Unyaka ngamunye, intsha engaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-1 zaseMelika iphela ohlelweni lwezobulungiswa. Ngeshwa, abazali babo abaningi babengenaso isiqiniseko sokungenelela noma ukuthi bangathola kanjani usizo lapho bebona ukuthi izingane zabo zikhathazekile.
Ukwelashwa kwangasese kuyisihluthulelo sokusiza intombazane ehluphekile. Ukuthola usizo lochwepheshe kungasiza ingane ukuba ibuyele emgqeni oqondile ukuze ikwazi ukufinyeleleka emandleni akhe amakhulu.
Nazi imibuzo emihlanu abazali ababuza ngayo mayelana nomzali osemusha ohluphekayo:
1. Yiziphi Izibonakaliso Zentsha Esenkingeni?
Leli gama elisenkingeni elisenkingeni lisetshenziselwa ukuchaza izinkinga eziningi zokuziphatha noma ezingokomzwelo phakathi kwentsha. Abanye abasha abakhathazekile banezinkinga zempilo yengqondo , njengezinkinga zokucindezeleka noma i-ADHD, eziphazamisa ukusebenza kwazo kwansuku zonke. Abanye banenkinga yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, izinkinga zokufunda, noma izinkinga zomphakathi.
Izimpawu zokuxwayisa zezingane ezisenkingeni zibandakanya ukuziphatha ngendlela engozini, njengokuthandana, ukuhlolwa kwezidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala, noma ukweba.
Izinkinga zivame ukuqala endaweni eyodwa yokuphila kwentsha nokuhamba kwesikhathi, lezo zinkinga ziqhubekela kwezinye izindawo. Isibonelo, intsha ingase iqale ukulenga nabantu abangalungile , okungabangela ukuhlukunyezwa nabazali bayo. Amabanga akhe angancipha futhi ekugcineni, imfundo yakhe izohlupheka.
2. Ngingabasiza Kanjani Intsha Yami Engakhathazekile?
Enye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongayenza ukuze usize intsha ethintekayo ukuthi ungenele ekuqaleni.
Kulula kakhulu ukuxazulula izinkinga uma zikhona ezinyathelweni zakuqala. Kodwa, kungcono ukungenelela ekupheleni kunanini ngaphambili, ngakho-ke uma uvumele izinkinga ziqhubeke isikhathi eside, uthathe isinyathelo ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lapho ukuziphatha kwentsha yakho kumnene, ungakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokwenza izinguquko ezimbalwa ekhaya.
Ukuqapha ingane yakho kangcono, ukubeka imithetho eqinile, nokuphoqelela imiphumela . Isiyalo esifanayo singase sikwanele ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba yenze izinqumo ezingcono.
Uma uhlangabezana nezinkinga ezinkulu, funa usizo lochwepheshe. Ungalokothi uzame ukubhekana nokulutha noma ukuziphatha kobudlova ngokwakho. Impilo yengqondo noma ochwepheshe bezokwelapha bangakunika imithombo efanele.
3. Ngingayithola Kanjani Usizo?
Indawo enhle yokuqala ukuxoxa ngokukhathazeka kwakho nezingane zakudala zezingane zakho. Udokotela wezingane angasiza ekunqumeni ukuthi ukuziphatha okubonayo kubandakanya ukuziphatha okuvamile kwentsha noma inkinga engathà sina.
Udokotela wezingane angakunikeza nezinsiza ezifanele kakhulu endaweni yakho, njengengcweti yezempilo yengqondo noma isikhungo sokwelapha izidakamizwa. Udokotela wakho wengane uzokwazi futhi ukulawula izinkinga zempilo engokwenyama ezingase zibe nengxenye kwezinye zezinkinga ozibonayo.
4. Kuthiwani Uma Ingane Yami Inqaba Usizo?
Kuvamile ukuthi intsha eningi inqume ukuthi ayifuni-noma idinga usizo. Kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ingane yakho inqaba ukwelashwa akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuphishekela usizo.
Uma ingane yakho enqabe ukuya ekululekisweni, hlangana nomsebenzi wezokwelapha ngokwakho ukuxoxa ngezinketho zakho.
Ungase uthole ingane yakho ishukumiseleka ukuya ekululekweni ukuze wabelane ngecala lakhe endabeni uma ecabanga ukuthi ukhuluma ngaye.
Uchwepheshe wezempilo wengqondo oqeqeshwe angakukwazisa futhi mayelana nezinketho zakho. Ungakwazi ukusebenza nabanye abantu abadala, njengabafundisi bezingane zakho, abaqeqeshi, izikhulu zokuhlola, nabanye abazinakekeli ukudala imvelo ephephile, ehlelekile.
5. Ngingabhekana Kanjani Nokucindezeleka Kokukhulisa Intsha Eyinkinga?
Ukuphatha ukucindezeleka kwakho kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ongayenza ngenkathi ukhulisa noma iyiphi intsha, ungayishiyi ohluphekile. Kubalulekile ukuba uzinakekele kahle ukuze ungapheli amandla kangangokuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nezindaba zakho zentsha.
Cabanga ngokuzifunela ukwelashwa noma ujoyine iqembu lokusekela. Unganqikazi ukufuna usizo kubangani noma emndenini kanye. Thatha isikhathi ukuze uhlanganyele emisebenzini enempilo ukuze ulawule ngempumelelo izinga lakho lokucindezeleka.
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