Kunzima ukwazi indlela yokusiza ingane enomsindo. Kodwa ezinye izingane-naphezu kobukhulu babo-zibonakala zigcwele ukuthukuthela okungapheli ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwazo.
Bakha bakhungathekile kalula. Bakhala. Bangase baze babe nobudlova. Kodwa, ngokuvamile baqhuma phezu kwezenzakalo ezincane ezibonakalayo ezincane.
Uma ukhulisa umntwana onokuthukuthela okuthukuthele kuye kwaba yinkinga, kubalulekile ukumfundisa amakhono adinga ukubhekana nemizwa yakhe ngendlela enempilo.
Nazi izindlela eziyisikhombisa zokusiza ngentukuthelo:
1. Fundisa Ingane Yakho Mayelana nemizwa
Izingane zingase zishayeke uma zingayiqondi imizwa yazo noma zingakwazi ukuzishoba. Ingane engakwazi ukusho, "Ngiyahlanya," angase azame ukukubonisa ukuthi uthukuthele ngokuyeka. Noma ingane engakwazi ukuchaza ukuthi iyadabukisa, ingase ihlukumeze ukuze inakekele.
Qala ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuzwa okuyisisekelo amagama afana nokudabuka, okudabukisayo, okujabulisayo, nokwesaba. Bhala imizwa yengane yakho ngokuthi, "Kubonakala sengathi uzizwa uthukuthele okwamanje." Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzofunda ukubiza imizwelo yakhe ngokwakhe.
Njengoba ingane yakho ikwazi ukuqonda kangcono imizwelo yakhe nendlela yokuyichaza, imfundise amagama anembile kakhulu afana nokukhungatheka, ukudumala, ukhathazekile, futhi unesizungu.
2. Dala ukushisa komsindo
Ama-thermometers amasha amathuluzi asiza izingane ukuba zibone izimpawu zokuxwayisa ukuthi intukuthelo yabo iyakhula. Dweba i-thermometer enkulu ephepheni.
Qala ngezansi nge-0 bese ugcwalisa izinombolo kuze kufinyelele ku-10, okufanele ifike phezulu phezulu kwe-thermometer.
Chaza ukuthi i-zero isho ukuthi "ayikho intukuthelo nhlobo." I-5 isho "inqwaba yentukuthelo," kanti okuyishumi kusho "intukuthelo enkulu kakhulu."
Khuluma ngalokho okwenzeka emzimbeni wengane yakho enombolweni ngayinye ku-thermometer.
Umntanakho angase athi uyamomotheka lapho esezingeni lika-0 kodwa enobuso obubi uma efika ezingeni le-5 futhi ngesikhathi sokuthukuthela kwakhe kufika ezingeni le-10, angase azichaze njengesilo esithukuthele.
Khuluma ngokuthi umzimba wakhe uzizwa kanjani lapho ekhula uthukuthele. Angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi ubuso bakhe buyashisa uma ezingeni elibili futhi angase enze izibhamu ngezandla zakhe uma esezingeni eliyisikhombisa.
Uma izingane zifunda ukuqaphela izimpawu zabo zokuxwayisa, zizozisiza ukuthi ziqonde isidingo sokuphumula, ngaphambi kokuba intukuthelo yabo iqhuma ezingeni le-10. Hlanganisa i-thermometer yentukuthelo endaweni evelele futhi ubheke kuyo ngokubuza, "Yiliphi izinga uma ngabe intukuthelo namuhla? "
3. Yakha uhlelo lokusiza ingane yakho ukuba ihlaziye phansi
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi yenzeni lapho eqala ukuthukuthela. Esikhundleni sokuphonswa lapho ekhungathekile, noma eshaya udadewabo lapho ecasulayo, mfundise amasu aphilile asiza ngentukuthelo.
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ibeke isikhathi sokuphuma lapho iyakhathazeka. Mbonise ukuthi akudingeki alinde aze enze iphutha futhi athunyelwe isikhathi sokuphuma, kepha esikhundleni salokho, angaya ekamelweni lakhe imizuzu embalwa ukuzola lapho eqala ukuthukuthela.
Mkhuthaze ukuba abe umbala, afunde incwadi, noma ahlanganyele komunye umsebenzi wokutholisa kuze kube yilapho ezolile ngokwanele ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wakhe.
Ungase wenze ngisho nokuzola ithogi. Isitifiketi singabandakanya izincwadi zokuthanda imibala yengane yakho kanye namakhrayoni ambalwa, incwadi enhle yokufunda, izitifiketi, ithoyizi eliyintandokazi, noma iphutha elimnandi.
Uma ecasukile, ungasho ukuthi, "Hamba uthole ithotela lakho elithulile," futhi umkhuthaze ukuba athathe umthwalo wokuzihlisa.
4. Fundisa Amasu Okuphatha Okuthukuthele Okukhethekile
Enye yezindlela ezingcono zokusiza ingane enomsindo ukufundisa amasu athile okuphatha intukuthelo . Ukuthatha ukuphefumula okukhulu, isibonelo, kunganciphisa ingqondo yengane yakho nomzimba wakhe lapho ecasukile. Ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ukubala ukuya ku-10, noma ukuphinda ibinzana eliwusizo lingasiza.
Fundisa amanye amakhono amaningana, njengamakhono okulawula umfutho nokuzithiba . Abantwana abathukuthele badinga inani elihle lokuqeqesha ukuze bazisize basebenzise lawo makghono lapho bethukuthele.
5. Yenza i-Angry Outbursts eyiqiniso engasebenzi
Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zibonisa ukuthukuthela okuthukuthele ngoba kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokwenza izidingo zabo zihlangane. Uma ingane ithukuthela intukuthelo futhi abazali bayo bamnika ithoyizi ukuze bamthule, uzofunda ukuthi ukufutheka kuyasebenza.
Unganiki emntwaneni wakho ukugwema ukuqubuka. Nakuba lokho kungase kube lula esikhathini esifushane, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukunikeza kuzokwenza nje ukuthi izinkinga zokuziphatha nokuhlukunyezwa kubi nakakhulu.
6. Landela Ngezimo Lapho Kunesidingo
Isiyalo esivumelanayo siyadingeka ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ifunde ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa noma ukuziphatha okungahloniphiko akumukeleki. Uma ingane yakho iphula imithetho, landela ngokulandela isikhathi ngasinye.
Ukuphuma isikhathi noma ukuthatha amalungelo kungaba amasu okuziphatha okuphumelelayo. Uma ingane yakho iphula into ethile lapho ithukuthele, yenze isize ukuyilungisa noma imenze imisebenzi yokusiza ukukhulisa imali yokulungisa. Ungamvumeli ukuba abuyele amalungelo akhe kuze kube yilapho elungisa lo monakalo.
7. Gwema iMidiya enobudlova
Uma ingane yakho ihlushwa ukuziphatha okubi, ukumtshela emibonweni ye-TV enobudlova noma imidlalo yevidiyo ngeke kube usizo. Ukumvimbela ekufakazeni ubudlova esikhundleni salokho, gxila ekumdaleni ezincwadini, emidlalweni, nasebuboniseni ukuthi imodeli yamakhono okuxazulula izinkinga eziphilile.
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