Ukufundisa izingane zokudlala okuhle

Njengoba izingane ziqala ibhola emdlalweni we-3 kanye nethimba lokubhukuda ngama-5, ukufundisa imidlalo emihle kubaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. "Amantombazane ayizigidi ezingamashumi amane adlala imidlalo yezingane, ikakhulukazi amantombazane, izinombolo zikhuphuka," kusho uJoel Fish, Ph.D., umbhali weNdlela ezingu-101 zokuba yi-Terrific Sports Parent kanye nomqondisi we-Centre for Sports Psychology eFiladelphia. .

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Kungani Izinto Zemibala Yezemidlalo

Lokhu kusho ukugcizelela kakhulu ukunqoba, kusho iNhlanzi, kodwa futhi inikeza ithuba lokufundisa ezemidlalo ekuqaleni futhi kaningi. Futhi ukuqonda ukuthi kungaba mdlalo omuhle kanjani omunye wezifundo zokuphila ezingcono izingane zingafunda ezemidlalo .

"Isikhathi esihle sokugxilisa izindinganiso uma abantwana bebancane," kusho uRob Gotlin, INGABE, umbhali weDkt. Rob's Guide wokukhulisa amaFit Kids . "Abazali kaningi abaqapheli ukuthi kulula kangakanani ukugxilisa izindinganiso zemidlalo," usho kanje. Izingane-ikakhulukazi abasebancane, abaneminyaka engu-8 nangaphansi-imigomo yemidlalo yentsha kufanele ibe imisebenzi yomzimba nokuxhumana komphakathi. "Uma sikhumbula lokhu okuyiqiniso sibheke ukuthi yiziphi imidlalo ezithintekayo, sibeke umgogodla" wezemidlalo ezinhle, kusho uDkt. Gotlin.

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Qala Intsha: Ezemidlalo zezingane ezingu-8 nangaphansi

Ngisho noma-njengoba kuwumkhuba emaqenjini amaningi ezemidlalo ezinganeni ezincane-azikho abanqobile noma abalahlekile, abanamaqembu kanye nemifenifomu ethula umqondo wokuncintisana . Ngakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali nabaqeqeshi bagcizelela ukuzijabulisa, ukuzivocavoca, nokudlala ndawonye. UDkt. Gotlin ugijimela iqembu lebhola lebhola lebhola lezinkinobho bese ephikelela ukuthi abadlali baphazamise izandla kokubili ngaphambi nangemva kwemidlalo. Uphinde ukhuthaze ukuthi izingane, abaqeqeshi nabazali baqale umdlalo ngomhlangano weqembu ukuze baphathe imithetho futhi bakhumbuze wonke umuntu ukuba adlale futhi abe nesikhathi esihle. Uma ungeke ugcine amaphuzu, vumela izingane zikwazi-futhi zichaze ukuthi kungani, kusho uDkt. Fish.

Kule minyaka yobudala, imidlalo yeqembu elinde kakhulu yomshoshaphansi ihamba phambili. Ukuthi ukhona endaweni emgodini we-pitcher noma umzila ongcolile uhlolisisa ingane encane, kusho uDkt. Gotlin. Ngaphezu kwalokho, emdlalweni we- baseball , izingane zichitha isikhathi esiningi kakhulu zilinde nxazonke-futhi zimile. Uma bedlala ibhola , kufanele baqhubeke behamba! Kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lwezemidlalo ingane yakho edlala ngayo, bheka i-ligue kanye nomqeqeshi ogcizelela ukuzijabulisa nokuqina uma egcizelela ukuwina nokulahlekelwa; wonke amalungu eqembu kufanele abe namathuba amaningi okudlala futhi athole impendulo eningi emihle emizamweni yabo.

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Gcina iNhloko Epholile: Ezemidlalo Zama-Kids 8-12

Njengoba izingane zisondela ekukhuleni, i-tempers iqala ukuvuleka-ensimini futhi eceleni. Esikhathini esicacile, kulula ukuvumelanisa ngemigomo eyisisekelo yezemidlalo : inhlonipho ngabalingani beqembu, abaphikisi, nomdlalo; ukunqoba ngomusa nokulahlekelwa. Ukunikeza lezi zimiso, abaqeqeshi ( nabazali ) bangasebenzisa inhlanganisela yemfundo (ukufundisa izingane ngolimi abaziqondayo), ukucindezela kontanga okuhle, nemiphumela noma izinqubomgomo (njengendlela yokuxwayisa ngemithetho ephukile elandelwe ukumiswa komkhuba noma umdlalo).

Ngisho nesisekelo esiqinile esifana nalokhu, ukulandela ngokulula akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ekushiseni komzuzwana. Ngakho bobabili abazali nabadlali kudingeka bazi ukuthi bangabika kanjani futhi bavimbele ukushaya. Encwadini yakhe, uDkt. Fish uveza uhlelo lwesinyathelo esilandelayo:

1. Yazi isimo sakho sengqondo ngokuwina nokulahlekelwa, ukusebenzisana nokuncintisana. Uma ungumuntu okhuphisana kakhulu, kuzodingeka usebenze kanzima ukulawula imizwelo yakho.
2. Yazi izimbangela zakho. UDkt. Fish uthi: "Uma ngibona umqeqeshi ekhuluma kabi ngane yami, lokho kuqhuma inkinobho kimi." Kwabanye abazali, izinto ezibangela ukufaka ingosi zingase zifake ucingo olubi oluvela kumculi noma nomuzwa wokuthi umphikisi usebenzise insizakalo yengane yakho. Izingane zingase zisuswe ngokwenza iphutha (njengokushaya).
3. Yazi ukuthi ungathula kanjani. Yiba nomdlalo wegeyimu walokho okufanele ukwenze uma omunye walabo abangela ukubeka isisindo somzwelo. Umzali kungase kudingeke ukuba ahambe kude nomzuzwana. Ingane ingacela umuntu osebenza naye ukuba amkhumbuze ukuthi athathe umoya ojulile noma "ukuzithokozisa."

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Fundisa Ukuhlonipha Nokuthembela: Ezemidlalo Zentsha

Esikoleni esiphakeme, izingane ziyazi kahle ngokuwina, ukulahlekelwa, nokusebenza kwazo, futhi lokho kungachaza izinkinga zemidlalo emihle. "Noma kunini lapho kunezingcindezi ezingaphezu kwemiphumela, lokho kwandisa amathuba okuba izingane zizokwenza lokho okudingayo ukuze zithole," kusho uDkt. Fish. "Kungenzeka ukuthi bawele umzila, behlekisa omunye umdlali noma baqhube umthetho."

Uma umdlali enza iphutha, uvame ukulahlekelwa ukugxila. "Ukuphumelela kubangela ukuzethemba nokuphambene nalokho," kusho uDkt. Gotlin. Ngakho ukuqiniswa okunamandla kusabalulekile manje, njengoba kugcizelela kakhulu isiyalo kanye namagugu. Abantu abadala kudingeka bahole. "Kudingeka sifundise kusukela ngosuku olulodwa: Uma uhamba enkundleni, enkantolo, noma ugijima, kufanele uhloniphe umdlalo nabo bonke abancintisana ngokulinganayo, njengoba nje ubona kwezobuciko ngokuhlonipha i-dojo."

Abazali kudingeka futhi babukele ingqondo yabo, kusho uDkt. Gotlin. "Abazali bafuna ukubona izingane zabo ziba isisekelo noma zithole ukushaywa okungeziwe. Izwe elidala liyabhubhisa izingqondo zezingane. Kudingeka sizilungiselele kuqala bese sifaka izindinganiso ezinganeni zethu." Umlayezo ofuna ukuwunika: "Ngilapha ukuzokubona uphisana futhi usebenzise amakhono akho."

Gcizelela lokho ongakwenza futhi awukwazi ukulawula: Ezemidlalo kuyisinqumo. UDkt. Fish uthi: "Kukhona zonke izinhlobo zamandla lapho abazali nabaqeqeshi abakwazi ukulawula khona." "Angikwazi ukulawula lokho okushiwo yi-ESPN noma lokho okwenziwa yiqembu elinye. Kodwa ngingakwazi ukufundisa ingane yami ukubaluleka kokudlala ngemithetho, ukuxhaphaza izandla zomphikisi, ukumsiza uma ewa-emfundisa ukuthi noma ngabe umphikisi wakhe akenzi lokho, uyakwazi ukukwenza ngoba kuyinto efanele ukuyenza. "

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Thola Umqeqeshi Ofundisa Ezemidlalo

Ngaphambi kokuba ubhalise ingane yakho eqenjini lezemidlalo elisha noma ithimba lesikole, hlola ifilosofi yayo kwizemidlalo. Buza:

• Leli phiko lifundisa kanjani imidlalo? Iyini izinqubomgomo zayo mayelana nokugcina amaphuzu, ukudoba-ukukhuluma (ngabadlali noma abazali), ukuhlangana nabaphikisi, kanye nesiyalo?
• Kanjani ukudlala isikhathi esinqunywe-ithalenta, ukukhula, umzamo ekusebenzeni? Noma ihlukaniswe ngokulinganayo phakathi kwabo bonke abadlali?
• Iyini imigomo yomqeqeshi wethimba? Ingabe ngempela gung-ho mayelana ukunqoba, noma inhloso ukuletha lo mdlalo? Kuthiwani ngokukhuthaza umsebenzi womzimba noma ukuxhumana komphakathi?

Akunjalo ngempela izimpendulo ezilungile noma ezingalungile lapha; okuningi kuxhomeke eminyakeni yobudala nengane yakho. Kodwa uma ungenelisekile ngezimpendulo ozithola, zama ukuthola enye inketho-noma okungenani uqaphele ukuthi ungenile, futhi ufundise ingane yakho ngokwezifiso.

Uma ungathokozi ukusebenza komqeqeshi phakathi nonyaka, gwema ukumelana naye kumkhuba noma umdlalo. Hlela umhlangano endaweni engathathi hlangothi nesikhathi , faka abanye abazali uma unakho, futhi-ke, uhloniphe umqeqeshi.

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Qinisekisa Imfundo Yezemidlalo Kumuntu Wengane Yakho

Ukwazi ukuziphatha komntanakho kukusiza ukuthi uthole izindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokufundisa ezemidlalo nezindinganiso. Izingane zihlukana zibe izinhlobo ezine eziyinhloko zobuntu, kusho uDkt. Fish: ngokomzwelo, eqenjini, enobudlova, nangokwenhlalo. (Nakuba izingane eziningi zizohlanganiswa ezimbalwa zalezi, ngokuvamile umuntu uyabusa.) Uma ungakwazi ukuthola ukuthi ingane yakho ingubani, uyazi ukuthi yini okudingeka uyenze kakhulu uma ufundisa ezemidlalo:

• Imizwelo : Gxila ekumfundiseni ukuthi ungathula kanjani futhi ukhululeke. Msize aqaphele ukuthi umzimba wakhe uphendule kanjani lapho ecasuliwe (ukuhlushwa kwemisipha, ukuphefumula okungajulile). Qinisekisa izindlela zokuphendula (ukubala kuya ku-10, ukuphefumula okujulile, ukuhamba okusheshayo).
• Unembeza : Msize ahlukanise phakathi kokuzama ukuphelela nokuphelela. Khuluma ngokubeka imigomo emihle yokuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani, esikhundleni sokuvumela ukugxila kakhulu kokubi.
• Ulaka : Yenza imiphumela icace. Mbonise ukuthi umugqa uwuphi, nokuthi yiyiphi impendulo ezoba khona uma ewela. (Khona-ke landela uma ephula umthetho.)
• S ocial : Sebenzisa ukucindezela kontanga ngenzuzo yakho. Gcizelela ukubaluleka kokubambisana nabalingani bakhe, bese umkhumbuza ukuthi bangamsiza ukuba ahlale ehle uma ezwa phansi.