Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sakho sisiphi isibhamu, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unesibhamu endlini yakho, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nezingane ngezibhamu. Izingane zinesithakazelo esingokwemvelo ngezibhamu futhi ngaphandle kwemfundo efanelekayo, ukungakwazi kwabo kungase kubulale.
Ngokwesilinganiso, izingane ezingu-19 zibulawa noma zithola ukwelashwa okuphuthumayo ngamanxeba okudubula nsuku zonke e-United States.
Izibhamu ziyisizathu sesibili esibangela ukushona okuhlobene nokulimala ezinganeni ezineminyaka engu-1 kuya ku-17.
Kulinganiselwa ukuthi ingxenye eyodwa kwezintathu zaseMelika inesibhamu. Ngakho kungenzeka ukuthi umakhelwane, umngane noma ilungu lomndeni unesibhamu, mhlawumbe engaphephile, endlini yabo inhle kakhulu.
Akunandaba ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho ikubona kanjani ingozi noma uma ungakholelwa ukuthi uzoke ahambe ehlola indlu yomunye umuntu. Kusho kancane ukuthi izibhamu zakho zihlale zivalelwe-ngisho noma izinhlamvu zihlukile-noma ukuthi ukuzingela noma ukubhekisisa umkhuba kuyiyingxenye ebalulekile emkhakheni womndeni wakho.
Indlela engcono yokugwema izingozi ezihlobene nezibhamu ukukhuluma nezingane zakho ngezibhamu ngokuphindaphindiwe. Ukubamba izingxoxo ezivamile kuzosusa imfihlakalo futhi kubasize baqonde ukuthi iziphi izibhamu, ukuthi zisebenza kanjani nokuthi zingabanika ziphephile .
Izikole zase-Elementary and Younger
Ngeshwa, abazali abaningi bathembela izingane zabo ukuba zingalokothi zithinte isibhamu ngemuva kokuxwayiswa ngokuphepha kwesibhamu .
Kodwa izifundo eziningi ziye zathola ukuthi ngisho nalapho izingane zatshelwa ukuba zingalokothi zithinte isibhamu, cishe zizobamba isibhamu uma ithuba liziveza. Futhi imiphumela ingaba yingozi.
Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ukhuluma nabantwana bakho bezingane zasesikoleni kanye nabasesikoleni esiphansi ngezibhamu kubalulekile, ingane yakho iseneminyaka lapho udinga ukwenza umsebenzi omningi kuye-futhi lokho kusho ukukhuluma nabantu abadala emakhaya owavakashelayo ukuthola ukuthi ngabe kukhona izikhali endlini.
Kungase kube nomuzwa wokuthi ingxoxo engafanelekile, njengokuba ubangalela ukuthi uqhuba umndeni ongaphephile, kodwa zama ukuhamba phambili-konke kuyigama lokuphepha kwengane yakho. Empeleni, omunye umuntu omdala cishe uyaqonda ukuthi ukhulisa indaba ebalulekile.
Ngendlela eqinisweni, tshela into efana nokuthi, "Ngaphambi kokuba ngivumele izingane zami zikhululeke endlini yakho, ngifuna nje ukuthola ukuthi zikhona yini izinto ezingangena kuzo. Unayo izibhamu ekhaya lakho? "Uma benza, gcizelela ukuthi zonke izibhamu zilayishwe, zikhiyiwe ngokuphepha, futhi zingenakufinyeleleka kumntanakho.
Kodwa, yiqiniso, lokhu ngeke kube yindlela yakho yokuzivikela kuphela. Izingane ezincane-ikakhulukazi abafana abancane-ngokwemvelo zinomqondo wokuzenza sengathi zidubule ngezibhamu, futhi ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane ezineminyaka engu-12 zinenkathi enzima ehlukanisa phakathi kwezibhamu zangempela nezidlala. Ngakho-ke, akukaze kusheshe kakhulu ukukhuluma nengane yakho ngalokho okufanele ukwenze uma behlangana nesibhamu.
Qala ngokumbonisa izithombe zezinhlobonhlobo zezibhamu, ngakho uyazi ukuthi zizozibona kanjani. Chaza ukuthi uma ehlangana nomunye-ngisho noma ecabanga ukuthi kungase kube yinto yokuziqhenya-ukuthi kufanele asuke endaweni futhi athole umuntu omdala.
Pushisa iphuzu ekhaya ngokumbuza.
Buza imibuzo enjengokuthi, "Ungenzenjani uma ubona isibhamu etafuleni endlini yomngane wakho?" Nikeza izinqwaba zokudumisa lapho ephendula kahle.
Njengoba ingane yakho ikhula, yandisa ingxoxo. Xoxa umehluko phakathi kokusetshenziswa kwezibhamu kumabonakude we-TV nemidlalo yevidiyo, ugcizelela ukuthi ziyizimo zokukholelwa, nokuthi yini engenzeka uma umuntu empeleni edutshulwa-awabuyiselwa impilo futhi abuyele emuva.
Abafundi base-Middle School nabaTweens
Uma ingane yakho isesikoleni esiphakathi, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi wezwa okungenani izigameko ezimbalwa zokuhlukunyezwa kwezibhamu ezweni lonke-noma kungenzeka emphakathini wakho.
Sebenzisa lezi zindaba njenge-jumping off point ukuze uxoxisane nabo bavule ukuthi izibhamu zingozi kanjani.
Qhubeka ukhuluma ngokubaluleka kokungathinti izibhamu, ikakhulukazi uma ethola isibhamu endlini yomunye umuntu. Yenza kucace ukuthi nakuba ingane yakho ingase icabange ukuthi uyakwazi ukuphatha isibhamu ngokuphepha, ukuqoqa isibhamu kungaba nomphumela obulalayo.
Umntanakho naye ubeka ingozi yokuba nomngane ofuna ukukhombisa izikhali ezisendlini yakhe. Ukuma kubangani kuyinkinga ebucayi, ngakho-ke ucabange izindlela izindlela zakho ezingaphumelela kuzo ngaphandle kokubangela ukuxokozela.
Phakamisa ukuthi uthi okuthile okufana nalokhu, "Lokhu kuyabuhlungu. Ake sihambe senze enye into. "Uma ingane yakho inomngane ozinikela ukumbonisa isibhamu, umqeqeshe ukuthi asho into enjengokuthi," Mhlawumbe kamuva. Ake sihambe senze okuthile ngaphandle. "
Ingane yakho ayidingi ukushumayela noma ukufundisa abangane mayelana nokuphepha kwesibhamu. Uvele nje kudingeka azisuse esimweni.
Uma uvumela ingane yakho ukuba izingele noma ifake isibhamu se-BB , qinisekisa ukuthi uhileleke ngokujulile ekufundiseni izinto eziyisisekelo zokuphepha. Futhi udale umthetho ocacile othi akavunyelwe ukuwasebenzisa ngaphandle uma umqondisa.
Abasesikoleni esiphakeme
Ngenkathi kwezinye izindawo zezwe, intsha isuke ibamba izibhamu ukuze ifune ukuzingela ngemuva kwesikole, kwezinye izindawo, intsha ithwele izibhamu zokwesabisa abanye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala kuphi noma ukuthi izibhamu zibhekwa kanjani emphakathini wakho, kubalulekile ukubamba izingxoxo ezivamile nengane yakho ngokuphepha kwesibhamu.
Intsha ingaba ingcindezi ngakho-ke ngisho noma ingane yakho ikwazi ukuphatha isibhamu ngokuphepha, isinqumo sesibili sokuhlukanisa konke kudinge ukuba ukulimala kwenzeke. Ngakho kubalulekile ukugcina izibhamu zivalelwe ngisho noma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho ngeke isithinte izibhamu zakho.
Kungase kube nzima ukuveza indaba yezibhamu nengane yakho. Indlela enhle yokuqala ingxoxo enzima ngokubuza imibuzo enjengale, "Ingabe izingane esikoleni zikhuluma ngezibhamu?" Noma "Ucabanga ukuthi omunye wabangane bakho uke waphatha isibhamu?"
Kubalulekile futhi ukuveza ukuhlukunyezwa kwesibhamu esikoleni. Khuluma ngalokho okufanele ukwenze uma omunye umfundi ehambisa isibhamu esikoleni-okungukuthi, tshela uthisha, umeluleki wezokuqondisa noma uthishanhloko ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuthi angatshela njalo umuntu omdala uma omunye umfundi ekhombisa nje noma esongela ukuletha isibhamu esikoleni. Khumbuza ingane yakho ukuthi, ngokwenza lokhu, ingasindisa izimpilo futhi ivimbele isimo esibuhlungu.
Khuluma nganoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okuphepha ingane yakho okungenzeka nayo. Buza ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho esaba ukuthi othile angase alethe isibhamu emcimbini noma ukuthi umuntu angase abe nesibhamu esikoleni. Ukukhuluma ngokukhathazeka kwengane yakho nokumsiza ukuba ahlakulele uhlelo oluzomgcina elungile lunganciphisa ezinye zezinkathazo zakhe.
Izimpikiswano Nemigomo Yokucabangela
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngezibhamu, nansi ezinye izinkinga okufanele uzicabangele:
- Izibhamu zemoto - Ukunquma ukuthi ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ibenzibhamu izibhamu isinqumo somuntu siqu. Kodwa ngisho noma ungathengi izibhamu zezitokisi, kunethuba elihle ingane yakho izenza sengathi amakhrayoni, izinti, noma isiqephu sesilimo esidliwayo esinamagatsha anamanzi uyisibhamu ukuze ucabange ukuthi ufuna ukuphendula kanjani ukuzenza sengathi udlale isibhamu. Ungase usethe imithetho efana nokuthi, "Awukho ozenza sengathi udubula abantu."
- Imidiya enobudlova - Imidlalo eminingi yamavidiyo namabhayisikobho ahlukunyezwa ngodlame lwezibhamu. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngokucophelela ukuthi ingane yakho ibheka ini. Ukuqapha ukusetshenziswa komsakazo wezingane zakho futhi unciphise inani lobudlova ingane yakho evezwe kuyo.
- Ukugcina isibhamu - Uma unesibhamu, gcina uvalelwe. Ungamfihleli endaweni 'eyimfihlakalo' ngoba kukhona ithuba elihle ingane yakho ekugcineni izithole. Ufihla izihluthulelo kwikhabhinethi yezibhamu, kodwa, futhi ungalokothi ushiye isibhamu sakho singalindelwe lapho usebenza noma usihlanza.
Izibhamu nodlame akuzona izihloko ezilula ukuxoxa nomntanakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engakanani. Njengomzali, ufuna ukuvikela ingane yakho kuzo zonke izinto ezisabekayo ezikhona lapha emhlabeni. Ngokugcina ingxoxo ivuliwe ngezibhamu, yilokho okwenzayo-ukuvikela ingane yakho.
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