Ukukhuluma Nezingane Zakho Ngokufa

Indlela yokubhekana nesihloko esinzima sokukhathazeka kwengane nomfundi wesikolo sakho

Izingane zase-Grade school zikwazi ukuqonda kangcono ukufa-ukuthi into engunaphakade engenzeka kunoma ubani-futhi ingakwazi ukusingatha usizi kangcono kunalokho esikucabangayo. Ngalesi sizukulwane, kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho ivezwe umqondo wokufa nokudabuka ngama- movie , imibukiso ye-TV , izincwadi , ngisho nezingxoxo nabangani. Kodwa uma kungadingeki babhekane isandla sokuqala nokufa komunye umuntu osondelene nabo, kungasakwazi ukuhlala into engabonakali-into eyenzeka kwabanye abantu. Ukulahlekelwa umuntu oseduze nabo kungashintsha konke lokho.

Uma ngabe ingane yakho esikoleni isadingeka ukuthi ibhekane nokulahlekelwa othandekayo, kungakhathaliseki ukufa kukagogo nomkhulu, ilungu lomndeni, noma ngisho nesilwane, angase abonise usizi ngezindlela eziningi ezahlukene. Nakhu okunye ongakwenza ukuze usize ingane yakho iqonde ukufa futhi ibhekane nokulahlekelwa kwayo:

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Vula Emibuthanweni Ehlobene Nezisizi Zengane

Izingane zithandana ngokwemvelo ngokufa, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba zilahlekelwe ngumuntu siqu kanye nentukuthelo yengane. Yiba othembekile ngangokunokwenzeka ngenkathi uqhubeka ululaka ngokwanele kumfundi wesikole.

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Ungakugwema iZwi "Ukufa"

Ungasebenzisi imishwana efana, "uhambe," "ulahlekile," noma "ulale" ukubhekisela kumuntu oshonile, ngisho nalapho ekhuluma ne-kindergartener. Lokhu kungabangela ukudideka okungaphezulu kwengane encane, futhi unikeze umfundi osezingeni elidala umqondo wokuthi ukufa kuyinto okumelwe esatshwe futhi ingakhulumi ngaso.

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Qondana Nengane Yakho

Indodana yami yayineminyaka engaba ngu-6 lapho ngimvumela ukuba abone uBarardard , i-movie lapho ubaba efa khona. Ngemva kwezinsuku kamuva, wayekhathazekile futhi wayelokhu ebuza ukuthi ubaba wakhe noma mina ngingafa. Ngamtshela ukuthi akunakwenzeka, ukuthi sinempilo futhi sincane, futhi siyaziqaphela ngokungazibeka engozini. Kodwa angizange ngithi cha, asiyikufa. Njengoba ngangifuna ukumduduza, ngangazi ukuthi ukuqamba amanga kwakuyovele kumnike ukuqinisekiswa okungamanga futhi bekuyoholela ekubeni angathembeki lapho ethola iqiniso.

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Ungacabangi ukuthi ingane yakho iyayiqonda yonke into yokuqala

Angase abuze imibuzo efanayo, ngokuphindaphindiwe kwamasonto noma ngisho nezinyanga. Kunezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Kungaba nzima kumntwana wesikole esikoleni sokuqala ukugaya yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kungase futhi azame ukuyisebenzisa engqondweni yakhe ngokuphindaphindiwe. Futhi ulwazi olufanayo lungaba nenjongo kuye ngezindlela ezahlukene njengoba ekhula emoyeni nangengqondo.

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Ungesabi Ukwamukela Akukwazi Ukuthile

Izingane ezineminyaka yobudala bebanga lesikoleni zingakunikela ngemibuzo mayelana nezinto ezinjengokuthi uzizwa kanjani emva kokufa nokuthi kungani ungeke usakhuluma nomuntu uma esedlula. Kungcono ukwethembeka ngokuthi awukwazi konke kunokuqamba amanga noma ukumnikeza incazelo ocabanga ukuthi uzofuna ukuzwa.

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Lindela Ukuthatha Isikhathi Esithile

Usizi lungaba yinqubo, ngisho nabantu abadala. Isikole sakho esikoleni esikhulayo singase sibonakale singenasisekelo mayelana nokufa komuntu othandekayo bese sihlukana nebheyi eliphukile.

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Lindela ezinye imizwelo

Ingane yakho ingathukuthela ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumuntu. Angase abe nomuzwa wecala, ikakhulukazi ngokufa kwengane noma umzali (umntwana omncane angase akholelwe ukuthi lo muntu ufile ngoba "wayebi.") Angase avuselele, aphinde ahlale ekhanda noma afune ukungena embhedeni wakho.

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Cabanga Ukuvumela Ingane Yakho Ingene Emngcwabeni

Umkhosi ungasiza ingane yakho ukucubungula ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Kodwa qiniseka ukucabangela ubuntu bomntanakho nokuthi ngabe umzwelo kungenzeka kanjani. Uma ingane yakho izwela kakhulu ekudabukeleni komunye futhi kungenzeka ukuthi iyakhathazeka kakhulu lapho abanye bekhala, kungaba ngcono ukumgcina ekhaya.

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Nika Igumbi Lakhe Ukulila

Menze azi ukuthi ulungele ukulalela noma uphendule imibuzo kodwa ungamcindezeli uma ebonakala engafuni ukukhuluma.

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Yamukela imizwa yakho

Abafundi beBanga-banga banamathuba okuba bahambisane nemizwelo yakho, ngakho-ke ungazami ukufihla usizi lwakho. Ngenkathi ungafuni ukuthi ingane yakho ikubone ukuhlukana-kungase kube yinto esabekayo yezingane ukubona umthombo wabo wokusekela uqubuka-ungazami ukufihla imizwa yakho. Ngokumtshela ukuthi kuhle ukukhala nokudabuka ngokulahlekelwa ngumuntu omthandayo, uyamfundisa indlela yokusingatha ukulahlekelwa ngendlela enempilo.