Abazali babheke phambili labo abasha bekholeji ababuyela ekhaya ukuphumula ehlobo. Ukukhathazeka ukuchitha isikhathi nabo, bahlela ukwenza ukudla okuthandayo, ukuya emabhayisikobho, ukwenza izinto ezithengiwe kancane, mhlawumbe hamba eholidini. Ngenkathi zonke lezi zinto zizwakala zizwakala kahle, iqiniso liwukuthi ama-freshmen asekolishi aye ahlala iminyaka eminagogeni esuka ekhaya futhi abhekana nokuzimela nokuzimela ngokwezinga elikhulu kunokuba bahlale ekhaya labazali bangadinga noma bavumele.
Abazali kudingeka batshele abantu abadala abasebekhulile ukuthi yini okulindelwe kubo, futhi kudingeka balalelisise abafundi babo bekolishi lapho beveza imizwa yabo nemibono yabo.
Abazali abaye bachitha unyaka oseduze ngaphandle kohlobo lwabo olusha lwekolishi bangase bakuthole ukuhlunga kancane ukuze bavuselele impilo ndawonye. Kodwa njengoba kubuya ngokujwayelekile, kwangathi imicabango yabo manje ingaphendukela kulezo ezinye ezinye izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, esidlule, ezedlula ngokulinganayo futhi ekugcineni, zisishiye njengoba nje zazwakalisa umuntu omusha owafika ekhaya ezohlala nathi. - Susan Bonifant, The Other Nine Months- Lapho umfundi wakho ekolishi ebuyela ekhaya okokuqala - IWashington Post
Abazali bathumela izingane zabo ekolishi ukuze bafundiswe, bafunde ngezwe futhi balungiselele abantu abadala. Asikwazi ukulindela ukuthi babuyele ekhaya esimweni sabo sokuqala sekolishi. Ukuncintisana kufanele kwenziwe ngezinhlangothi zombili ukugwema ukuphikisana nokudumazeka.
1. Ukulindela okwenziwe ngokulinganayo mayelana nokuphumula kwehlobo
Umdala wakho omncane cishe uzoba nomsebenzi wehlobo noma enze umsebenzi wokuzithandela noma uthathe isigaba esikoleni sasehlobo. Uzophinde afune ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani esikoleni esiphakeme engakaze abone okwesikhashana, futhi adideke ekucindezelekeni konyaka wokuqala ekolishi.
Ukulindela omdala wakho osemusha ukuba abe etafuleni lokudla kwakusihlwa ubusuku bokudla komndeni akuyona into enengqondo, futhi akulungile. Emva konyaka wokuzimela, abantu abadala abasha bayodinga inkululeko efanayo kanye nokukhetha lapho beya ekhaya. Umdala wakho omncane akufanele aphathe indlu yakho njengehotela, kodwa akufanele adingeke abuyele emndenini njengengane, noma.
2. Hlela Imicimbi Engaphambili
Ungase ucabange ukuthi kuhle ukuvumela ulwazi lomuntu osemusha olusha ngoMgqibelo ukuthi wonke unina namalume baza ukuvakasha ngeSonto futhi kulindeleke ukuba bachithe usuku ekhaya, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi kakade bathenga amathikithi kumdlalo we-baseball noma banezinhlelo i-X-Box 1 marathon nabangani bakhe noma usuku lwe-movie nentombi yakhe. Ukuhlonipha isikhathi sakhe kubalulekile njengokuhlonipha isikhathi esithile somdala. Ungase ucabange ukuthi "uhlala endlini yami, kufanele akwenze lokho engikucelayo," futhi mhlawumbe lokho kuyiqiniso - kuze kube iphuzu. Uyakwazisa ukuzinika isikhathi sakhe lapho uhlela imisebenzi okulindeleke ukuba abe khona.
3. Hamba Kulula Ngesikhatsi
Khumbula, i-freshman yakho yasekolishi - kungekudala ibe yindlala-yenze noma yini ayifunayo, noma nini lapho efuna, ngonyaka odlule. Ukufika ekhaya emkhatsini wamabili phakathi kwamabili ngezimpelasonto akuyona into enhle kuye, futhi cishe, kuzokufaka ingxabano kaningi kunalokho ongathanda.
Ukunciphisa okuhle ukucela umdala wakho omncane ukuba akuthumelele uma ephuma ngaphandle kokukhululekile kuwe - isibonelo, uma ulala ngo-11 ntambama futhi ufuna ukwazi lapho ungalindela ukuzwa ukhiye emnyango , cela umbhalo ngo-10: 45 noma ukukwazisa izinhlelo zakhe. Nakuba kungenzeka-futhi mhlawumbe uzoshintsha - ngezinye izikhathi, kuyinhlonipho ngaye ukukugcina unolwazi ukuze ulale ebusuku.
4. Umfana Wakho Omncane Akufanele Abe Ngumngane Wakho
Kuhle ukucela usizo oluzungeze indlu, futhi kuhle ukulindela ukuthi agcine umshini wakhe uvalelwe ekamelweni lakhe. Ungangena ekamelweni lakhe, kodwa, ngaphandle kokuthi ulungele ukuyihlanza noma ukuthula.
Uma nje umuntu omdala osemusha ehlonipha izindawo ezabelwana ngazo ekhaya lakho - ikhishi, indlu yokugqoka, igumbi lomndeni, njll - lapho elala futhi egqoka kufanele abe yimikhawulo yakho, uma kuphela ngenxa yokuhlonipha ubumfihlo bakhe - nokuhlanzeka kwakho .
5. Lindela ukukhala nokulayeza ngezinye izikhathi
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ngokufika ekhaya ehlobo uchitha isikhathi nabangani esikoleni esiphakeme. Kungenzeka ukuthi bazoyeka ngendlu yakho njalo njalo. Jabulela lesi sikhumbuzi sezinsuku zesikole esikoleni esiphakeme. Vakashela nabo kancane bese usuka ngaphandle ekamelweni, uzinike isikhathi sabo sokuxhumana kabusha. Ingane yakho akuyona yedwa oye waba umuntu omdala osemusha - bonke banakho!
6. Jabulela ama-Moments lapho bedinga umama wabo nobaba
Sekuqinisekisiwe ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ezinyangeni zasehlobo umdala wakho osemusha, ozobe eseneminyaka eyishumi nambili uzofuna ukuzenza futhi aphathwe njengengane encane futhi - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kubanda ehlobo noma inhliziyo ephukile efuna ukuyenza. Nikeza futhi ujabulele! Nonke nizozizwa ningcono uma nikwenza.