Iziphambeko Ezinkulu Kakhulu Eziyisiyalo Zabazali Abazenzayo

Funda ukuthi ungagwema kanjani lezi zihlungi zokubeletha

Ayikho into enjengomzali ophelele. Wonke umuntu wenza amaphutha ngezinye izikhathi futhi iphutha ngalinye owenzayo lingaba ithuba lokufunda kokubili wena nomntanakho.

Ukubeletha ngokuvamile kudinga kancane ukulingwa nephutha. Eqinisweni, intuthuko yengane yakho ngeke ihlale iqondile ngakho ngenkathi ungase ucabange ukuthi uthola isibambiso ngezinkinga zokuziphatha ngelinye ilanga, ungase uzizwe unqotshwa ngokulandelayo okulandelayo.

Ukugwema ezinye zeziphambeko ezivamile kakhulu kungenza ngcono ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kanye nhlobo.

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Ukukhokha Ukuziphatha Okubi

Ukuhamba, ukuklabalaza nokuziphatha okubuhlungu kungaba nzima ukuzinaki. Kodwa ukuhambela ukukhathalela ukukhathalela kugcizelela ukukhetha kwengane yakho.

Izingane zidinga ukunakekelwa okuhle kokuziphatha okuhle. Kodwa ukuziphatha okuhle-njengokudlala ngokuthula, ukuhlala phansi, nokushintshana-ngokuvamile kungabonakali. Ngakho ngomzamo wokuthola ukunakwa okwengeziwe, ingane yakho ingase iphumelele.

Noma yiluphi uhlobo lokunakekelwa, okufaka phakathi ukunakekelwa okubi, lunikeza izingane ukuqiniswa kahle . Ngakho-ke cabangela ukunganaki ukuziphatha okungalungile okuhloswe ukuba ubambelele.

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Ukunikeza Ukwenza Ukuziphatha Okubi Misa

Enye iphutha elikhulu lokubeletha ligxile esikhathini esifushane kuphela. Nakuba ukuzinikela lapho ingane yakho ithukuthele, kungenza kube lula namuhla, kuzokwenza izinkinga zokuziphatha zibi nakakhulu esikhathini eside.

Ukunikeza ekufundiseni izingane ukuziphatha kwabo okubi kuyasebenza. Ingane efunda ukuthi ukugcoba imthola lokho akufunayo, kungenzeka ukuthi ihlukane nobudlelwane bontanga nezibalo zegunya njengoba ekhula.

Futhi ingane efunda ukuthi intukuthelo iyindlela enhle yokuphatha abanye abantu kungase kube nzima ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle.

Umntanakho uzodinga amakhono athile ukuze abe umuntu omdala onempilo, onomthwalo wemfanelo . Ngakho-ke, amasu okuqeqesha kakhulu ahlose ukufundisa izingane lezi zakhono.

Izingane kudingeka zifunde ukuthi kunemiphumela emibi yokuziphatha kwabo. Namathela ekukhawuleni futhi unikeze ngamasu okuziphatha okulungile, okungahambisani, okugunyazayo , ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ifunda amakhono ayoyodinga.

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Ukungenzi Imithetho Ecacile

Uma kungekho imithetho ecacile, ingane yakho ingase izwe udidekile mayelana nokulindela kwakho. Mhlawumbe wena nomlingani wakho ninemithetho ehlukene, noma mhlawumbe uhumusha imithetho ehlukile.

Noma mhlawumbe, kunzima ukuhambisana nemithetho. Kungase kube nezinsuku ozizwa ukhathele kakhulu ukuthi ungasho lutho uma ingane yakho iqhuma ifenisha.

Noma ukuzimisela kwakho ukuphoqelela imithetho kungashintsha kuye ngokuthi hlobo luni lomzwelo ongaphakathi. Okucabange ukuthi kwakungamanga izolo kungakusiza ukuba uthukuthele kakhulu namuhla.

Hlela uhlu olubhalwe phansi lwemithetho yasendlini . Ukwenza kanjalo kunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwengane ngaphezu kokulindelekile. Uma izingane zicacile ukuthi imingcele nemiphumela ingakanani, bangakwazi ukwenza ukukhetha okungcono.

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Ukungabi Nesiyalo Sokuyala

Ngaphandle kohlelo olucacile, ukuziphatha okubi kungakhokhela indlela yokuqedela ukushayisana. Ngenxa yokuphelelwa yisikhathi, umzali angase ahlasele ingane ngelinye ilanga futhi asebenzise isikhathi esithile.

Imiphumela engavumelaniyo ididliza izingane futhi ngokuvamile ayikho ekushintsheni kokuziphatha.

Uma kuziwa ekulawuleni izinkinga zokuziphatha kungcono ukuba usebenze, kunokuba usebenze kahle. Yakha uhlelo lokuziphatha olunzulu ukuze wazi ukuthi ungaphendula kanjani lapho ingane yakho iphula imithetho.

Lapho uxazulula izinkinga ngecebo elicacile, kulula kakhulu ukulandelela inqubekelaphambili yengane yakho nokutshela ukuthi amasu akho okuziphatha asebenza kahle yini.

Uma ingane yakho ibhekana nezinkinga ezithile zokuziphatha-njengokuhlukumezeka noma ukuqamba amanga-sebenze nabanye abanakekeli ukuqinisekisa ukuthi wonke umuntu uphendula ngendlela efanayo. Lapho bonke abantu abadala bengasebenzisa ulimi olufanayo kanye nemiphumela efanayo, izinkinga zokuziphatha cishe zizoxazulula ngokushesha.

> Imithombo

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> Liggett-Creel K, Barth RP, Mayden B, Pitts BE. Uhlelo lwe-Parent University: Izinto ezibikezela ushintsho ekuziphatheni komzali okuphendulayo. Ukubuyekezwa Kwezinsizakalo Zezingane Nezintsha . 2017; 81: 10-20.