Kuthathwa ngxoxiswano eyenziwe noDkt. John Demartini:
I-"Value Value Technology": Ingabe ikhona iphuzu lapho ubuchwepheshe obuningi bubeka ingane ngokukhubazeka kokufunda futhi buya ekusizeni ukusiza umntwana?
Ubuchwepheshe abuhle noma bubi. Akungathathi hlangothi futhi umphumela wayo uncike ekusebenziseni nasekuqondeni. Ubuchwepheshe buvela ekusizeni ngokugcwaliseka kwexabiso lethu eliphakeme, 'ukuphela kwethu engqondweni,' noma "i-telos" yethu.
Ubuchwepheshe bethu bavela ukuze basize sigcwalise i-teleology yethu. Yaba yindlela yokuphela futhi inani lethu eliphakeme noma i-telos laphela ekugcineni. Uma sibona ukuthi ubuchwepheshe obuthile busekela inani lethu eliphakeme, sibhala ukuthi lihle. Uma sibona ukuthi ubuchwepheshe obuthile bubekela inselele inani lethu eliphakeme, sibhala ukuthi libi. Ubuchwepheshe obunye buvumela izingane zethu ukuthi zingacingi ukugxila ezintweni ezingezansi eziphambili ukuze zihlale zidala futhi zinganikeza izinzuzo. Okunye ubuchwepheshe bungase buphazamise izingane zethu ekuqondeni izimpilo zabo. Kodwa lezi zinqumo zibuye zithandeke futhi umuntu ngamunye uzoba nombono ohluke kakhulu emisebenzini nasezintweni zobuchwepheshe ngamunye. Ngakho, ekugcineni ubuchwepheshe abuhle noma bubi kuze kube yilapho sikhetha ukwenza kanjalo.
Omunye umama wahlulela indodana yakhe ngokuchitha isikhathi sakhe kulowo "computer computer kanye nemidlalo yevidiyo usuku lonke" ngenkathi eneminyaka engu-16 ubudala. Kodwa-ke, eminyakeni eyisikhombisa kamuva lapho ebesebenza kakhulu e-IBM IT okwenza imali engaphezu kwakhe, waphinde wahlulela isinqumo sakhe futhi wandisa umbono wakhe ngokubaluleka kwalokho ayewake walahla futhi wazisa imizamo yakhe yokuzikhandla.
Kuwukuhlakanipha ukubeka phambili izenzo zethu usuku ngalunye ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwethu nokufeza ngokuphumelelayo amanani ethu aphezulu. Ubuchwepheshe buzohlala khona. Kuwukuhlakanipha ngathi sonke ukuba siyiqonde injongo yayo futhi siyisebenzise ngokulinganisela nangokuhlakanipha.
Ukuphila impilo engavamile yinto wonke umuntu ayifisa, kodwa kuba ngumsebenzi onzima kubazali abaningi abakhulisa izingane abanezidingo ezikhethekile. Abazali bavame ukucindezelwa ukunakekelwa kwansuku zonke kwabantwana abakhubazekile futhi banakekele kakhulu izingane zabo, ngenkathi bebhekene nenhlalakahle yabo. Yisiphi iseluleko ongayinika abazali abahlukumezayo ukuthola ukulinganisela empilweni yabo kanye nenhlalakahle yabo, ngenkathi benakekela izidingo zabantwana babo?
Izingane zethu zingatshela uma singcwatshise imizwelo nokukhungatheka noma uma sizidela futhi siqala ukuzonda. Kuwukuhlakanipha ukwenza uhlu lwazo zonke izinto esizenzayo ezidingweni zethu ezikhethekile futhi siqiniseke ukuthi senza ngempela okubaluleke kakhulu, okukhiqizayo futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sikhathalele. Ukuzibandakanya emisebenzini ephansi noma imithwalo yemfanelo ebalulekile ezungeze izingane zethu akuhlakaniphile. Ukufundisa indlela yokubeka phambili impilo yabo ngokuba yisibonelo sokuphila okuphumelelayo kuhlakaniphile. Ukudlulisela lokho okungahanjiswa futhi kubambelele izingane zethu ngokuziphendulela okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka ukukhathazeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma ungakwazi ukukhiqiza okuningi ngokusebenza, kunezindleko zokwenza izenzo eziphansi kuqala ekhaya, kufanelekile ukusebenza futhi unikeze lezi zenzo. Lokhu kuvumela isikhathi esihle sekhwalithi kubazali nengane. Ukubamba ingane yakho evelele ezintweni futhi ukuvuza ukukhula kwamasonto onke kungathuthukisa ijubane lokuzimela kwabo. Awubuwula kumntwana wekhono nempumelelo abakwazi ngayo. Ukushisa ukwenza izenzo eziphansi kuqala kusebenza ngokumelene nabazali kanye nengane. Ukuthembeka njengomzali onalindelwe kungavimbela ukushisa nokucasuka noma ukuzisola.
Ngusiphi iseluleko ongayinikeza izingane ezineziphene zokufunda ezilwa nezifundo futhi zilahlekelwa isisusa sokuphumelela? Bangashintsha kanjani izindinganiso zabo / ukucabanga kwabo ngokwabo futhi bafezekise ukugcwaliseka kuzo zonke izimpilo zabo?
Noma yini izingane ezingaboni ukuzisiza ukuba zifeze izindinganiso zazo eziphakeme kakhulu zizoxoshwa kusukela (ADD). Kodwa noma yini abayibona njengoba "endleleni" hhayi "endleleni" bayokwamukela futhi bafunde ngenhliziyo yonke (ASO). Ngokuxhumanisa noma yikuphi izingane okufanele zifunde kumanani abo amathathu aphezulu kakhulu singavusa ukuhlanganyela kwabo. Bazibuze, "Ukutadisha ngokuthe ngqo lokhu isihloko, isigaba noma into ezozisiza ukuba zifeze izindinganiso zabo ezintathu eziphezulu kakhulu noma yikuphi okubaluleke kakhulu." Iningi lempendulo noma izixhumanisi ezitholwe futhi zibhalwa, ukukhulumisana okukhulu futhi ukuhlanganyela ekufundeni noma eklasini.
Uma kunoma yikuphi isihloko esixhunyaniswe kakhulu nenani eliphakeme lezingane zethu, zizokwengeza, zigcine futhi zisebenzise lokho okufundile.
Izingane zihlanganyela ngokuphelele ekufundeni okubaluleke kakhulu kubo. Bathanda ukubhekana nomdlalo wevidiyo wezinselele olandelayo uma uhlasela emakethe uma bethanda imidlalo yevidiyo. Ngakho-ke, xhumanisa konke okudingayo ukuze ufunde kunani eliphakeme kakhulu futhi ubukele ukuhlakanipha kwabo ngokuzenzekelayo. Ezinye zezindinganiso zezingane zethu ziyaqhubeka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Iminyaka eyishumi ngamanye amanani wezingane zethu ashintsha kancane kancane. Izinzuzo ezengeziwe esizihlanganisa noma ezithintekayo ngokuphathelene nenye yezindinganiso zazo, eziphakemeyo zizophakama ebukhosini bazo obuphezulu. Izinselelo ezengeziwe esizihlanganisa noma ezihlanganisiwe ngokuphathelene nenye yezindinganiso zazo, ezansi zizowela ekuhlaleni kwazo kwamagugu. Ngokubuza imibuzo mayelana nezinzuzo noma ukuphazamiseka kwanoma yiliphi inani elilodwa singaligcizelela ekubuseni kwabo okubaluleka. Kuwukuhlakanipha ukwenza noma yini esiyithandayo ngokunikezela izenzo ezisezingeni eliphansi noma ukuthanda lokho esikwenzayo ngokuxhumanisa nokushintsha amagugu ukufanisa lokho esingathanda ukukwenza, noma ukufunda.
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