Abangane ungavumeli abangane bakhethe abanye
Ukuxhashazwa kwenzeka nsuku zonke ezikoleni ezweni lonke. Ezinsukwini ezithile uzozibona futhi ezinsukwini ezithile ngeke ukwazi. Kodwa uma kwenzeka ngqo phambi kwakho ngumngane oseduze, udinga ukwenza okuthile ngakho. Wena unecala kumngane wakho ukukhuthaza umusa nenhlonipho. Futhi unesibopho kumuntu ohlukumezekile ukuwuqeda. Nazi izinto ezinhlanu ongazenza ukuze uvimbele umngane wakho ekuhlukunyezweni .
Isho okuthile
Uma ubona umngane wakho ekuhlukumeza umuntu , kubalulekile ukuthi usho okuthile ukuqeda ukuziphatha. Akufanele neze uhlale uthule. Kubo bonke abantu abafakaza ukuxhashazwa, ungumuntu okwazi ukuyiqeda. Awudingi ukuklaba noma ukwenza into enkulu kulo. Mane nje uthi "yeka" noma "lokho akupholile." Ungaphazamisa umngane wakho ngokubuza umbuzo ongavamile. Kodwa into ebalulekile ukuthi uthi okuthile. Noma yini oyenzayo, ungahleki noma ujoyine. Lokhu kungenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu kulesi sisulu. Futhi ikhuthaza umngane wakho ukuthi aqhubeke nokuhlukunyezwa.
Enza into
Uma utshela umngane wakho ukuba ayeke uzizwe engafanelekile, bese uphazamisa umngane wakho ngandlela-thile. Yenza ihlaya noma ukhuthaze umngane wakho ukuba eze nawe ukuze athole okuthile kumshini wokuthengisa. Ungase uqale ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nesikole noma ithimba lezemidlalo. Umgomo ukudala ukuphazamiseka ngandlela-thile ukuze umngane wakho ayeke ukuhlukunyezwa.
Khumbula, uma ungakwenzi noma usho okuthile, ukuthula kwakho kusho ukuthi uvumelana nokuxhashazwa. Uma umngane wakho eqhubeka ehlukumeza, ungahlala uhamba kude nesimo. Ngale ndlela, awunikezi umngane wakho izilaleli zokuxhashazwa. Futhi, ukumane nje uhambe uthumela umlayezo onamandla kakhulu mayelana nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngokuhlukunyezwa.
Phakamisa Izingozi
Uma isimo sesiphelile, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nomngane wakho ngezingozi zokuxhashazwa. Mkhumbuze ukuthi angangena enkingeni kubandakanya ukumiswa. Futhi, zama ukumthola ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kuthinta kanjani isisulu . Mbuze ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani esimweni esifanayo. Futhi, umkhumbuze ukuthi uma ehlukumeza abanye abantu ngenkathi uhlangene, khona-ke uyakubeka engozini.
Khombisa Isibonelo
Ngezinye izikhathi indlela engcono yokugcina umngane wakho ekwenzeni izinqumo ezimbi ukuhola ngesibonelo. Qiniseka ukuthi uphatha abantu ngomusa nangenhlonipho. Sukuma kulabo ababuthakathaka kunani futhi ube nabangane abangabodwa noma abodwa. Izikhathi eziningi, izingane ezixhaphazayo zifuna ukungenelela noma ukuzibamba. Uma umngane wakho eqaphela ukuthi ukuze abe umngane wakho, udinga ukuphatha abanye kahle, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ayeke ukuhlukunyezwa .
Setha imikhawulo
Uma naphezu kwakho konke okusemandleni akho, umngane wakho usalokhu ehlukumeza abanye abantu, sekuyisikhathi sokunciphisa ukuxhumana kwakho nalo mngani. Lokhu kungasho ukuthi umane uyeke ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye. Noma, kungase kusho ukuthi utshela umngane wakho ukuthi awufuni ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unjani indlela yokuxhumana, awukwazi ukulondoloza ubungane nomuntu ongenomusa kwabanye abantu.
Eqinisweni, uma umngane wakho evame ukuxhaphaza abanye , ngezinye izikhathi angase aqale ukuhlukunyezwa nawe. Sekuyisikhathi sokudweba umugqa esihlabathini bese ukhawulelana nomngane wakho kuze kube yilapho eqala ukuhlonipha. Khumbula, ukumane uhlangana nomuntu ohlukumezayo kungakudlulisela kabi. Ngisho noma ungalokothi wenze noma usho into enhle, ubungane bakho bukhomba ukuthi uvumelana nokuziphatha kwakhe.