Kungokwemvelo ukuba izingane zibe nemibuzo ngokuthi kungani uyise engekho empilweni yabo. Njengoba ubuhlungu, njengomzali osele, uzofuna ukulungele ngalokho ongakushoyo, kanjani, futhi nini. Ngenkathi ungase ungafuni ukwabelana ngemininingwane yonke yobuhlungu yokuthi kungani uyise engekho kukhona izindlela zokuphendula ezingasiza ingane yakho ukuba izwe iphephile kakhulu. Amathiphu alandelayo okuphendula imibuzo yabantwana mayelana nabakhokho abangakusiza uzokusiza kule nkulumo enzima.
Imibuzo Ejwayelekile Mayelana Nabantwana Abangenayo
Akuvamile ukuba izingane ziqale ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nabakhokho abangakabikho ngesikhathi sokungena esikoleni sasenkulisa bese beqala ukuthatha izakhiwo zomndeni ezahlukene. Eminye yemibuzo evame kakhulu ihlanganisa:
- Ubani ubaba wami, futhi kungani engasihlali nathi?
- Ingabe ubuya?
- Ngingamhlangabeza nini?
- Uyangilahla?
- Kungani abanye abantwana benabobaba futhi mina?
Ngeshwa, akukho ncazelo eyodwa okuzoyixazulula ngokuphelele imibuzo yengane yakho. Cishe, le nkinga izovusa izikhathi eziningi. Ungase futhi uqaphele ukuthi ingane yakho ibuza imibuzo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe . Kubalulekile ukuthi uvumele ingane yakho ukuba ibuze le mibuzo eminingi.
Amaphuzu okukhuluma ngezinkinga mayelana nobaba ongenalutho
Ungakwazi ukuhlela phambili imibuzo yengane yakho ngokuthuthukisa isethi yakho 'yamaphoyinti okukhuluma' - amagama kanye nemishwana ethize ofuna ukuyifaka engxoxweni lapho ingane yakho ibuza mayelana nobaba engekho.
Uma kunokwenzeka, incazelo yakho kufanele ifake isizathu sangempela sokuthi uhlanganyele ngaso ngesikhathi wenza isinqumo sakhe sokungabandakanyeki empilweni yengane yakho. Ngokwesibonelo:
- Wayengakulungele ukuba ngubaba.
- Sasihlala kude kakhulu komunye nomunye.
- Wadinga isikhathi sokubhekana nezinkinga ezithile.
Ngenkathi lezi zinguquko zingabonisi ukukhetha kwakhe ukuba zingabandakanyeki, zingasiza ukuqinisa ingane yakho ukuthi isinqumo asizange sithathwe ngabo .
Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane yakho iqonde ukuthi ayikho into eyabangela uyise ukuba ahambe.
Ngokushona uBaba ongenalutho
Uma kuziwa ekukhuliseni izingane zakho njengomzali ongayedwa, usuvele wazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukugwema ukulimaza isikhala sakho esidlule. Ngakho awufuni ukunikeza ulwazi olwengeziwe kunalokho okufanelekile. Noma kunjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi unikeze uhlobo oluthile lokuchaza ukuthi kungani engekho.
Kungani lokho kungumthwalo kuwe? Ngenxa yokuthi ingane yakho izakuveza incazelo yakhe uma ungamniki, futhi izizathu azakuza nazo zingase zilimaze ngokwengeziwe ukuzethemba kwakhe kuneqiniso.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele uhambe kahle phakathi kokusho ukuthi kungani okhethile ekhetha ukuthi angabandakanyeki futhi uqiniseke ukuthi awunamshayeli ojulile phakathi kwabo, uma kwenzeka ubudlelwano obuqhubekayo buba khona esikhathini esizayo. Kubalulekile ukuthi uthathe iminyaka yobucwaningi bakho lapho unquma ukuthi yini engafanelekile ukwabelana nabo.
Ngokukwabelana Ngezikhumbuzo
Okokugcina, kubalulekile ukuthi wabelane nomntanakho noma yiziphi izinkumbulo ezinhle oziphetheyo. Lezi zizoba imibono ayibambelele futhi isebenzise ukwakha umbono wakhe wokuthi ngubani uyise onjengomuntu - into engayibona uma ekhula futhi ehlola kabanzi ukuthi ungumuntu onjani.
Uma kunokwenzeka, yenza uhlu lwezinkumbulo ofuna ukwabelana ngazo, bese uqala ukuzifaka ezingxoxweni zakho mayelana nobaba wengane yakho. Khona-ke, lapho beqala ukuzibuza, "Ngifana kanjani nobaba?" bayoba nolwazi olwengeziwe lokuqhubeka kunokuba bazi kuphela ukuthi ungubaba ongekho owawashiya.
Khumbula futhi ukuthi zonke lezi zingxoxo kufanele ziboshwe ngothando. Awukwazi ukushintsha ukuthi ingane engekho yengane yakho ayihilelekile empilweni yakhe, kodwa ungamkhumbuza ukuthi ukhona, nokuthi awukho ndawo, nokuthi uyamthanda ngokuphelele futhi ngokungenamthetho.