Ukuthenga ukudla nezingane zakho ngokuvamile kungenza uzizwe sengathi ugijima umncintiswano. Manje cabanga ngokuqondile ukushaya imigwaqo yokuhamba ngezimoto ezimbili no-2 wakho oneminyaka engu-2 ku-tow. Kungenziwa, futhi ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi isenzo esicacile sokuba ngaphandle kwengane yakho kungaholela emindenini egxilile futhi egxilile kakhulu.
"Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu baqala izingane ngaphandle kwephuzile kakhulu," kusho uShanti Hodges, umsunguli nomnikazi weHike Baby, iqembu elizwe, elingelona inzuzo elisePortland, e-Oregon, elinikeza umphakathi ongu-virtual nomuntu siqu izinkulungwane zabazali efuna ukufunda ukuphuma ngaphandle nezingane zabo.
"Imvula, ilanga, izimbungulu, ama-tics, abantu abangaziwa emgwaqeni. Zonke izinkathazo onayo nosana bese uqhubeka nomzila, yilokho esizama ukukwenza."
Kodwa nini isikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuletha ingane yakho encane ukuhamba? Ngokusho kukaHodges, cishe amasonto amane-yisikhathi sokuqala ukufakaza ukwazisa ngemvelo. Ngenxa yokuthi uhambisiwe "ngebanga lesine ingane yakho ingase ibe ngumlutha wegeyimu yevidiyo."
Ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi ukukhipha ingane yakho endlini ukuze usebenze ngokomzimba-ikakhulukazi kule minyaka yobuchwepheshe-kubalulekile. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukukhushulwa kwezinga eliphezulu kusukela kwesikrini isikhathi esingangqubuzana ngokuba ngaphandle futhi kungcolile.
"Kuthiwa ukuthi ngokwemvelo kusiza izingane nezingane ukuba ziphuluke ekukhathaleni kwengqondo," kusho u-Andrea Faber Taylor, umcwaningi we-Landscape ne-Human Health Laboratory ese-University of Illinois, e-Urbana-Champaign.
"Ukuhlala ezindaweni eziluhlaza noma imvelo kubonakala kuxhasa kokubili izingane kanye nabantu abadala ukukwazi ukunakekelwa kwabo, nokulawula ukuziphatha okucindezelayo nokucindezeleka."
I-Hike It Baby, eyaqala ngo-2003, ikhulile imindeni engaphezu kuka-120 000 emadolobheni angu-260. Amavolontiya angaba ngu-500 asiza ukuhlela, ukuhlela kanye nokuhambela iminyango emadolobheni abo, okukhulunywa kakhulu ngezindaba zomphakathi kanye nomlomo.
U-Hodges, owayenemvelaphi kumawebhusayithi wezokuxhumana nokwakha, uthe umgomo wakhe ukusiza imindeni ivikele ngaphandle. Uphinde ethemba ukubona ukuthi idatha eqoqwe isetshenziselwa ukwandisa ukuqwashisa ngamapaki angaphansi nolwazi oluthile oluthile oluthola ukuxhaswa ngemali yamapaki.
Abesifazane-namanye amadoda-abamba iqhaza nezingane zabo athi bajoyina ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Abanye balwa nokucindezeleka kokuthunyelwa kwe-postpartum; abanye bavele behlukunyezwa nokuphathwa kokungena ngaphandle nengane yakhe, ingane encane noma isenkulisa.
"Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu bafuna umphakathi, ngisho noma bebengakaze bahambe," kusho u-Elizabeth Cruz-Stoughton, umholi weTucson Hike It Baby, echaza ukuthi kungani iqembu lendawo likhule ngokushesha kangaka ngonyaka njengoba lakhiwa. "(Hike It Baby) inikezwa ngendlela engesabisayo."
U-Cruz-Stoughton ufunde ngeqembu ngemuva nje kokuba enendodana yakhe ekuqaleni kuka-2015. Sekuvele engumgibeli nomkhumbi, wayazi ukuthi lokhu kuyoba kuhle kumndeni wakhe.
"Lokhu kuyinto engcono kunazo zonke engenzeka kimi noma kithi," kusho u-Cruz-Stoughton, enezela ukuthi yena nomyeni wakhe babhekene nobunzima bokuthola ulwazi lwabo olusha ngemuva kokuzalwa komntwana. "Ngingu-psychotherapist ngakho-ke ngikholelwa ekutheni abantu bangaphandle, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kokuba nomntwana," kusho uCroz-Stoughton.
"Ngiyazi ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuphuma, futhi ngiyazi ukuthi kuhle kangakanani."
Ufuna ukushaya isitimela nengane yakho noma ingane encane ku-tow? Sebenzisa lawa macebiso kusuka ku-Shanti ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ukuhamba kwakho kwezemidlalo kuyinto enhle:
- Yehlisa ukulindela kwakho. Ibanga owake wahamba njengomuntu ongewona umzali ngeke libe ibanga oya kulo manje ukuze nje uphumule futhi ujabulele indawo.
- Ukunyathelisa kuyisihluthulelo. Letha okuningi ukudla okulula . Ziyinto eqinisekile uma ingane yakho idinga i-coaxing encane ukuze ijabulele ukunyuka.
- Khuphuka nemidlalo. Dlala ukufihla futhi ufune endleleni ukuze ucindezele ingane ukuba uqhubeke uhamba uma uphume endleleni. Phuma, "Ngiyacasha," futhi ngidada ngemuva kwesihlahla kuze kube sekugcineni.
- Bubbles kanye nokubusa okunamatheksthi. Misa ingane encane kusukela ekuqaliseni kuya ekulileni ngokulila ngokuhambisa izinkomba emgwaqeni noma amabhuloho ahlabayo. Kulungile ukushiya lezi zinto emotweni yakho. Futhi, kuyindlela engcono, enempilo kune-candy!
- Izinti namatshe. Izingane ezincane ziyakuthanda ukuthwala izinti kanye namatshe ekugijimeni. Ungabamba ngamatshe amabili bese wenza umsindo; izinti zingasetshenziswa njengezinduku zokuhamba noma inkemba noma ibhola le-baseball. Kunezinto eziningi ongacabanga ngazo ngezinduku namatshe endleleni. Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ingane yakho ayiguquki noma ikuphonsa kunoma ubani.
- Yazi izimpawu zokuqubuka. Izingane ezinzima zihamba ngokushesha futhi zingaba zikhulu kakhulu, ngakho-ke uma unesikhathi esinqunyiwe sesikhathi nesikhathi sokulala usondela ngokushesha, vula uma udinga. Ungesabi ukusika umncintiswano uma kusho ukuthi isikhathi esiphezulu sizoba nakho bonke.
- Hlela ama-naps akho ekugijimeni. Khombisa ingane yakho encane yakho ngemuva kwenkampani yenethiwekhi uma ivala isikhathi bese uphuma ukuhamba. Ngaleyo ndlela ngisho noma ingane yakho ingumkhuhlane kanye ne-cranky, izinkuni zizozilalisa futhi ukulala kuyokwenzeka ngenkathi usendleleni.
- Abathwali bezindaba ... okuningi . Unomtholampilo oshibhile, omdala, ongowami-on-down-down kumngane? Kuhle, kodwa uma ufuna ngempela ukuba nomntwana ojabulayo emigwaqweni, cabanga ngokutshala izimali kumthwali othintekayo . Hlela noma ithambile, qinisekisa ukuthi uyithampani efanelekayo yobudala nesisindo somntanakho. Zama futhi ukhumbule: Umphathi othandekayo uzovikela umhlane wakho ngokusekela okuhle kwe-lumbar.
- Hamba nabangani. Izingane zihamba kangcono uma zipakethe. Thola abangane ababili noma abathathu ukuze baphume nawe noma babheke amaqembu afana ne-Hike It Baby endaweni yakini.
- Hamba kaningi. Yenza ukuhamba nokuhamba ngengxenye ejwayelekile yokuphila komndeni wakho. Lapho izingane eziningi zenza lokho, ziyayithanda kakhulu. Umsebenzi wokuzivocavoca njalo ngaphandle okukhulu ugcina izingane ziphilile. Osemncane uqala, kungenzeka ukuthi uzovusa ingane enothando lokuphila impilo yonke kanye nomsebenzi.