Abaningi bamama omama abahlala ekhaya namuhla bathola ukuthi bangasebenzisa isandla esizungezile endlini futhi umfana angase abe yindlela yokugcwalisa leso sidingo. Kodwa umama ukhuluma nje ngokukhetha kwakhe ukuqasha umntanakho emphakathini, ngisho naphakathi kwamanye omama abahlala ekhaya, ngokuvamile uvame ukuphikisana kwengxabano kaMama Wars . Impendulo yokwahlulela ukuthi umama kumele abe novilapha noma angakhathazeki ngalomndeni wakhe ukwenza yonke into eyodwa ukuba ahlukanise abazali ngalesi sinqumo somuntu siqu.
Abanye abomama abahlala ekhaya bangase bazuze ngokuba nomntwana, noma kunjalo. Bheka ngaphesheya kwalezi zigwegwe ezinzima ukuze ubone izizathu eziphezulu ezingu-12 zokuthi kungani abanye abahlala ekhaya befuna isidumbu.
Ungagxila Ezinganeni Zakho
Kungase kuzwakale kungaqondakali ukuthi ukuba nomunye umuntu usize ukunakekela izingane zakho kungakusiza ukugxila kakhulu kubo, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Ukushisa komama kuyinkinga abaningi abomama abahlala ekhaya lapho bebanakekela izingane 24/7. Awukwazi ngisho nokuya endlini yokugezela ngaphandle komuntu oshaya emnyango noma ukubeka izitsha ngaphandle kwezandla ezincane uzama ukuthatha imimese.
Umntanakho angangena ekunakekeleni izingane zakho uma udinga into elula njengokugeza noma othile ozobuka izingane ngenkathi uya esitolo ngaphandle kwezingane ezine ezilenga eceleni kweqoqo lakho lokudla. Ama-Nannies angasiza futhi ngalezo zinto ezibalulekile zasendlini ezifana nokuhlanza, izitsha, ngisho nokupheka. Yebo, uhlala ekhaya nomndeni wakho usuku lonke futhi ungenza zonke lezo zinto njalo ngosuku olulodwa kodwa ngeke ujabulele isikhathi sekhwalithi nezingane ezingaphezu kwamanani?
Ukuqasha i-nanny kungakunikeza isikhathi esengeziwe sokugxila empeleni ezinganeni zakho ngaphandle kokuzwa sengathi nguwe ongu-nanny. Isikhathi oba nazo nezingane zakho siyigugu futhi sikwazi ukubanaka kwabo ngaphandle kokuba uhlu olude lokulenga phezu kwekhanda lakho likuvumela ukuba ube umama ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.
Ungagxila Kuwe
Ukukhulisa umndeni nokuphatha umndeni wakho akushiyi isikhathi esiningi sokuzinakekela wena. Sithi njalo umndeni wethu ufika kuqala kodwa kudingeka size kuqala.
Thatha kahle ngokwakho ngokuqasha usizo uma ucabanga ukuthi uyayidinga. I-nanny ingathatha ezinye zezingcindezi ozibekayo ukuze uzisebenzise isikhathi sakho esikhundleni sakho. Ufanelwe. Ukuvuselela nokuthatha ikhefu ngezikhathi ezithile kuzokukwenza umama okwazi ukuphatha kangcono zonke izinselele zokuzalwa komzali ezihamba ngendlela yakho, njenge-diaper ukukhwabanisa ukhilimu isakaze yonke indawo yakho entsha yokhuni oluqinile noma i-hairstyle ekhanyayo izingane zakho zanikeza inja enebhodlela le-glitter kanye ne-glue.
Akudingeki Uyenze Yodwa
Emiphakathini eminingi yasendulo, izizukulwane eziningi zazihlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa ukusiza ukukhulisa izingane. Ngokwesibonelo, eGrisi lasendulo, ugogo, odade abangashadile, nodadewethu abafelokazi babezohlala emndenini ukuze nje basize umama anakekele izingane futhi enze imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Nakuba i-Pew Research ibika ukuthi izindlu eziningi zaseMelika ziba yizigidi eziningi, ugogo nomkhulu kungenzeka ukuthi akuhambanga nje ukusiza ukukhulisa izingane, ngokungafani nezikhathi zamaGreki namaMeyi.
Kodwa-ke, ukuba khona kwabo ekhaya kunciphisa isimo sengqondo sosuku lwanamuhla sokuzikhandla lapho uhlala khona ekhaya uma usho ukuthi bangasebenzisa ngezandla ezengeziwe ukuze basize nabantwana nasendlini.
Unanny kungaba umuntu. Akudingeki uyenze yedwa futhi akudingeki uzame. Umntanakho angase angabi ngumndeni kodwa ngokuqinisekile ungazizwa sengathi uyilungu lakho.
Awusaphila eduze komndeni
Amama omama amaningi ahlala ekhaya ahlaselwa uma beqaphela ukuqasha umfana. Lona licala livela kokubili omama abasebenza kanye namanye amamama ahlala ekhaya.
Bamba ngokujulile futhi uzothola abaningi kulabo bantu abafanayo banomndeni edolobheni ukusiza.
Ugogo uhamba ngezikhathi eziningana ngesonto ukubuka izingane ngenkathi uMama eya ekilasini lokuzivocavoca noma u-Uncle Susan ubukela izingane ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku ukuze uMama nobaba bajabulele ubusuku obusuku. Ucwaningo lwango-2015 lwathola ukuthi i-American ejwayelekile ihlala ngamamayela angu-18 ukusuka kuMama. Lokhu kungase kungabi nguwe futhi ungabi nomndeni ozungezile kungabeka ubunzima obuningi kuwe ukuba ube yi-SuperMom uma kungadingeki ube.
Udinga Ukucindezeleka Ukukhululeka
Kwabanye, ukuba ne-nanny engumfokazi, okungenani ekuqaleni, kubonakala sengathi kucindezeleka kakhulu phezu kokukhulisa izingane nokulawula zonke izici zendlu yakho. Kwabanye, ukuba ne-nanny kungasiza ekunciphiseni lawo mazinga okucindezeleka nsuku zonke.
I-nanny ingakwazi ukugcwalisa izikhala ukuze kusize umndeni wakho ugijime kahle. Esikhundleni sokwenza uhlu olwenzayo okuhlanganisa ukuhlanza, izitsha, ukupheka, ukuqoqa izingane esikoleni nokusebenzisa izingane ezimbili eziphambene nezinkomba ezingafani ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuqhuba ibhola kanye nezifundo zokudansa, une-nanny ongena kuyo futhi uthathe icala imisebenzi ongeke ukwazi ukuyenza njengomuntu ongeke abe ezindaweni ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa.
I-Nanny Yakho Inika Ukuhle
Sekuyisikhathi esingakanani ukuhamba nezinye izingane zakho esikoleni futhi umntwana wakho usandalele embhedeni wakhe? Noma, njengoba nje ubathanda, kuthiwani ngalezo zinsuku lapho ugula kakhulu ukuba unakekele izingane zakho?
Ukuba ne-nanny kulula. Vumela ingane ijabulele ukulala kwayo ngenkathi wena noma umfana uhamba uthatha izingane esikoleni. Uma ugula kakhulu ukuma, ungaqiniseka ukuthi i-nanny yakho izothatha izingane kahle ukuze uthuthuke. Ngamanye ama-nanny kunesidingo esiwudinga kakhulu emndenini wanamuhla kanye nokuphila okumatasa abaholayo.
Angase abe Ukwandiswa Kwenu
Ama-nannies angakwandisa wena, hhayi ukufaka esikhundleni sakho. I-nanny efanele ilandela ibhuku lakho lokudlala lokubeletha uma kuziwa ekuqondiseni, izinkolelo kanye nezindlela zokufundisa. Isihluthulelo ukuvumelanisa kuzo zonke izilindelo zakho, kusukela emisebenzini yasendlini kuya ekuthandweni kokunakekelwa kwengane, ngaphambi kokuqasha i-nanny yakho.
I-nanny enolwazi ivumelanisa nemithetho oyibeke yona futhi ngokuyinhloko iba enye. Akaphikisana nesitayela sakho sokubeletha futhi uba ngowesandla sakho sokunene, ukukhuluma ngakho, ukunikeza usizo lwakhe njengoba nje ungathanda uma ungazihlanganisa. Akuyena wena futhi ngeke abe khona, kodwa ukuthi khona kwakhe kwenza ukuphila kwakho kube lula.
I-nanny ingaba ngumngani omkhulu
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, umfana ungumsebenzi wakho. Noma kunjalo, angaba umngane omkhulu.
Ukuhlala emakhaya omama ngokuvamile bahlala bodwa. Kungenzeka ukuthi abafani kakhulu nabazali basekhaya noma bamane abanaso isikhathi sokuhamba nabanye. Unanny angaba umngane othembekile. Unesithakazelo esinikeziwe ekunakekeleni izingane zakho futhi uyazazi kangako. Awuzami ukuthenga umngane lapha, kepha umntanakho usekhaya lakho, unakekela izingane zakho futhi angaba yingxenye yendlu yakho.
I-nanny efanele ingaba umngane wezingane zakho. Akayena umama nhlobo. Kodwa ungamshiya ophethe indlu yakho futhi wazi ukuthi izingane zakho zinomngane ozikhathalelayo ngenkathi ezinakekela.
I-nanny inikeza ukuvumelana nokuthembeka
Ukuqasha i-nanny ngesimiso esijwayelekile, ngisho nangesikhathi esithile, kunganikeza ukuvumelana nokuthembeka. Awukutholi lokhu ngezinye izinketho zokunakekelwa kwabantwana njengoSuku lweMama ophumayo kanye ne- co-ops yokuthola izingane. Uhlelo lwe-Day's Mom Out lungabiza kakhulu kunomfana kodwa ngokuvamile lunikezwa ngezinsuku ezithile zeviki nakumahora asekuseni. Ukubambisana kwama-co-ops mahhala kepha kudinga ukuba unikeze ngezinsizakalo zamahhala kubanye abazali ngokubuyisela.
Umfana onguchwepheshe futhi ohlala endlini yakho eseqashiwe. Angaba khona esimisweni esimisiwe phakathi namahora ovumelana ngawo ngenqubo yokuqasha. Ukuba khona kwakhe kunika umndeni wakho umuntu onokwethenjelwa nokuthi ungathembela ngaphandle kokuthembela esimisweni somunye umuntu sokushintsha noma amahora azinakekelwa ngosuku.
Uyakusiza Ube Nokwengeziwe
Unakekela wonke umuntu futhi lokho kungase kusho ukuthi uhanjiswe ezinkomba eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Awubonakali ukuthola into eyodwa efezekile ngoba uzama ukuthola izinto ezingu-100 ezifezekisiwe ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Nge-nanny, ungasungula uhlu lwezinto eziza kuqala okumelwe alandele ukuze ukwazi ukuhlela uhlu lwakho lwezinto ezibalulekile. Uzosebenza ngokuphumelelayo kukho konke okwenzayo futhi uthole ezinye izinjongo zakho ezifeziwe, futhi.
A Nanny Akudingeki Ukuba Isikhathi Esigcwele Noma Phakade
Ukuba ne-nanny akusho ukuthi ucebile. Izabhajethi eziningi zasendlini azikwazi ukukhokhela ukunethezeka kwe-nanny yesikhathi esigcwele. Ngenkathi ama-nannies ejwayelekile ukhetho lokunakekela izingane kuqala, ama-nannies amaningi esikhathi sesikhathi anamazinga angangena kwisabelomali somndeni wakho futhi ahlele kahle.
Enye indlela ukuqasha inzalo enkulingweni. Ungadinga kuphela i-nanny okwesikhashana, njengokungathi usenomntwana noma uma umndeni wakho ubhekene nesimo esizoshintsha isimiso sakho esivamile. Ukuba ne-nanny akudingeki kube ukuzibophezela kwesikhathi eside.
Imfuno Yomndeni Wakho Yona Okungcono kakhulu
Udinga ingane? Ngezansi, yisinqumo sakho.
Uma unenxenye yesikhathi noma ingxenye yesikhathi esigcwele yenza impilo yakho ibe lula, akunandaba ukuthi omunye umuntu ucabangani. Awudingi ukulungiswa kwabanye. Uma nje ukuqasha umntanakho kulungile kumndeni wakho, yilokho okubalulekile.