Ukuthi amaKhisimu asehlobo asebenzisa kanjani ukucabangela ukusiza abantwana ukulawula imizwa yabo
Izingane zethu zigcizelelwe! Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2010 yi-American Psychological Association lithole ukuthi cishe isigamu sama-America aseMelika sigxilile. Ucwaningo lwathola ukuthi izingane ezingaphezu kweyodwa kwabayisithathu zibika ukuthi zibhekene nezinsizwa ngenyanga eledlule, kodwa kuphela amaphesenti angu-13 abazali abacabanga ukuthi izingane zabo zinamahloni ngenxa yokucindezeleka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyilapho izingane ezingamaphesenti angu-44 zibika ubunzima bokulala, amaphesenti angu-13 kuphela abazali bacabanga ukuthi izingane zabo zinenkinga yokulala.
Ngo-2015, intsha engaba ngu-3 million kusukela eminyakeni engu-12 ukuya ku-17 yayineziqephu eziyinhloko zokucindezeleka ngaphakathi konyaka odlule, ngokusho koMnyango wezeMpilo kanye nezinsizakalo zabasebenzi. Intsha engaphezu kwezigidi ezimbili ibika ukuthi ibhekene nokucindezeleka okuphazamisa ukusebenza kwabo kwansuku zonke. Ngokusho kwedatha evela ku-National Institute of Health Mental, cishe amaphesenti angu-30 amantombazane nabafana abangamaphesenti angu-20 (abalinganiselwa ku-6.3 million intsha) baye banenkinga yokukhathazeka.
Okwenza izingane zicindezeleke ekamu
Iningi lezingane lichitha unyaka wesikole ngamashejuli amisiwe - igcwaliswe ngomsebenzi wesikole, imisebenzi elandelayo emva kwesikole, amaqembu angaphandle, ubuchwepheshe kanye nokulala ngokwanele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane zibhekene nokuhlukunyezwa, izinguquko ze-hormonal, ukucindezelwa kwabazali nothisha, nokucindezeleka ukusuka ekubukeni kwesimo sabo senhlalo.
Zonke lezi zici zihlanganisiwe zibeke izingane zibe isimo sokuqapha nsuku zonke. Ubuchopho beningi labantwana bahlale bevuselela impendulo yokucindezeleka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona ukuphuthumayo kwangempela noma cha.
Uma izingane zihlala zilwa, zindiza, noma zifisa imodi, zinzima ukusebenzisa i-cortex yazo yangaphambili. I-cortex yangaphambi kwangaphambili yingxenye yobuchopho obusiza abantu ukulawula imizwelo yabo , ukuxazulula izinkinga, ukwenza izinqumo ezinhle futhi unake. Uma sisemoyeni yokucindezeleka, ingxenye ye-alamu yobuchopho yethu iba namandla futhi ingxenye enengqondo yechungechunge iyaba yinto engaphansi kakhulu.
Kubantwana abaningi, akuyona ikamu elicindezelayo; yilokho ubuchopho bethu obushukunywe ukusabela kuzo zonke izimo ngempendulo yokucindezeleka.
Kwabanye, ukuba kude nomndeni noma esimweni esisha kungase kubangele ukukhathazeka okudabukisayo noma okukhathazayo. Abakhansela nabeluleki bangase babe nemizwa eminingi enzima ngenkathi behlala ekamu. Eminye imizwelo ihlanganisa ukukhathazeka noma izimpawu zomzimba ezibangelwa ukuzwela ekhaya, intukuthelo nokukhungatheka kusuka emidlalweni engafanele, noma ukudabuka nesizungu ekubeni nenkinga yokwenza abangane noma ukufaneleka.
Abaqondisi bamakamu nabasebenzi babhekene nezinselele uma kuziwa ekusizeni izingane nabacebisi ukuba babhekane nokuphatha imizwa yabo. Njengoba izibalo ezinjengalezi, akumangazi ukuthi amakamu asehlobo ahlanganisa ukucabangela kanye ne-yoga ekharikhulamu yehlobo ngethemba lokudala isipiliyoni esihle, esihle kakhulu ekamu.
Ukuhlakanipha Kungasiza kanjani
Umgomo wokucabanga awukona ukuqeda konke ukucindezeleka empilweni. Ukucindezeleka okunye kuyasiza futhi kudingekile. Umgomo ukufundisa abakwa-campers kanye nabacebisi ukuthi bangakwazi kanjani ukubhekana nokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo. Ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi ukucabangela ukugqugquzela i-cortex yangaphambi kokuqala kobuchopho futhi kuyenze ibe namandla. Ukucabanga kufundisa izingane ukuzola phansi nokulawula imizwa yabo.
Ukucabangela kuchazwa ngezindlela eziningi. Ukucabangela izingane kungase kuhluke kunabantu abadala ngakho ukuziphatha kwakho kwengqondo kungase kuhluke kakhulu kunalokho ingane yakho efunda ekamu. Ukucabangela izingane kungase kube izinhlelo ezisiza ukuxazulula izinkinga nemisebenzi yokwakha umphakathi. Umusa nesihawu kuhlakulelwa esimweni sokunakekelwa, esihle, nesisekelayo.
Kunezindlela eziningi zokufundisa ukukhumbula izingane, kubandakanya imidlalo nemisebenzi. Izinhlelo zifaka futhi zifundisa umzimba, umoya nokuqwashisa kwendawo. I-Yoga ingaba yingxenye yohlelo. Umgomo oyinhloko ukunikeza abantwana amakhono okuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kwangaphakathi nangaphandle, ukuqonda imicabango yabo futhi bavumele ukuba bahlale "njengemicabango nje," ukuze baqonde indlela imizwelo ebonakala ngayo emizimbeni yabo, ukuqaphela lapho ukunakwa kwabo sekuye kwenye indawo , nokuhlinzeka ngamathuluzi okusiza ukulawula izimpendulo zabo.
Izinhlelo Zenkampu Yokucabanga
Kukhona amakamu ahlukene kanye nezimo zokuphumula zasehlobo ezifundisa ukucabangela kanye ne-yoga ezinganeni. Njengoba kufana nekamu lezemidlalo, izingane ezihambela lezi "makamu ehlobo ekhethekile" zichitha izinsuku zazo zizindla kanye ne-yoga. Amanye amakamu, kokubili amakamu ezinsuku nezinkambiso zokulala zifaka ingqondo ezinhlelo zabo zansuku zonke ngezindlela ezahlukene.
UDana Kite, uMqondisi weLake lamaHolts and Greenwoods Camps, ikamu lokulala eMichigan:
Siqale ukunikeza 'ukucabanga kwengqondo' kulelihlobo njengento yokuzikhethela yabakhamuzi. Sasizwa ukuthi lokhu kungaba yindlela enhle kakhulu yokuthi abakwa-campers baqale usuku lwabo bazizwe begxile, bekhona futhi bezazi ngokwengeziwe. Kuleli zwe ledijithali esiphila kuyo, izingane zidinga ukuthola isikhathi esengeziwe sokuthi 'zikhiphe.' Sinikeza izingane isikhala sokwenza lokhu, ngoba sinenqubomgomo evimbela isikhathi se-elekthronikhi nesesikrini ekamu. Sithemba ukuthi uma abakwa-campers bethu befika ekhaya, bangakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphumula kusuka esikrinini kanye nobuchwepheshe bese nje bachitha imizuzu embalwa egxila kuzo kanye neontanga zabo, futhi bazizwa bexhumeke kakhulu.
U-Elyssa Gaffin, uMqondisi we-Young Juea Sprout eBrooklyn Day Camp uthi:
Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi abakwa-campers basebenzela i-yoga ngabanye, futhi sihlanganyela no-yoga ozakwethu, okuyisibonelo sokubaluleka kwamaJuda 'kaV'Ahavta lareyacha kamocha'-abathanda omakhelwane bethu njengoba sizithanda thina. Njengoba labo abahlala ekamelweni bethembele komunye nomunye ukubamba iqhaza kanye nokulinganisela ndawonye, bafaka ngokuqondile umqondo wokwelapha ngenhlonipho nangomusa. I-Yoga ibe yithuluzi elihle lokufundisa amakhamera ethu ngamagugu amaJuda kanye nokuwaxhuma emizimbeni yabo nokukhuthaza ukuzinakekela.
I-Stacey Decter, uMphathi we-Asphalt Green Summer Day Camp e-New York City amasheya:
Ngesimiso esiphezulu, senza iphuzu lokunika usuku ngalunye lwabafundi ngezinkathi zokucabanga, ngezigaba ezihlanganisa i-yoga, ingadi nokubhala. Lezi zinsuku zisiza abaqeqeshi bethu ukuba bathuthukise ikhono lokuzola, elithule futhi elibheke phambili; okuyinto esiyithola kusiza ukugcina abagibeli begxile kakhulu kulo lonke usuku. Amakhono okucabanga esiwafundisayo ekamelweni eliphezulu nawo abuyele esikoleni, azisize izingane zihlale zigxile futhi zizolile kulo lonke usuku lwesikole.
Izenzo Zokucabangela
Ukucabanga kungasetshenziswa ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene, kepha kunezindlela ezine ezibalulekile kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi wokucabanga. Lezi yizinto abazali abangazifundisa futhi bazifundele ekhaya nezingane zabo. Zilula futhi zizosiza ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukwandisa injabulo, nokuthuthukisa imikhuba yokuphila nokuqina.
- Ukuphefumula okucabangelayo: Ukuphefumula okucabangayo kuvele ukuletha ukuqonda kwakho ekuphefumuleni kwakho. Ukuphefumula kuyisisekelo senqubo yokucabanga engokomthetho. Ukuphefumula kungenye yezindlela ezingcono zokuqeda ukubhekana nokucindezeleka ebuchosheni. Ukuphefumula kulawula umzimba; kusebenza njalo! Ukusebenzisa ukuphefumula kwengqondo kuqinisa i-correx ye-prefrontal futhi kudala isimo sengqondo sokuzola ngokuzisa ulwazi lwakho njalo lapho uvula futhi uhumusha.
- Ukulalela Okucabangayo: Ukulalela okuhlakaniphile kukufundisa ukuthi ungayinaka kanjani. Ikusiza ukuba ugxile futhi uvelise ngokwengeziwe ngengqondo ephazanyiswa kancane. Ukulalela umsindo ngokuzwakalayo kungase kube lula kubantwana kunokuphefumula kwengqondo. Ukufunda ukulalela ngokucabangayo kuvumela izingane ukuba zihlunge imicabango mayelana nesikhathi esedlule noma esizayo futhi zigxile nje okwamanje.
- Ukuskena komzimba: Ukuhlolwa komzimba kusiza izingane ukuba zinake imizimba yazo futhi zifunde ukuphumula imisipha ehlukene. Ukuskena komzimba kufundisa izingane ukuthi zibone ukuthi izingxenye zomzimba zazo zizizwa kanjani ngezikhathi ezahlukene zosuku. Izingane zifunda ukwamukela ukuthi izingxenye zomzimba zazo zizizwa kanjani ngaphandle kokuzama ukushintsha leyo mizwa. Kubalulekile ukuba izingane zibone izinzwa ezingase zibe nazo esiswini, imilenze, izingalo, ikhanda, izandla, njll. Le mizwa iyashintsha ngosuku futhi kulungile.
- Ukunaka Imizwelo: Ukufundisa izingane ukuba zinake imizwelo yabo kuyinhlangano ebalulekile neyinkimbinkimbi. Wonke umuntu unokuhlangenwe nakho okuhle nokubi kulo lonke usuku. Ukuletha ukuqwashisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle kuyosiza ukudala umbono omuhle. Noma kunjalo, sonke sinemizwelo emibi futhi. Sonke senza amaphutha noma sibe nezinsuku ezimbi. Ukufundisa izingane ukwamukela lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile kuyithuba lokukhula.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Njengabazali, lapho sicabanga ngekampu ehlobo , sicabanga ngokuzola, kwemvelo, futhi kumnandi. Ngenkathi lokhu kungenzeka kube yisimo sezingane eziningi, kukhona abanye abacindezelekayo, ukukhathazeka, ukungabi namandla nokuzizwela phansi okubangelwa ukuba nesikhathi esihle ekamu.
Ukufundisa izingane ukuthi kufanele zikhumbule kunenzuzo eminingi. Ukufunda ukuqaphela imizwa yakho, ukunyakaza, nokuphefumula ngaphandle kokwahlulela kuzosiza ukulawula imizwelo, ukwandise ukuzwelana, ukuqinisa ukucindezeleka, ukwandisa isikhathi sokunakwa, nokusiza ukufundisa amakhono okuvuselela.
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