Inhlamba ekucindezelekeni kwe-postpartum yamama isinciphisa. Sikhuluma ngakho ngaphezulu emithonjeni, kumahhovisi odokotela nakumaqembu omama. Kuyamangalisa ukuthi abesifazane abaningi bafuna ukwelashwa, kodwa ingabe sishiya abababa? Osukwini lwesimanje obaba bayingxenye ebalulekile ekukhuliseni izingane. Njengoba obaba abaningi behlanganyela imisebenzi yokukhulisa izingane futhi bachitha isikhathi esiningi ekhaya, obaba banamuhla banenkinga yokucindezeleka kokuhamba ngemuva nokucindezeleka.
Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kwabazali (PPND), noma isimo sengqondo sokuzalwa komuntu kanye nokukhathazeka kokukhathazeka (i-PPMADs) yizinhlobo zokucindezeleka noma esinye isifo sengqondo njengokukhathazeka. Lezi zinkinga zifana nalokho abanye abomama abakuthola ngemuva kokufika kwengane entsha. Abaningi kwabababa abane abasha e-United States bangase babe nokucindezeleka okukhulu ngemva kwamasonto amane ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane. Amaphesenti angama-50 wamadoda abika ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha komntwana lapho umlingani wakhe elwa nokucindezeleka kokuphuma kwesisu, futhi amadoda angamaphesenti angu-18 abhekene nokukhathazeka kokuthunyelwa kwesibindi okuvumela ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni nokwelapha. Lezi zinombolo ziyamangalisa kakhulu, kodwa okwesabisa nakakhulu ukuthi iningi lalezi zinkinga zempilo yengqondo azitholakali, zihlolwe noma ziphathwe.
Ucwaningo lwamuva lugcizelela imiphumela emibi ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha nokukhathazeka kungase kube nokukhulisa njengoba izingane zikhula zibe izingane ezincane.
Esicwaningweni socwaningi abavela esifundweni seNyuvesi yaseNorweswestern salandele imibhangqwana engu-199 ngesikhathi samasonto ayisithupha okuqala okuphila kwengane bese bebuyela kubambiswano emva kwezinyanga ezingu-45. Ngamunye, umzali ngamunye wagcwalisa imibuzo ekuhloliseni amazinga abo okucindezeleka kanye nemizwa yengane nemikhuba yabo.
Ucwaningo lwathola ukuthi ubaba onabantwana blues angaba nethonya elikhulu ekuziphatheni kwengane njengoba umama elwa nento efanayo.
"Iqiniso liwukuthi, ngenxa yokuthi ngokuvamile kubazali ababili ekhaya abasebenza nengane, izimpawu zokucindezeleka zababelethi zombili zingaba nezinga elifanayo kakhulu lapho kudingeke ukuba kusetshenziswe khona," kusho uShehan D. Fisher, umlobi ohlangene wesifundo.
Ukudabuka nokuntuleka kwesisusa esihlotshaniswa nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kungabangela umzali omncane ongathintekayo futhi manje ukuthi obaba bayabandakanyeka njengamama, kubalulekile ukugxila ezidingo zabazali bobabili.
"Ngokuvamile, esimweni sethu, obaba akubhekwa njengabalulekile ekunakekeleni kwengane," kusho uFisher. "Manje ukuthi sekukhona ushintsho kobaba olubandakanyeka kakhulu, ngicabanga ukuthi sesiqala ukubona ukuthi kudingeka sigxile kuzo zombili abazali."
Yini engakwandisa amathuba akho okubhekana nokukhathazeka komzimba kanye nezinkinga zokukhathazeka:
- Ukungabi nokulala okuhle
- Izinguquko kuma-hormone
- Umlando womuntu siqu wokucindezeleka
- Ubuhlobo obubi nomlingani
- Ubuhlobo obubi nomzali oyedwa noma bobabili
- Ukucindezeleka kobudlelwane - nomlingani noma nemithetho kamasipala
- Ukucindezeleka ngokweqile ngokuba umzali noma ubaba
- Umndeni ongenamkhawulo (njengokungashadile noma umama ophansi)
- Ukusebenza okungalungile komphakathi
- Ukuntuleka kokusekelwa kwabanye
- Izinkinga zomnotho noma izinsizakalo ezinganiselwe
- Umqondo wokushiywa ngaphandle kokuxhumana phakathi komama nengane
Izimpawu zemizwa yesifo sofuba kanye nezinkinga zokukhathazeka:
Ungase ube nesimo sengqondo sokubeletha nesifo sokukhathazeka uma uzizwa ukhathazekile, ungenalutho, unomsindo futhi unomsindo, noma ungalawulwa ukulandela ukuzalwa kwengane. Ezinye izimpawu amadoda angase azizwe zihlanganisa ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo mayelana nokuhlinzeka ngemali emndenini wakho, ukukhathazeka ngokubeletha, ukuzonda noma ukuhoxiswa emndenini nabangane. Ngezinye izikhathi ukucindezeleka kwamadoda kubonakala njengezimpawu zomzimba, izinkinga zokulala ezinjalo, ukungasebenzi ngokobulili, ukuqubuka komzimba, ukuphathwa ikhanda njalo noma ukuphazamiseka kokugaya.
Ukwelashwa kwemizwa yesifo sofuba kanye nezinkinga zokukhathazeka:
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekwelapheni sivula umlingani wakho kanye nabanye abathandekayo. - ukuvuma nje ukuthi unzima kunesinyathelo esikhulu. Amadoda amaningi awakhulumi ngalezi zinhlobo zemizwa futhi angase abe nenkinga ukuqala ingxoxo ukuze abesifazane kufanele basize abalingani babo babe nezingxoxo ezinzima. Isinyathelo esilandelayo sithola umhlinzeki wezempilo oqeqeshiwe, njengodokotela noma ochwepheshe abangakwazi ukuhlola izimpawu zakho bese beza nesiphakamiso sokwelapha esikusebenzelayo. Amanye amadoda angase azuzwe ngophrotherapy ngayinye noma ajoyine iqembu lokusekela namanye amadoda aphikisana nezinto ezifanayo. Kwabanye, imithi ingadingeka. Ukuzinakekela kubaluleke kakhulu kubantwana bobabili ngesikhathi se-postpartum. Thatha isikhathi sakho - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubusuku nohlobo, uhambo olude noma isikhathi esithile e-gym. Lezi zenzo zizohluka ubaba ngamunye, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula indoda owayiyo ngaphambi kokuba ubelethe futhi uthole injabulo emisebenzini eyenza ujabule ngaphambi kokuba ubaba.