Izimemezelo zokukhulelwa: Okumele ukwenze uma kungekho othi, "Siyakuhalalisela!"
Usuku olukhulu ekugcineni lapha - usuku ozokwabelana ngayo ngalo isimemezelo sokukhulelwa nezwe. Cishe uzwela ukhathazekile, ucindezelekile futhi ujabule konke ugijimise esihlalweni esisodwa sezinzwa. Ingqondo yakho cishe igijima. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlele ingxoxo engqondweni yakho kusukela ukuthi utshela kanjani laba bantu ukuthi ukhulelwe ukuthi basabela kanjani.
Nakuba kuyiqiniso ukuthi ungakwazi ukulawula lokho okushoyo nokuthi usho kanjani uma wenza isimemezelo sakho sokukhulelwa , into eyodwa ongakwazi ukuyilawula ukuthi omunye umuntu uthatha kanjani ukukhulelwa kwakho izindaba. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase ukhathazeke ngokuthi bazocasuka noma bathukuthele futhi ujabulise lapho bejabula ngempela ngawe. Ngikhumbula lapho udadewethu esho ukuthi ukhulelwe, sonke sazi ukuthi umama wayezoshaya uphondo lwakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, wazilimaza kakhulu, ngaphezu kokubandakanya umkhulu kusukela ekuhambeni kwakhe. Nakuba kunezinye izikhathi lapho wabelana ngezindaba futhi impendulo oyitholayo iyalimala, ngokuqondile ngokusho izinto ezinokuthukuthela noma ezithinta umoya noma nje ngokungazinaki isimemezelo sakho.
Izindlela Ezinhlanu Zokubhekana Nezimpendulo Ezimbi
Nazi ezinye zezindlela zokubhekana nezimpendulo ezingaphansi kwezindlela ezivela kubantu uma wenza isimemezelo sakho sokukhulelwa :
- Cabanga ukuthi usebenza nobani ...
Ngezinye izikhathi usebenzelana nabantu abakuthandayo futhi ufuna ngempela ukuba ujabule njengoba ukhona noma okungenani ukusekela. Ngakho lokhu ukusabela kuyinkimbinkimbi kabili, hhayi nje kuphela ukuthi abajabuli kodwa bazama nokwehlisa injabulo yakho futhi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziyini izizathu zokuthukuthela, futhi zingase zibe ukukhathazeka okusemthethweni ukuthi ulawulwa, akusizibeki ukuziphatha kwazo. Zama ukuba umuntu omkhulu futhi uqhubeke.
- Batshele lokho okulindele ukuthi impendulo yabo ibe khona.
Uma ulindele impendulo engalungile, zama ukuhlela ingxoxo yakho ngokulindela kwakho. "Ngidinga ukukhuluma nawe futhi ngidinga ukuthi ulalele nje. Lapho sengikwenzile ukukhuluma ungabelana, kodwa ngidinga ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi engikudingayo manje ngukuthanda kwakho nokusekelwa ... "Bese uqalise ekumemezelweni kwakho kokukhulelwa. Ngenkathi lokhu kungase kungabi yindlela yokwelapha konke ukuphawula okubi, kungahamba indlela ende ukuphazamisa umlilo.
- Hamba futhi uhlangane.
Kuncike ekuphenduleni ukuthi ungamane ukhethe ukuhamba futhi uhlole ukuthi yini ongayenza ekuphenduleni kamuva. Lokhu kungakusiza ngempela uma uthanda ukushisa noma ukhethe izinqumo. Owesifazane owodwa okhulelwe wenqabe ukubambisana nogogo nomkhulu ngokusekelwe ekuphenduleni kogogo nomkhulu omusha. Lokhu kuqhuma futhi mhlawumbe akusho lokho okushoyo. Mane nje uthi into ethi, "Ngifuna ngempela ukuthi ujabule ngathi ..." futhi uhambe. - Babulale ngomusa.
Uma kungenzeka, abanye bazama le nqubo. Uvele uphendule konke abakushoyo ngento enhle. Lokhu kungaba umkhankaso onzima wokushayela uma omunye umuntu ethanda ukudlala umdlalo ongazinaki - uzenze sengathi awukhulelwe. Lokho kungadinga ingxoxo ehlukene ehlukile. - Beka ngokungazinaki.
Uma konke okunye kungaphumeleli ungaphuma futhi uphume ukuwabamba uma impendulo yakho ememezweni yakho yokukhulelwa ayiphumelelanga. Lokhu akusikho okushiwo noma kuyenzondo, kuyisivikelo kuwe. Uma ilungiselelo lingahunyushwa ukuthi lwanelisayo kokubili, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuhlola kabusha ubuhlobo.