Ukuxhashazwa Kwangathi Kungabika Ngezizathu Eziningi
Abaningi besithathu kwabahlukunyezwayo abahlukumezeli muntu ukuthi bakhulume ngabantu abadala mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa kwabo noma baxoxisane ngeminyaka emva kokuba sekuphelile. Nazi izizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi kungani izingane zingafuni ukubika ukuxhaphazwa.
Ukwesaba Ukuthi Ukuhlukunyezwa Kuzolimala Kuholela Abantwana Ukuba Bangabika Ukuhlukunyezwa
Izingane eziningi ziyesaba ukuthi lo muntu ohlukumezayo uzoqhubeka ecasuka uma ezwa izikhulu zezikole, ngokusho kwengxoxo nezingane ezihlukumezekile.
Izisulu zikholelwa ukuthi uma zibika ukuxhashazwa, umhlukumezi uyoziphindiselela futhi azihlukumeze nakakhulu. Ngenxa yalokho, izingane zigcina ukuxhashazwa kube yimfihlo noma utshele umuntu omdala ngesicelo sokuthi akukho lutho olwenziwe mayelana nesimo. Akucacile, noma kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuziphindisela kwenzeka ngempela emva kokuhlukunyezwa kubikiwe.
Izingane Angenakuhle Ukubika Ukuhlukumezeka Uma Zicabanga Ngokweqhwa Umngane
Umbono ophikisanayo we-bully wesikole ungowomashiqela omkhulu owela ngaphakathi bese eba ukudla kwasemini kumngane wakhe ongakhulumi nakwezinye izindlela. Eqinisweni, ukuxhashazwa kubonakala sengathi kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi kwenzeka kaningi phakathi kwabangane. Lokhu kungase kube yinkinga yamantombazane, okukhona phakathi kwabo ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane okuvamile. Uma isisulu sibheka ukuxhaphazwa kwabo njengomngane, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi isisulu kufanele sitshele ngokuhlukunyezwa. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba isisulu sithemba ukulondoloza ubungane, naphezu kwezici zayo ezihlukumezayo.
Izingane Azikwazi Ukubika Ukuhlukumezeka Ngoba Zizizwa Zizibophezele Ukuhlukunyezwa
Izingane ezixhashazwayo zivame ukuzizwa sengathi "zifanelwe" ukuhlukunyezwa. Ngakho-ke, izisulu zokuxhashazwa ngokuvamile zizwa zinamahloni futhi zecala ezungeze ukuxhashazwa. Ngenxa yalokho, izisulu zingathula futhi zikhethe ukungabi nokuxhaphaza.
Izingane Azikwazi Ukubika Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngoba Zizizwa Zingenamandla
Ukuxhashazwa ngokuyinhloko ngamandla. Ukuhlukumezeka - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukukhuluma, ukuhlala komphakathi noma ngokomzimba - kubeka ekwenzeni umuntu oyedwa abe nomuzwa onamandla kunomunye. Ngakho-ke, izisulu zokuxhashazwa zivame ukuzibona zingenamandla, ikakhulukazi maqondana nomhlukumezi. Lo mbono ushukumisa umuzwa wokuthi ukubika ukuxhashazwa kuyoba yize.
Inkolelo yokuthi Ukutshela Ngeke Yenze Umehluko Kubangelwa Abantwana Ukuba Bangabika Ukuhlukunyezwa
Izisulu zokuxhashazwa zivame ukutshela ukuthi ukutshela umuntu kungaba "okungenasetshenziswa". Lokhu kubonakala sengathi kwenzeka ikakhulu ezikoleni noma emakilasini lapho imibiko yokuxhashazwa iholela ekungeneni okuncane noma okungenakusebenza. Izingane ezindala zithola, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi bakholwe ukuthi abantu abadala bangasiza ekuhlukunyezweni. Lokhu kungenzeka ngoba babone imibiko yokuxhashazwa ngokuxoshwa othisha, abaphathi , kanye / noma abazali ngokuphindaphinda kwesikhathi.
Umthombo:
UMishna, Faye, no-Alaggia, uRamona. Ukulinganisa izingozi: Isinqumo sezingane sokudalula ukuhlukunyezwa kontanga. 2005. Izingane Nezikole. 27.4: 217-226.