Ingabe Ukulala Komndeni Kungakwesokudla Emndenini Wakho?
Ukulala ngokulala, noma ukwabelana ngombhede womndeni, kungaba isihloko esibucayi emibuthanweni yabazali. Abagqugquzeli bathi ukulala nosana kuyisiko esihlonishwa yisikhathi, esenziwa kwamanye amasiko amakhulu eminyaka, futhi sithatha izinzuzo eziningi, kuhlanganise nokuzihlonipha okunempilo kwabantwana abalala nabazali babo njengabantwana. Bakhuthaza ukuthi kukhuthaza ukubeletha, ngokunikeza omama ukufinyelela kalula ezinganeni zabo zokudla okubusuku, futhi kwenze kube lula ngaye ukuba aphule phakathi kokuphakelayo.
Kodwa-ke, abazali bazophinde bathole izimpikiswano ezinamandla kakhulu ngokumelene nomkhuba wokulala, kuhlanganise ne-American Academy of Pediatricians (AAP).
Kuthiwani ngokuhlanganyela ngokulala ngokuphindaphindiwe? Ingabe umbhede womndeni umane ugcwele kakhulu uma unamawele? Noma ingabe ibambisana nesisombululo seyimfihlo sokuthola ngempela ukuvala amehlo ngesikhathi sonyaka okhukhulayo ngezimpande? Njengemibuzo eminingi yokubeletha, ayikho impendulo ecacile. Isinqumo somuntu siqu umndeni ngamunye kuzodingeka uzenzele wona.
Ukuthuthukiswa Kwamuva
Ngo-Okthoba 2005, i-American Academy of Pediatricians ihlaziya izincomo zayo ngokulala, ikhuthaza abazali ukuba balale izingane zabo esihlalweni sokunciphisa ingozi ye- SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) . Kodwa-ke, ekupheleni kuka-2005, amangahemu okuthi uchwepheshe olele wezingane obuthongole wehlisa ukuphikisa kwakhe ukulala phakathi kwencwadi entsha (eyakhishwe ngo-Mashi 2006) yavuselela ingxabano.
Abazali bazizwa beqinisekisa ukuthi uDkt. Richard Ferber uguqule isimo sakhe sokuthi u-co-sleeping wasimpilo.
Ingemuva
Ngokomlando, ukulala ngokulala nezinsana kwakuwumkhuba wendabuko. Abazali bahlanganyela embhedeni wabo nezingane ezincane, futhi njengoba izingane zikhula, zalala nabantwana babo. Kodwa ezikhathini zanamuhla, izinto eziza kuqala emphakathini waseNtshonalanga zagcizelela indlela yokuzimela eyengeziwe yokulala.
Kodwa, umkhuba owenzela Okunamathiselwe Ukubeletha kwaholela ekubuyiseni embhedeni womndeni. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe abathile bezokwelapha kanye nababelethi bakhathaza umkhuba, babhekisela njengengozi ye-SIDS futhi bathi bangabangela izinkinga zokulala ezinganeni njengoba bekhula.
Imiyalezo ehlanganisiwe yabashiya abazali ku-conundrum: ingabe ukulala ndawonye kwakuzuzisa noma kuyingozi? Le nkinga yayiyinkimbinkimbi nakakhulu kubazali bamawele nama-multiples. Nakuba amandla abo angase abakhombe ekubhekaneni nomqondo wokulala, ukuphathwa kokuphindaphinda kungahle kube yinto engasebenzi. Ukulala ngokubambisana kubangele abazali abaphelelwe amandla ngokuphindaphindiwe, befuna noma yiziphi izindlela zokuthola isikhathi esithile sokulala okuyigugu. Kodwa, ngamawele amaningi, ama-triple kanye nezinye iziphindaphinde zisengozini ye-SIDS, ingabe ukulala ndawonye kungabonakalisa ingozi enkulu?
Izizathu Zokungaboni
Ochwepheshe bacebisa ngokumelene nokulala-ndawonye ngezizathu eziningi, kubandakanya:
- Ingozi Ekhulayo Yama-SIDS : I-American Association of Pediatrics ithi indawo yokulala ephephile yabantwana iyimpendulo yabo emkhathini. Abazali beziphindaphinda, izingane zabo sezivele zengozini enkulu ye-SIDS, bangase bafise ukuthatha izinyathelo eziqapha ngokulandela lesi siqondiso.
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala : Kubantu abangalali kahle uma "izivakashi," ukulala-ndawonye kungabhubhisa emaphethweni abo okulala.
- Ukungabi nobuhlobo bomzali : Umbhede womndeni awukhuthazi ubudlelwane bomshado. Abazali abafuna ukuqhubeka nokusebenza kwabo ngokocansi ngemuva kokukhulelwa ngeke bathole umbhede indawo yothando lapho izingane zabo zikhona.
- Izinkinga zokulala zesikhathi esizayo : Kuncane ukutadisha kwezesayensi ukusekela le mbono, kepha kukhona ubufakazi obuningi bokuthi abazali abakwazi ukuzitholela izingane zabo ukuba zilale lapho zikhula. Uma usungulwe, ukulala ngokulala kungaba yisibopho seminyaka eminingi uma izingane zingenqikazi ukuguqulwa embhede wabazali bazo.
Izinzuzo ze Co-Sleeping
Abagqugquzeli bokubambisana bafuna izinzuzo eziningi:
- Ikhuthaza ukubeletha : Ukubeletha kuveza izinzuzo eziningi zomama nabantwana. Abomama beziphindaphinda bangase bakuthole kunzima kakhulu ukubeletha amawele kunengane ye-singleton, ngakho-ke nanoma iyiphi inzuzo eyenza inqubo ibe lula kakhulu iyasiza. Ukulala ngokulala kunika omama ukufinyelela kalula ezinganeni zabo zokudla okubusuku.
- I-Sense yezokuphepha : Ukulala eduze nomuntu omdala kunika abantwana inzwa yokuphepha, okucatshangelwa ukuthi kukhuthaze ukuzethemba okunempilo. UDkt. Sears waphawula ukuthi kuneziguli ezilala nabazali bazo, ezitshela ukuthi "zakhula zibe (zabo) ezigcwele, ngokomzwelo, ngokwenyama nangokwengqondo."
- Ukulala Ababelethi Okuningi : Ukuvuswa kwasebusuku kunikezwa uma unezinsana, ngokuphindaphindiwe ngokukhethekile. Kodwa ngenxa yokuthi akudingeki ukuba bavuke futhi ngobusuku, abazali abalala ngokulala nabo bayakwazi ukulala ngokushesha ngokuphazamiseka okuncane kokulala.
- Ukulala Kwabaningi Abantwana : Ubufakazi bubonisa ukuthi abantwana abathandana nabo nabazali babo bashintsha ngokushelela ngezigaba zobusuku bokulala, mhlawumbe baqinisekiswa ukuba khona kwabazali babo. Baphinde bachithe isikhathi esincane bekhala, futhi bafaka amandla engeziwe ekukhuleni nasekuthuthukiseni, ngokusho kukaDkt. James McKenna, isazi sezingane sokulala.
- Ukubambisana Komndeni : Abazali bazizwa bekhula futhi izingane zizwa zikhuliswe xa zihlanganyela embhedeni. Kubazali bephindaphindiwe, ithuba elengeziwe lokubambisana komndeni kungaba isibusiso. Abazali abasebenzayo abangabantwana babo phakathi nosuku bangase bathole ukuthi ukulala ngokuhlanganyela kunikeza ithuba lokubambisana okwengeziwe.
Lapho Uqala khona
Ekugcineni, isinqumo esifanele sisebenza kahle emndenini wakho. Nanka eminye imibono ukukusiza ukuqondisa isinqumo sakho.
- Bobabili abazali kufanele bavumelane ngelungiselelo; xoxisana ngale ndaba nomngane wakho ngaphambi kokuba izingane zakho zizalwe.
- Ababhemayo akufanele bahlanganyele nezingane.
- Uma wena noma umlingani wakho ukhuluphele ngokweqile, akufanele ucabange ukulala ngokuhlanganyela.
- Abanye ochwepheshe baduduza abazali ukuba balalelisane nezingane zabo uma bephelile ngokweqile. Lokho kungabonisa abazali abaningi beziphindaphindiwe!
- Xoxa ngale ndaba nodokotela wezingane noma udokotela wezokwelapha osekela imibono yakho yokubeletha.
- Vula futhi uguquguquke - ungenzi umqondo wakho ngokusekelwe kudaba, kodwa yenza lokho okusebenza kahle futhi uzizwe ulungile kumndeni wakho.
- Okokugcina, njengokunye, cabangela i-bassinette ye-co-sleeper. I-Arms Reach - Original Co-Sleeper® Bassinet inikeza okungcono kakhulu kokubili kwezwe - indawo ephephile yabantwana abasondelene nendawo yokulala yabazali.
Amathiphu e-Safe Co-Sleeping
Dala imvelo ephephile yokulala ngoku:
- Ukususa noma yikuphi ukulala okunamandla kakhulu noma ukulala okunamandla.
- Gwema ukusetshenziswa kwezigqoko zikagesi.
- Ungalokothi ulalele embhedeni wamanzi, isepha noma esihlalweni.
- Ukubeka umbhede ukuze unciphise noma yikuphi ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi izingane zizoshada phakathi kombhede nodonga noma ifenisha.
- Ukungavumeli izingane zakini noma izilwane ezifuywayo embhedeni.
- Ungalokothi ulalele uma udlile izidakamizwa noma utshwala.
- Ukwenza ukubambisana okuyingxenye yesimiso sakho, hhayi umcimbi okwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Izingozi eziningi zenzeka lapho abazali nezingane bengakajwayele ukulala ndawonye.