I-ex yakho ingase ikutshele ukuthi ingathanda ukuthi uhlangane nomlamuleli wengane yengane futhi ungase ukwazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze.
Okokuqala, kusiza ukuba nokuqonda okucacile ukuthi yikuphi ukukhulumisana nokuthi yini engakwenzela yona. Ukubambisana kubhekisela enkambweni yokuxazulula izingxabano zomthetho ngosizo lomlamuleli oqeqeshiwe osebenza njengomuntu ongathathi hlangothi futhi ekhuthaza ingxoxo.
Abaxhumanisi bomthetho womndeni, ikakhulukazi, basiza abazali ukuba basebenzise amalungiselelo okugcina abantwana, isikhathi sokubeletha nokuvakashelwa, ukusekelwa kwabantwana, nokuningi. Izinzuzo zokusebenza nengane yomgadi wezingane zibandakanya ukuzimisela okukhulu-kubazali bobabili-ukulandela ilungiselelo elivunyelweneyo futhi ngisho nokulondoloza imali (uma kuqhathaniswa nempi ephikisana nenkantolo).
Cabanga ngesicelo
Qala ngokucabangela ukuthi ngabe ufisa ukuzama ukuxoxisana ne-ex yakho. Ngaphandle kokuthi ucele ijaji ukuba uhlanganyele esimisweni sokuxoxisana, ukhululekile ukunquma ukuthi ufuna ukuhlanganyela noma cha. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukuxoxisana kungakusiza wena kanye nomsebenzi wakho wokusebenza ndawonye ukuze ufike esivumelwaneni, khona-ke ungase ufune ukuyizama.
Phendula ekubhaliseni
Uma usuwenze isinqumo mayelana nokuthi uzama ukuphikisana, kufanele usazise okwedlule ngalesi sinqumo ngokubhala. Ngale ndlela, uma uzimisele ukuxoxisana futhi ekugcineni uphele enkantolo, ungabonisa ijaji ukuthi uzimisele ukusebenzisana lapho u-ex wakho ekucela ukuba unikeze ukuhanjiswa.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma unqabela ukuxoxisana, chaza ukucabanga kwakho empeleni yakho. Uma nje unezizathu ezizwakalayo zokunciphisa ukuxoxisana, ngeke ubonakale ungabambisani lapho kwenzeka khona ekugcineni enkantolo.
Amanye amazwe avumela abazali ukuba balethe isicelo sabo sokuqala sokuxazululwa ngokusebenzisa izinkantolo.
Uma kunjalo lapho uhlala khona, kuzodingeka uxhumane nenkantolo ukuze uphendule ngesicelo ngokuqondile.
Yazi i-Ramifications yokwenqaba ukuhlanganyela
Uma kwenzeka ijaji likuyala ukuthi ubambe iqhaza ekukhulumeni, kufanele uhlanganyele ngesikhathi esisodwa-okungenani-futhi ubonise ukuzimisela ukwenza umsebenzi wokuxoxisana. Ukwehluleka ukwenza lokhu kungabangela ijaji ukuthi likugxeke. Ukwengeza, ukwenqaba ukubamba iqhaza ekwenzeni ukuhanjelwa kwenkantolo kungase kwenze ukuthi ijaji elinikezwe icala lenu lithukuthele, elingase lisebenze ngokumelene nawe kalula.
Kodwa-ke, uma ungazange ulandelwe yinkantolo ukuthi uzame ukuxazulula, khona-ke akukhona neze izimiso zomthetho ezicacile ukwenqaba ukubamba iqhaza. Uma omunye umzali kamuva ekuyisa enkantolo, angase azame ukuveza ukwenqaba kwakho ukuxoxisana nejaji. Kodwa-ke, ukukhulumisana kuyinto okufanele bobabili abazali bavumelane nayo; umzali oyedwa akanakuphoqelela omunye ukuba ahlanganyele ekukhulumeni.
Yazi Yini Ongayilindela Kusukela Ephakathi
Izikhathi zokubambisana ngokuvamile zigcina amahora amabili kuya kwangu-3. Isikhathi ngokuvamile siqala ngomlamuleli ekwenzeni izethulo futhi echaza indima yakhe. Uzobe esekucela wena kanye no-ex wakho ukuba uzethule kafushane, unikeze uhlangothi lwakho endabeni, futhi unikeze incazelo emfushane yokuthi kungani ufuna ukuxoxisana.
Ungacelwa futhi ukuba wenze uhlu lwezindaba ezibalulekile okudingeka zibhekiswe kuzo. Kuleli phuzu, umlamuleli uzosiza izingxoxo ngalezi zinkinga futhi azame ukukusiza ukuba ufinyelele isivumelwano. Okokugcina, uma wena kanye nomuntu wakho ongakwazi ukufinyelela isivumelwano nganoma yiziphi izinkinga ozama ukuzenza, futhi ufisa ukwakha isivumelwano esibhaliwe esibhalisiwe, umlamuleli uzosiza ukwenza lokhu.