Kuyinto ephathekayo edabukisayo ukuthi noma nini lapho izingane zihlangana, kufaka phakathi ezemidlalo, ukuhlukunyezwa kungenzeka. Naphezu kwethemba lethu lokuthi umdlalo weqembu uzofundisa okuhle kwezemidlalo , akuyona into engavamile ukuba abadlali bahlukumezwe yizingxenye zeqembu. Kuze kwenzeke phakathi kwabadlali bepro. Futhi kufanele unakekele noma ngabe ingane yakho ayiyona isisulu: Ngisho nabagibeli bangathinteka ukuxhashazwa.
Yazi Izimpawu Zokuxhashazwa Kwezemidlalo
Ingabe ukhathazeke ngokuthi kungenzeka okuthile okuqhubekayo nengane yakho noma ithimba lakhe?
Izimpawu zokuxwayisa ukuxhaphaza ezemidlalo zingafaka:
- ukungabi nabangane eqenjini; imibiko yenkohlakalo evela kubalingani beqembu (njengokungabandakanyi umdlali noma ukusho izinto)
- ukwesaba noma ukungathandi ukwenza umkhuba noma imidlalo
- ukulahlekelwa okungazelelwe kwenzalo emdlalweni
- iphikisana nabantwana bakini noma abangane besikole
- ukubuyela ekhaya kusuka emisebenzini ngokulimala okungahlongozwanga, noma izinto ezilimazayo noma ezilahlekile
- ukuziphatha okubi noma ukufutheka ekhaya
- izimpawu zomzimba, njengezinsizwa noma isisu-izinhlungu, inkinga yokulala noma ukulahlekelwa ukudla
- izimpawu zokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, noma ukuzithoba, njengomdlali othi akahle emdlalweni wakhe
Khuluma Nengane Yakho Mayelana Nokuhlukunyezwa
Buza ingane yakho ukuthi ikutshele kabanzi mayelana nanoma yiziphi izigameko ezikhulunywe ngazo, noma uthi uqaphele ukuthi kubonakala sengathi ayithandi imidlalo yakhe njengoba ayejwayele. Kubalulekile ukubuza imibuzo ngokuzithoba futhi nokugwema ukuhlambalaza ingane yakho njengoba ubutha ulwazi.
Yiqiniso, noma yikuphi ukuhlukunyezwa ingane yakho ehlangabezana nayo akuyona iphutha lakhe, ngakho yenza lokho kucace.
Ufuna ukuthi azi ukuthi uhlangothini lwakhe futhi ulungele ukumsiza ukuthi aphumelele lokhu. Qinisekisa ukumtshela ukuthi uyaziqhenya ngaye ngokukutshela ukuthi kwenzekani. Akulula izingane eziningi ukuba zenze.
Thatha isenzo sokulwa nokuxhashazwa kwezemidlalo
Kubalulekile ukuhileleka ngokushesha. Izingane ezikulesi simo zidinga ngempela usizo kubantu abadala abathembekile, ngakho-ke ungalindeli ingane yakho ukuba ihambe yedwa.
I-National Alliance for Youth Sports (NAYS) inikeza lezi zeluleko izingane ezingasebenzisa uma zibhekene nokuhlukunyezwa. Khuluma nabo ngezingane zakho. Ngezinye izikhathi ukudlala ukudlala kuyasiza futhi.
- Thatha umoya ojulile futhi uvumele umoya uhambe kancane.
- Hamba ubude ngekhanda lakho phezulu.
- Gcina izandla zakho ezinhlangothini zawo.
- Yiba nenkulumo ebusisiwe futhi egxile ebusweni, hhayi ukuthukuthela noma ukuhleka.
- Gcina ukuxhumana kwamehlo.
- Khuluma ngezwi elizolile kodwa ngokuzwakalayo ukuzwakala ingane ehlukunyezwayo noma labofakazi.
- Sebenzisa amagama angewona aphikisayo kodwa ngezwi elizethembayo. (Ungase athi, "Lokhu kungukuhlukunyezwa futhi angikuthandi. Misa ngakho ukuze sonke sijabule lapha.")
- Gwema ukubiza igama noma ukwenza izinsongo.
- Gwema ukukhomba ngomunwe noma ezinye izenzo ezisongelayo.
- Mfushane futhi uqondise nezimpendulo zakho.
- Gwema ukuletha ama-grudges amadala.
Nakuba ukunika amandla ingane yakho kubalulekile futhi kuyasiza, kungenzeka ukuthi uzodinga ukuletha lolu daba phezulu nomqeqeshi wakhe, futhi. (Gwema ukuxhumana nabahlukumezi noma abazali bakho ngokwakho, noma wenze ingane yakho ihlangane nabo.)
Ukuhlangana ubuso nobuso nomqeqeshi kungcono, kusho iNAYS, ngoba kubonisa ukuthi uthatha lokhu ngokujulile. Umqeqeshi udinga ukuba ngumlingani kubo bonke abadlali bakhe. Buza ukuthi umqeqeshi angenzani ukusiza ingane yakho (nayo yonke ingane) izwe iphephile njengelungu lethimba.
Uma ungenelisekile ngempendulo yakhe noma awuphumelelanga, thintana nabaphathi beqembu lezemidlalo ukucela usizo lwabo. Gcina ingane yakho ku-loop, futhi. Kungenzeka abe nemibono yakhe mayelana nokuthi yini eyomenza azizwe ephephile. Uma lokho kufaka phakathi ukushintsha amaqembu noma ngisho nokuyeka , sisekela isinqumo sakhe.