Uma ingane yakho ibonisa intshisekelo noma ithalenta emidlalweni yezemidlalo, umbuzo uzovuna ngokushesha: Ingabe yisikhathi sethimba lezemidlalo elincintisanayo (noma ngokuncintisana kwe-solo)? Impendulo ihlukahluka kuye ngokuthi ingane; ezinye zifanelwe kangcono nengcindezi ephakeme ukuthi umncintiswano uletha. Cabanga ngalezi zici njengoba wenza isinqumo sakho.
Ingabe Ingane Yakho Indala Esiyanele Imidlalo Yomncintiswano?
Ochwepheshe emidlalweni yombili yentsha nokuthuthukiswa kwengane bavumelana: Izingane azilungele ukuncintisana kuze kube yilapho zingenani iminyaka engu-8 ubudala.
Ngaphambi kwalokho, abakwazi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kokuwina, ukulahlekelwa, nokulinganiswa nokusebenza kwabo. Kubantwana abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-8, imidlalo kufanele ibe ngomsebenzi wokuzijabulisa, ujabule, ufunde amakhono amasha, futhi ubeke isisekelo sokudlala kahle kwezemidlalo .
Lokhu akusho ukuthi zonke izingane zizobe zikulungele imidlalo yezokuncintisana ngokushesha uma iphendukela ku-8. Kwabaningi abantwana, kuze kube sekupheleni kweminyaka engaba ngu-10 ukuthi bangakwazi ukuqonda ezinye ze-nuances ezihambisana nomncintiswano. Kunzima ukufunda ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi, ulahlekelwa yize noma uzama okusemandleni akho.
Ngokuthuthukiswayo, izingane zidlala ngokuncintisana ukuze zithole ukuzimela ngokwanele nokuzinakekelwa kahle. Kudingeka ukuba bavuthiwe ngokwanele ukulalela nokuhlonipha umqeqeshi, kanye namazinga wemfundo yeqembu. Uma ingane yakho ithanda kakhulu umdlalo webhola kodwa engenayo isineke sokwenza imishini yokudoba ngokuphindaphindiwe, kungenzeka ukuthi ayilungele ukujoyina ithimba lokuncintisana.
Ukunciphisa ingozi yokulimala , izingane akufanele zidlale imidlalo yokuxhumana njengebhola kuze kube yilapho okungenani esikoleni esiphakathi (ubudala 11 noma 12). Kukhona ingozi yokulimala ngokweqile uma ingane yakho igxile emidlalweni ethile noma idlala indawo esemncane.
Ingabe Ingane Yakho Iyakwazi Kwanele?
Ukukhathazeka akulona ngaso sonke isikhathi ukulingana nobuchwepheshe.
Umntanakho angase akhonze ibhasikidi, kodwa agcine egibele ibhentshi uma ejoyina iqembu eliphambili kakhulu kuye. Amaqembu ezemidlalo okuncintisana ngokweqile afaka kakhulu ukuwina, okusho ukuthi abadlali abanamakhono abancane abanaso isikhathi esiningi sokudlala.
UJim Thompson ungumqondisi ophezulu we-Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA), okukhuthaza imfundo yezinhlamvu ngezemidlalo. Ukhuthaza abazali ukuba bafune abaqeqeshi kanye nezinkulumo ezigcizelela ukubusa ngokuphumelela nganoma iyiphi imali. Cabanga ngokuphatha njengomuthi we-ELM, kusho uTh Thompson. Abadlali bangakwazi ukulawula u- E wabo we-Ffort, ukuhola okungu- L , nezimpendulo ku- M istakes. Kodwa abakwazi ukulawula ukuthi bayanqoba yini noma balahlekelwe.
"Ngineminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye, eyisishiyagalolunye, eyishumi ubudala, izingane zifuna ukwazi ukuthi: 'Ngifanisa kanjani nabanye abantu? Ngabe ngcono?'" Uyachaza. "Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuncintisana ukugxila ekuphathweni. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuwina ukushaya ithimba elingaphansi. Kodwa lokho kwenzekani kuwe?" Thompson uyabuza.
Ingabe Ingane Yakho Impela Ifuna Ukudlala Ezemidlalo Ezomncintiswano?
Ngaphambi kokubeka phansi lelo diphozi, qiniseka ukuthi inhliziyo yengane yakho ikhona kulokho okwenziwe ngempela. Ingabe ufuna ukujoyina ithimba ngoba nje abangane bakhe baso? Noma ngenxa yokuthi abazali bakhe baye (mhlawumbe abangenandaba) bayamxosha?
Uma efuna ngempela ukuziphosela ezingeni elilandelayo, mkhulu! Kodwa uma engakwenzi, usenayo inketho yokujabulela umdlalo wakhe ozithandayo kwi-nonague or recague, noma ngemidlalo yokudlala nomndeni nabangani.
Futhi, cabanga ukuthi ingabe iqembu noma ukuncintisana komuntu ngamunye kulungile kumntanakho. Lokhu kuzoxhomeka ngokuyinhloko ngobuntu bomntanakho. Ezinye izingane ziphumelela emakhanini eqembu ; abanye bafuna ukulawula okwengeziwe ngekusasa labo. Ezinye izingane ezithola ukuthi ziyingxenye yeqembu zicindezela. Abanye bazizwa bekhathazeka kakhulu, bekhathazekile ukuthi bazovumela abadlali beqembu ukuba bahle.
Ukuvumela Ingane Yakho Ikhuphisane Ngezizathu Ezifanele
Kukhona umehluko obalulekile phakathi "nokuncintisana ukunqoba" futhi "ukuncintisana ukuphumelela." Ukuncintisana ukuwina kusho ukuzama "ukubusa nokugqama" kwabanye, kuyilapho ukuncintisana ukuphumelela kungcono "ukwenza kahle nokudlula imigomo yomuntu." Abagijimi abanesisusa esiyinhloko ukuncintisana ukuze bakwazi ukuhamba phambili bangabona izinzuzo ezinkulu, ngokusho kocwaningo lokucwaninga kwabagijimi abangu-110 esikoleni esiphakeme.
Lezi zinzuzo zihlanganisa ukuzihlonipha okuphakeme nokucindezeleka okuncane.
Abadlali abaqhudelana nabo ukuze baphumelele namanje baqhutshwa ukuba baphumelele. Kodwa isisusa sabo sivela ngaphakathi: "Ngifuna ukuba ngona engcono kakhulu engingaba khona" kunokuba "Ngifuna ukubhema bonke labo abanye abaqhudelana." Ukuncintisana ukuphumelela kuthatha ukugcizelela ukuwina nokulahlekelwa. Izinguquko zokugxila ekusebenziseni ukuncintisana njengendlela yokugqugquzela ukufeza komuntu ngamunye. Ukuncintisana ukuvelela kuye kwabizwa nangokuthi "ukuncintisana komuntu siqu," "ukuncintisana okuhloswe ngomsebenzi," noma nje "isidingo sokwenza kahle."
Ungakhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu nokuzethemba ngokuncintisana ngokugxila ekuthuthukiseni okungeziweko nokwakhiwa kwamakhono. Dumisani ingane yakho lapho ezuza okungcono kakhulu, ngisho noma engaphumeli umncintiswano. Isaziso futhi ubeke amazwana lapho enza usizo olubalulekile eqenjini lakhe, ngisho noma iqembu lingapheli ngempumelelo ngalolo suku. Qinisekisa ukumkhumbuza ukuthi uziqhenya kanjani ngokuzikhandla, ukuphikelela, nomzamo , hhayi nje imiphumela efana nempumelelo namakhophi.
Ukulungela Komndeni
Uma ingane yakho ijoyina iqembu, ikakhulukazi ithimba elithambile noma elihamba phambili, uzokwenza ukuzibophezela okukhulu kokubili isikhathi nemali. Ngaphandle kokufakela ingane yakho emisebenzini nasemidlalweni, cishe kuzodingeka ukuthi unikele ngamahora wokuzithandela (kanye / noma ama- dollar fundraising ) eqenjini, ku-club noma ku-ligue.
Futhi kunomndeni owodwa okufanele ucabangele, kusho uDarell Hammond, oyi-CEO yeqembu lokukhuthaza iqembu elithi KaBoom !. Ingabe imidlalo yezokuncintisana izongena esikhathini sokudlala kwengane yakho engakhiwe kakhulu, inqabile ukuklama kwayo? "Imidlalo yeqembu elihleliwe ibeka imithetho emantwaneni," uHammond uphikisana nesicoco esibhalwe iThe Huffington Post . "Kodwa uma izingane zihlanganyela emidlalweni yokudlala nasemidlalweni yomgwaqo, zijwayele ukwakhela imithetho ebekwe eceleni futhi zizakhele zona njengoba zihamba. Lokhu akuyona into ebalulekile ezinganeni ezincane-okuyingxenye yokukhalaza kwe-skateboarding, isibonelo , ingumoya wayo wokusungula, ukucabanga, ukuzimela, futhi, yebo, ingozi. "
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uphelele ezemidlalo ukuncintisana ngokuphelele. Kodwa ungase ufune ukulondoloza isimiso sezingane zakho ukuze bathole isikhathi esanele samahhala futhi.
> Umthombo:
> Hibbard DR noBuhrmester D. Ukuncintisana, Ubulili, Nokulungiswa Phakathi Kwabantwana Abasha. Izenzo zocansi Vol
>. 63, udaba 5-6, Septemba 2010.