Yiziphi izizathu zezingqikithi ezithinta ama-tantrum nokuningi?
Yiziphi ezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani ingane yakho izothatha isinyathelo? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ivutha kakhulu, noma yamuva nje futhi ngokuzumayo yaqala ukuba ne-meltdowns, ukuthola imbangela yokuziphatha kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile sokuqala ekuxazululeni inkinga.
Ukwenza Ukuziphatha
Akudingeki ukuthi sichaze igama elithi "ukwenza izinto" ukuze abazali baqonde ukuthi sikhuluma ngani.
Kodwa kubalulekile ukunikeza incazelo yokuziphatha ngokuziphatha ngaphambi kokukhuluma ngezimbangela ezikhona.
Inkulumo ethi "ukwenza okuthile" ngokuvamile ibhekisela ekuziphatheni kwezinkinga eziyingozi ngokomzimba, ezonakalisa impahla, ezenzakazayo, noma ezinzima kakhulu kunokuziphatha okungalungile okulula. Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo kuyaphazanyisa kunoma yisiphi isilungiselelo futhi ngokuvamile kudinga ukungenelela kokuziphatha okusemthethweni ukuyilawula. Amanye amagama abazali angasetshenziswa ukuchaza lokhu kuhlanganisa kufaka:
- I-Temper iduma
- Ukungena
- Ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo
- Ukucindezela
- Ukuchaza
- Ukuziphatha okuphikisanayo
Kungani Ingane 'Yokuphuma'?
Kunezizathu eziningana zezizathu zokuziphatha ngokuziphatha, futhi bambalwa kulula njengokuthi "ungumntwana omubi." Lapho ingane iphuma, isibonelo sokuziphatha okungalungile kuvame ukusetshenziselwa ukumboza imizwa ejulile yobuhlungu, ukwesaba noma isizungu.
Yiqiniso, uma sitshela ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengane yinkomo embi, senza izizathu zakhe zokuzikhandla esikhundleni sokunciphisa.
Siphinde sishiye ingane ukuba ikwazi ukuzwa yedwa yedwa noma yiziphi imizwelo ayibhekene nayo.
Izizathu Zokuziphatha
Njengoba ukuthola ukuthola isisombululo sokwenza ukuziphatha kudinga ukuthola isizathu sokuziphatha (ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi ingane ingumntwana omubi) kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngalokho ezinye zezizathu zingaba khona.
Lezi azibonakali njalo, futhi empeleni, zingangcwaba ngokujulile. Ngezinye izikhathi isenzo sokudabuka senzelwe ukufihla umthombo wokuziphatha kabi kwabazali. Ukubheka ngayinye yalezi zindlela-ngaphandle kokuzixosha ngokungenakwenzeka esimweni sakho-kubalulekile ukuze uthole emthonjeni olimaza wena nomntanakho. Abazali abaningi bayamangala lapho befunda ngesibangela esiyimbangela yengane yabo. Ake sibheke ezinye zezizathu zokwenza lokhu:
1. Ukuphendula Okuvamile Kwesimo Esibuhlungu
Ezinye izingane ziyasabela ngoba ziphendula esimweni esibacasulile kuze kube lapho bengakwazi ukulawula imizwelo yabo. Kwezinye izimo, ingane ikhishwe ekuphenduleni kwabanye abafundi ekilasini. Kule ndaba futhi ukuziphatha okuwukuphela kwesikhulumi, ingane ehlushwa kabi iyojeziswa ngokuphendula ukuhlukunyezwa. Isijeziso, ngomqondo othile, sifundisa ingane ukuthi akanalo ilungelo lokuvikelwa noma ukuzwa, okuphambene nalokho esikufisa izingane zethu uma kuziwa ekwakheni ukuzethemba kwabo .
Kwezinye izimo, ingane ingaphendula okuthile okwenzeka ngaphandle kokusetha ngokushesha.
Isibonelo, ingane ehlukunyezwa ekhaya ingase "iphumelele" esikoleni lapho ingabonisa khona imizwa yakhe ngokuphepha okukhulu. Ehlangothini lwe-flip, ingane ehlukunyezwa esikoleni ingase "iphumelele" intukuthelo yakhe nokukhungatheka ngokungahambi kahle ekhaya.
2. Izimo zempilo yengqondo ezingenakunqunywa
Ezinye izingane "zenza okuthile" ngenxa yezifo ezingalashwa. Ezinye izimo ezingase zibe ngaphansi kokuziphatha ngokuziphatha zihlanganisa:
- Ukwehluleka kokukhathazeka / ukucindezeleka kokugula (ADHD)
- I-Autism
- Izinkinga zokukhathazeka ezifana nesifo sokukhathazeka jikelele
- Ukucindezeleka okuqaphileyo kokuqapha
Nakuba zonke lezi zinkinga zingaphathwa ngokuphumelelayo ngokuhlanganiswa kwemithi yokwelapha, ukwelashwa kufanele kube okufanele futhi kuhambisane.
Izinkinga ezingenakuqhathaniswa ezingaziwa
Kwezinye izimo, izingane "ziyaphuma" ngenxa yezinkinga ezithinta izinkinga ezinjenge-sensory processing disorder, ezingase zingabonakali. Isibonelo, izingane eziningi ezine-autism (kanye nalabo abambalwa ngaphandle kokuxilongwa okuqondile) zingase zibe nezinselelo ezenza izinto ezivamile zizwakale zibuhlungu. Cabanga ukuchitha lolo suku ukubhekana nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo ngendlela yokukhanya okukhanyayo, izihlalo ezihlambalazayo, nezingubo ezingavamile. Esimweni esinjalo, cishe noma ubani angathola kunzima ukuhlala ezolile.
4. Ukukhubazeka Okufundile Okungafundiwe
Esinye isizathu sokuthi "usebenze" singase sikhungatheke ngenxa yokukhubazeka okungafundiwe noma okungafundiwe. Ingane ene-isibonelo, ukungena kwe-dyslexia engatholakali kuyokwehla futhi kuqhubeke ngemuva esikoleni. Ekugcineni, uma izinselelo zakhe zingakhulumi, ngeke akwazi ukufunda esimweni esivamile sokubeka amakilasi. Ngaphandle kokuba izinguquko zenziwe, akanayo lutho esikoleni sakhe ngaphandle kokungena enkingeni!
5. Indlela Yokunakekelwa Kubantu Abadala
Ngokuqinisekile kunezinye izingane "ezenza" njengendlela yokuthola ukunakekelwa noma okubi-kubantu abadala. Ungase ufise ukuhlola lezi zindlela zokubeletha izingane ezivame ukufuna ukunakwa ngokusebenzisa ukuziphatha okungalungile , futhi ufunde ngalezi zindlela ezinhle zokunakwa ezinganciphisa ukuziphatha okubi. Kukhona nokuziphatha okunye, okufana nokuhlukunyezwa kwamandla , ngezinye izikhathi okungcono kwesokunxele okunganaki .
6. Ukuthakazelisa Ontanga
Kukhona futhi lezo zingane "ezenza" ukuze zijabulise ontanga. Ngisho noma kunjalo, kunjalo kubalulekile ukuqonda isisusa esilandelayo lesi sidingo sokumangalisa. Kwezinye izimo lezi zingane ziyayinakekelwa ngempela noma zivinjelwe; kwezinye izimo, bavele behlekisa ngokwabo. Noma ngabe yikuphi, uma bezama ukwenza ukuthi baqaphele, bayaqhubeka behlukumezeka.
Thola Imbangela Ngaphambi Ukwelashwa
Ngaphambi kokuthuthukisa noma yiluphi uhlobo lokungenelela noma uhlelo lwezokwelapha lomntwana osebenza ngaphandle, kubaluleke ngempela ukuthola isizathu sokuziphatha kwakhe. Yingakho kuphela izimpikiswano eziyinkinga ezizobhekana nazo. Ngemva kokuba imbangela yokuziphatha iqondwa ingashintshwa ngempumelelo.
Izibonelo: Ukuziphatha ngokuziphatha kuyimbangela enkulu yokumiswa nokuxoshwa ezikoleni.