi. Ngisho nokwazi ukuthi kwakungekho lutho wena noma udokotela wakho okwakungakwenza ukuze ushintshe umphumela kungase kungabikho ukuqeda umuzwa wokuthi kufanele wenze okuningi.
Yenza ushintsho
Uma unenkinga yokuthi ukukhetha kwakho kokuphila kungenzeka kube nomthelela ekulahlekelweni kwakho, unethuba, kanye namandla okwenza izinguquko empilweni yakho. Uma usuvele unqume ukuba nezingane eziningi, lokhu kuyithuba elihle lokuzikhethela impilo enhle. Yeka ukubhema, ususe utshwala, sebenzisa izindlela zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka, thola ukwelashwa okuvamile futhi ulandele imiyalelo kadokotela wakho, ikakhulukazi uma unesifo esingelapheki sokucindezeleka kwegazi noma isifo sikashukela .
Yazisa Imizwa Yakho
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unomthelela ekukhutheni kwakho ukukhulelwa noma cha, ungakwazi ukubona ukuthi uzizwa uqobo. Ukubona imizwa yakho njengemizwa - futhi hhayi uphawu lwephutha lakho langempela - kungaba yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuvumela ukuhamba kwemizwelo engathandeki. Mhlawumbe kungasiza uma ubonisa ukuzisola kwengane yakho. Ingxoxo yangasese, egxile, ekhulume ngokuzwakalayo noma ngokwakho, noma incwadi yokuxolisa ebhekiswe kumntanakho ingasiza ekunciphiseni imizwa yakho.
Cela Ukuthethelelwa
Kungenzeka ukuthi akukho muntu osola ngokukhulelwa kwakho kokukhulelwa. Lokho akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukuveza imizwa yakho yecala komunye umuntu empilweni yakho bese ucela intethelelo. Ungase umangazwe ukuthi uzizwa ukhululekile kanjani uma utshela oshade naye noma umlingani wakho ukuthi uzilalele futhi ufuna ukuthethelelwa.
Uma unenkolo, khuluma nomholi wakho wenkolo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukholo lwakho luvuma noma cha, umholi wakho wenkolo uzokwamukela kakhulu imicabango yakho futhi akusize ufuna ukuthethelelwa.
Siza omunye umuntu
Sekuphuzile kakhulu ukushintsha umphumela wakho wokukhulelwa, kodwa ukusebenza ukuze usize abanye ukuba babe nosizi olufanayo kungasiza ekunciphiseni imizwa yecala. Nikela enhlanganweni yokucwaninga enikezelwe ekunciphiseni ukukhulelwa kwesisu. Volunteer ukukhuluma mayelana nakho kwakho eqenjini lokusekela. Yisebenza esibhedlela sokunakekelwa okunamandla esibhedlela. Usizo emtholampilo osencane ongenayo, ngakho-ke abesifazane abaningi bangathola ukunakekelwa kokubeletha abadinga ukukhulelwa okuphephile.
Okunye Resources Resources
- Okwenza kungabikho izihlukumezi zokuqala ezintathu
- Izizathu Zokuthutha Ngokuphindaphindiwe
- Izinkinga zokuzalwa
- Ingabe Ukubhema Kungabangela Ukukhipha Isisu?
- Izindlela Zokuphila Zokukhulisa Ingozi Yokuqothulwa Nokushada Nesisu
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