Imiphumela Yosesho Lokho Okushiwo Abazali Nabafundisi Ngomusa
Uma ithoni yezombusazwe zase-US kanye nezindaba eziphathelene nama-trolls kanye namazwana angalungile nokuziphatha okubi ngabantu abafanele babe ngabaholi bethu kanye nabamele ukuthi ukhathazekile ngokuthi hlobo luni lolu hlelo konke okungaqondakali okulungiselelwa izingane, awuyena owodwa: Ucwaningo lukazwelonke olukhishwe iSesame Workshop ngo-Okthoba 2016 lubonisa ukuthi umusa ngokuqinisekile ukhumbula engqondweni yabazali abaningi e-US
Ucwaningo oluthiwa "K Ngomusa: Ucwaningo Lwezwe Oluhle Ngomusa Nezingane," wathola ukuthi cishe abazali abangamatshumi amathathu nabefundisi nabacishe babe yi-5 bavame ukukhathazeka ngokuthi izwe liyindawo engenabubele izingane. Ngokwenhlolovo, abazali nabafundisi bakhathazekile ngokuthi abantu abahambisani nendlela yabo yokusiza abanye, futhi bakholelwa ukuthi izingane zidinga amakhono anamandla omphakathi nezomzwelo ukuze zenze kahle empilweni.
Ukuhlola Umusa
Ukufanisa umsebenzi wabo njengomuntu osiza izingane yonke indawo ukuba "zikhule kahle, ziqine futhi zibe nomusa," iSesame Workshop yanquma ukuhlola inkinga yomusa njengenkinga ebalulekile ezinganeni nasemindenini kulo nyaka. Bakhetha ukugxila emthonjeni ngenxa yokuthi "inani elikhulayo lezindaba zentukuthelo, ukwesaba, ukuxhaphazwa, nobudlova, kanye nomqondo jikelele wokungabi nandaba okuphazamisa inkulumo yenhlalakahle," nangenxa yocwaningo olubonisa ukuthi i-narcissism iyanda futhi inesihawu ukuncipha.
I-Sesame Workshop yocwaninga abazali abangaphezu kuka-2 000 bezingane ezineminyaka engu-3 kuya kweyishumi nambili ngocingo futhi baqhuba ucwaningo olwenziwe ngo-500 othisha bezingane ngo-pre-K kuya ku-6 b grade. Imiphumela yabonisa ukuthi bobabili abazali nabafundisi bakhathazekile ukuthi izingane namuhla zikhula ezweni elingenamusa futhi ukuthi amaqembu womabili avumelana ukuthi umusa ubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kwezingane esikhathini esizayo, ngisho nangaphezulu kwamamaki amahle. Okunye okuvelele kocwaningo:
- Abazali abangamaphesenti angu-70 bathi bavame ukukhathazeka ngokuthi izwe liyindawo engenamusa yengane yabo
- Amaphesenti angu-86 othisha athi bavame ukukhathazeka ngokuthi izwe liyindawo engenamusa yabantwana
- Abazali abangamaphesenti angu-73 bathi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane yabo ibe nomusa kwabanye kunokuba iphumelele ngokwezemfundo
- Amaphesenti angu-78 othisha athi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane zibe nomusa kwabanye ngaphandle kokuphumelela ngokwezemfundo
Kodwa nakuba abazali nabafundisi 'begxila ekubalukeleni komusa kuhle, kubonakala kubonakala kuncane kokunqamula ukuthi ngabe kusho ukuthini umusa. Abazali bathi ukuhlonipha kwakubaluleke ngaphezu kokucabangela noma okuwusizo ( uzwela ) ngenkathi othisha beba nesihawu ngemikhuba : Lapho ebuzwa ukuthi, "Yikuphi kulawa okubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ingane yakho ibe khona manje?" Abazali abangamashumi ayisishiyagalombili nesishiyagalombili bakhetha ukuziphatha uma kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angu-41 kuphela abazali abakhetha ukuzwelana. Phakathi kwabafundisi, amaphesenti angu-63 athi ukuzwela kwakubaluleke kakhulu kuqhathaniswa namaphesenti angu-37 abakhetha ukuziphatha.
Ukuqonda Imikhuba nokuzwela
Umehluko othakazelisayo ubonisa ukuthi abazali bangalinganisa imikhuba emihle nozwela. Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, imikhuba nozwela akuyona into efanayo. (Ngokwesibonelo, ingane enengqondo ingabonisa imikhuba emihle phambi kwabantu abadala bese iphendukela futhi ixhaphaze noma ilulaze omunye umuntu.) Futhi uma kuziwa ukuthi ubani okufanele afundise izingane ngomusa, othisha babike ukuthi abazali bangase benze okungaphezulu (amaphesenti angu-44 kuphela othisha bathi bakholelwa ukuthi abazali "bonke" noma "abaningi" bakhulisa izingane zabo ukuba zihloniphe, futhi kuphela amaphesenti angu-34 athi "bonke" noma "abaningi" abazali bakhulisa izingane ukuba babe nozwela nomusa)
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abazali bafundisa ngomusa izingane zabo umusa: Abazali abangamaphesenti angama-75 babika ukuthi bakhuluma nezingane zabo okungenani izikhathi ezimbalwa ngesonto noma ngaphezulu ngokubona izinto emibonweni yabanye abantu, futhi Amaphesenti angu-88 athi ingane yakhe inomusa.
Okubalulekile
Ngakho konke kusho ukuthini abazali, othisha, kanye nezingane? Kukhona ubufakazi obuningi bokuthi amakhono omphakathi nezomzwelo afana nozwela nomusa kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kwezingane. (Kunengqondo-emva kwakho konke, ngubani ofuna ukusebenzisana nomlobi wezishoshovu kanye nokuhlukunyezwa eqenjini labo emsebenzini noma abe umngane nomuntu ozikhathalela yena kuphela?) Abazali, othisha, nabo bonke abantu bangenza ingxenye yabo ukusiza izingane zibe nenhlonipho, nomusa, nokubonga nokufunda imikhuba emihle. Uma singasiza izingane zanamuhla zifunde ukuhloniphana, kungase kube nethemba ngekusasa okwamanje.