Emphakathini wanamuhla ophuthumayo, oqhutshwa kwezobuchwepheshe, ukufundisa izingane imikhuba yinto ebaluleke kunazo zonke kunanini ngaphambili. Omunye wemisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu esinayo yabazali ukusiza izingane zethu ukuba zithuthukise amakhono omphakathi, zibonise indlela yokusebenzisana ngendlela enhle nabantu, futhi ubafundise ukuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lesi senzakalo siwukuqoqa amaholide, isidlo somndeni, noma uhambo olulula oluya esitolo, abazali bangasebenzisa la mathuba emphakathini ukuze bahlakulele imikhuba emihle ezinganeni zabo ezizoba yingxenye yokuphila kwabo ebusheni nangaphezulu.
Nazi ezinye izindlela ezinhle abazali abangazifundisa izingane zabo imikhuba emihle.
Imikhuba Ebalulekile Yokufundisa Ingane Yakho
Lezi yizimiso ezimbalwa zonke izingane okufanele ziyazi.
- Bafundise ukuthi "Ngiyacela" futhi "Ngiyabonga": Yiqiniso, lokhu kungenye yezisekelo ezisemqoka zokuziphatha okuhle. Njengoba izingane zikhula, abazali bangabakhuthaza ukuba babhale amanothi okubonga, mhlawumbe ngepeni nephepha. Akusho ukuthi izingane kufanele zifunde ukuthi zingabonga kanjani ngezipho abazitholayo; kodwa kufanele futhi bafundiswe ukubonga abantu abasiza noma abakhonzayo, njengabagcini bokudlela, ngisho nomama nobaba uma bezenzela okuthile ngesikhathi sabo sezinsuku zonke.
- Ungakhohlwa umzala wakhe: Abazala baka "Ngiyacela" futhi "Ngiyabonga," okungukuthi. Qinisekisa ukuthi ufundisa ingane yakho ukusebenzisa imishwana efana nokuthi "Ngangathi," "Kulungile, ngiyabonga; futhi unjani? "kusho uPatricia Rossi, umbhali we-Everyday Etiquette.
- Yenza umkhuba wokubingelela abantu ngokufanele: Ukubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi ubingelela kanjani abantu ngokufanele ungenye yamakhono obaluleke kakhulu ongamfundisa, kusho uRossi. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ibheke abantu ehlweni, ibhekane nabo ngokuqondile, futhi ixhaphaze isandla lapho ihlangana nabo. Indlela enhle yokusebenzisa la makghono ngokuwahambisa nengane yakho ngenkathi idlala indima.
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi isebenzise "uMnu" noma "uNksz": Kungase kuzwakale idala, kepha ukusebenzisa isihloko negama lokugcina kuyindlela ehle kakhulu yokukhuluma ingane noma ukubhekisela kumuntu, kusho uRoss.
- Hlola ukuthi kufanele baphendule kanjani ucingo: Uma uphendula ucingo, fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi, "Ngingatshela umama obizayo, sicela?" Esikhundleni sokuthi "Ngubani lo?" Kusho uRoss. Futhi ngenxa yokuphepha, tshela ingane yakho ukuthi ingasho igama lomndeni wakho uma uphendula ifoni (njengokungathi, "u-Smith yokuhlala"). Futhi, khumbuza ingane yakho ukuba ingalokothi ikhamulule indlu yonke kodwa ihambe kuwe futhi ikutshele ukuthi unocingo. Uma ungatholakali, fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ithi okuthile, "Akatholakali. Ngicela ngithathe umlayezo, ngiyacela? "Futhi utshele ingane yakho ukuthi ihlise ulwazi, iphinde uyibuyisele kumuntu oshaya ucingo, bese ubuza umshayeli ukuthi igama lakhe lifakwe kanjani.
- Gcizelela ukuziphatha komakhalekhukhwini : Uma ingane yakho inomakhalekhukhwini, qinisekisa ukuthi udlulisela umlayezo wokuthi ngeke ulethwe etafuleni. (Eqinisweni, ungase uthande ukucatshangelwa ukuvimbela yonke i-elekthronikhi etafuleni bese uvala i-TV ukuze ukwazi ukugxila komunye nomunye nengxoxo yengxoxo.) U-Rossi ubonisa ukuthi ingane yakho ibeka ifoni yakhe esitokisini lapho ehamba Isicabha.
- Khumbuza ingane yakho ukuthi ikhulume nabantu ngendlela efuna ukukhulunywa ngayo: Lokhu kusho ukuthi akusebenzi ukusebenzisa amazwi amabi njengokuthi "Vala," noma ukhulume ngezwi elingenalo uthando, ngisho nalapho ungavumelani nomunye umuntu.
- Yenza ingane yakho ibe umkhuba wokulinda ithuba lakhe lokukhuluma: Lena enye izingane eziningi, ikakhulukazi izingane ezincane, zinenkathazo. Kungenxa yokuthi ngokuvamile, izingane zifuna ukuveza imicabango yabo ngokushesha nje lapho kwenzeka okuthile kubo. Izingane nazo ngokwemvelo zizicabangela ngokwabo futhi zingadinga izikhumbuzo zokulinda kuze kube sekuqedile ukukhuluma ngaphambi kokuphazamisa. Ukuze usize izingane zifunde lo mkhuba, abazali bangazama ukusebenzisa isikhumbuzi esibukwayo, njengesilwane esinyanyisiwe noma induku yokukhuluma. Mane nje wonke umuntu akhulume kuphela uma sekuyisikhathi sokubamba induku yokukhuluma ukufundisa izingane ukuthi balinde kanjani ithuba lokukhuluma.
- Gcizelela ukubaluleka kokuba nomusa lapho uphikisana: Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingathokozi lapho iwina futhi ihlabelela abanye lapho ilahlekelwa. Ukudlala okuhle kwezemidlalo kuzoba ikhono elibalulekile lezingane ukuba zibe nempilo kamuva uma kudingeka ukuba basebenze nabanye emaphrojekthi kanye nezinye izinyathelo ekhaya nasemsebenzini.
- Fundisa ingane yakho imikhuba emihle yokudlala: Khumbuza ingane yakho ukuthi ilandele imithetho yomngane wakhe lapho idethi yokudlala, futhi ihlale ihlanzekile ngemuva kokuhamba. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ihlala ibingelela umphathi noma umnakekeli, ungalokothi ubeke izinyawo zakhe efenitheni, futhi ulinde kuze kube yilapho umphathi edla kuqala ngesikhathi sokudla. Gcizelela nokubaluleka kokusebenzisa "izwi lelabhulali" ngaphakathi endlini. Uma ingane yakho ibamba idethi yokudlala, qiniseka ukuthi ubeka umngane wakhe kuqala, ngokuthi, ukumnika isihlalo esingcono kakhulu nokumkhonza kuqala, kusho uRossi.
- Yenza imikhuba emihle etafuleni emntwaneni wakho : Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyisikhathi esikhulu sokudla ngekhefu nomndeni noma ukudla okuvamile phakathi nesonto, ingane yakho kufanele ibe nesibambo esihle emathempelini ayisisekelo. Imikhuba emihle efana nokungafuneki ngomlomo womuntu wonke noma ukulinda ukudla kuze kube yilapho wonke umuntu ekhonjwe ingalandelwa ngisho nomncane kunabo bonke abafunda esikoleni. Futhi njengoba izingane zikhula, zingasiza ukusetha nokucacisa itafula bese ziqhuba ingxoxo ejabulisayo ye-dinner.
Imikhuba Izingane Ngokuvamile Ngekho
Ngenxa yokuthi sibona ukuziphatha okubi kuyo yonke indawo, singenzani njengabazali ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zethu zenza imikhuba emihle futhi ziphatha abanye ngenhlonipho nangenhlonipho? Nazi ezinye izindlela izingane eziningi namuhla ezingekho (kanye namakhono ahlobene nabo) nokuthi yini abazali abangayenza ukuze bafundise izingane zabo.
- Ukubambisana nomuntu oseduze nabo kunokubheka esikrinini: Lokhu kuziphatha kuvamile phakathi kwabantu abadala kanye nezingane ngokufanayo ukuthi kunesikhathi sokuthi: i-phubbing, noma i-phone snubbing. Izingane namuhla zivame ukusebenzisa amadivayisi wezobuchwepheshe be-tech, futhi zihlale zizisebenzisa lapho zikhona nabangani noma izikhulile.
- Ukubingelela abantu ngokufanele / nengxoxo: Izingane eziningi namuhla azijwayeli ukuziphatha okuhle uma zihlangana noma zikhuluma nabanye. Ukuziphatha okuhle kusho ukubuka omunye umuntu iso uma ukhuluma futhi ukhuluma nabo, ulalele lokho abakushoyo, ukuphendula imibuzo, futhi ulinde ithuba lakho lokukhuluma-amakhono izingane eziningi ezingenalo namuhla.
- Ukuthi "ngiyabonga" futhi "sicela": Kuyinto edabukisayo ukuthi izingane eziningi namuhla zihlambalaza lapho ziphuma endaweni yokudlela noma enye indawo lapho umuntu ekhonza khona noma ebasiza. Ngisho nezingane ezincane ezineminyaka engama-3 no-4 kufanele zikhunjulwe njalo ukubonga, kodwa zivame kakhulu ukubona izingane zonyaka wonke-kuhlanganise nezingane ezindala ezingadingeki zikhumbule-zilahle lezi zici eziyisisekelo.
- Ukuvula iminyango / ukugcina iminyango yabanye abantu: Ingabe ingane yakho ibona umuntu olwa nomgibeli kanye nezikhwama futhi aqaphele ukuthi angadinga usizo lokuvula umnyango? Ingabe wayezoyibona umuntu osekhulile ehlushwa isikhwama esikhulu futhi abuze ukuthi udinga usizo? Uma impendulo ayikho, yisikhathi sokuqondisa ukucabanga kwengane yakho.
- Ukubonga ngiyabonga amakhadi: Lokhu kuyinto engavamile kakhulu ngoba sonke saqala ukusebenzisa i-imeyli nokuthumela imiyalezo. Futhi ngenkathi uthumela i-imeyili noma umbhalo ukuveza ukubonga kuhle, empeleni uhlezi phansi ukubhala inothi lomzimba ukuze ubonise ukubonga ngesipho noma umusa kungcono nakakhulu.
Lokho Abazali Abangayenza Ukuze Bathuthukise Imikhuba Yabantwana
Nazi ezinye izindlela ongaqondisa ngayo ingane yakho ekubhekiseni ukuziphatha okuhle ukunciphisa le mikhuba ethile ehlulekayo.
- Yidla ukudla: Akukhona kuphela ukuthi ukudla komndeni okuvamile kubalulekile empilweni yezingane nentuthuko (baye baxhunyaniswa nomngcipheko wokunciphisa ngokweqile, imikhuba yokudla okunempilo, amakhono omphakathi okuthuthukisiwe kanye nomzwelo, ukusebenza kahle esikoleni, nokuningi), bangaba amathuba amahle wokuba nezingane zijwayeze ukuthi kufanele zikhulume kanjani nabanye nokuthi zingxoxo kanjani (ulalele, ulinde ithuba lokukhuluma, ungavumelani ngokuhlonipha, njll).
- Ngabe izingane zihlale zithi "ngiyabonga" futhi "sicela": Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ekhaya noma endaweni yokudlela, thola izingane zakho ukuba zibe nomkhuba wokubonga lapho othile ebaphakela ukudla, abasize ngento ethile, abanike isipho, noma enze okuthile kubo. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuba ihlale ihlonipha abagibeli nabasebenzi, abashayeli bamatekisi, nanoma ubani omunye osebenzela yona.
- Bababhale bhala imibonga yamakhadi: Ilungelo lokubonga elifanele lizoveza ukuthi kungani ingane yakho iwazisa isipho esithile noma intshisekelo, futhi ihlanganisa nokuvuma okuthile ngesipho esithile.
- Vala i-TV: I- Pundits ikhulumisana futhi iphonswe ukuhlambalaza kuvamile ezindabeni zezindaba, ungasisho isimo sengqondo esithi "sassy" ovame ukubona emibonweni yezingane eziningi. (Hlala phansi futhi ubuke ezinye iziqephu zezingane zakho ze-TV izikhathi ezithile; ungase ushatswe yinani le-backtalk nobuqili obona ngendlela abalingiswa abambisana ngayo, ungalokothi ulandele inani lobudlova , ngisho nasezibonisweni ezilinganiselwe kufanelekile izingane ezincane ). Ukunciphisa isikhathi sesikrini kuwumqondo omkhulu ngokujwayelekile; ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi isikhathi sokuvala isikrini sithuthukisa impilo yezingane, amamaki, nokuziphatha, phakathi kwezinye izinzuzo.
- Babonise ukuthi bangabhala kanjani ama-imeyili ahloniphekile nemibhalo: Ingane yakho izoxhumana nge-imeyili kaningi njengoba ikhula. Hamba ngezingqalasizinda ezithile nengane yakho, njengokuthi ungabingelela kanjani umuntu nge-imeyili, ukubhala kanjani ngethoni ecacile nehloniphekayo, nokuthi ungasayina kanjani ekugcineni kwe-imeyili (nge "Ngokuzithoba," noma "Eqinisweni, "Noma" Okuhle, "). Uma uvumele ingane yakho esikhulile esikoleni esidala ukuthi ifinyelele kuma-social media, qiniseka ukuthi akakaze ayithumele amazwana amabi.
- Sebenza ngezindlela zokunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwefoni yeselula namanye amadivaysi e-elektroniki: Kunezinzuzo ezikhungweni ezikhawulayo ezihamba ngaphezu kokwakha imikhuba engcono.
- Mfundise ukubaluleka kozwela : Yenza ingane yakho ibe nomkhuba wokubona labo abangase babe nezidingo (umuntu olwa nomnyango noma isikhwama esinzima, isibonelo). Mfundise ukuba acabange ngaphezu kwezidingo zakhe futhi acabange ukuthi angamsiza kanjani umuntu ongadinga usizo.
- Beka isibonelo esihle : Izingane zakho zizofunda ngokukubuka, ngakho ubuke kahle ukuziphatha kwakho. Uyakubonga uma othile ekwenzela okuthile? Ingabe ukhuluma ngenhlonipho nezingane zakho nakwabanye abaseduze nawe? Ingabe ukhathalela umndeni, abangane, ngisho nabantu abangaziwayo ngenhlonipho nangenhlonipho? Hlola imikhuba yakho kanye nokuziphatha kwakho futhi wenze izinguquko uma kunesidingo ukuze ingane yakho ikusebenzise njengomzekelo oyisibonelo okufanele ulandele njengoba efunda ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani nabantu kahle.
Okokugcina, khumbula ukuthi usethe izinga. Uma usetshenziselwa ukuthumela imiyalezo etafuleni efonini yakho noma uhlale ukhuluma nabantu ngendlela engenangqondo, ingane yakho izothatha kulezi zici futhi cishe izoyikopisha. Uma ufuna ukukhulisa ingane encane, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze njengomzali ubheka kahle ukuziphatha kwakho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uhlala uziphatha kahle.