Ake siqale siphume ngendlela indlela amaphupho okukopela ajwayelekile ngayo ngokukhulelwa. Uma kuziwa emaphupheni okukhulelwa , ayaziwa ngokuba ayinqaba. Abanye abantu baphupha ngezinto ezibonakala zingenangqondo, kanti abanye baphupha izinkathazo zabo, njengokushiya ingane endaweni engavamile noma eyingozi. Abanye besifazane baphupha ngokukopela. Bobabili ngokukhohlisa kumlingani wabo futhi bekhohliswa.
Lokhu akuyona iphupho elingavamile ukuba libe nokukhulelwa , nakuba kungase kube nzima ukuvuka ukuze kuphazamiseke. Kungaba yinto engalungile yokulungiswa ekuqinisweni njengoba uvuka uphinde uzibuze ukuthi kwenzeka ngempela.
Uma uphupha ngokukopela, ungabi namahloni ekucabangeni ngephupho. Ingabe iphathelene nesoka langaphambili? Lokhu kungabonakala kudala, njengokuthi "Ukuphila kwami bekuyoba njani uma ngabe nginabantwana abane ..." Ungesabi, akusho ukuthi unesifiso semfihlakalo sokukhohlisa umlingani.
Ingabe kungumdumo? (Musa ukuhleka.) Abantu abaningi baphupha ngamademoni, ngoba nje baziwa, ngokuvamile abantu abakhangayo. Ungabheka futhi ukuthi "ziphephile" ngokuthi awuzigibeli ingozi yokulala noBrad Pitt.
Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukucabanga ngakho uma uphupha ukuthi uyakhohliswa. Futhi, bheka leli phupho?
Ubani onayo? Kungani ucabanga ngalokhu? Ngezinye izikhathi ukwesaba okungaziwa. Ngezinye izikhathi ukhathazekile ngomzimba wakho ushintsho noma ubuhlobo bakho buguquka. Akuyona isibonakaliso sokuthi ukhohliswa.
Ungase futhi ufune ukuzicabangela wena ngokwakho - Lokhu kuyiphupho futhi akusekelwe ekuqinisweni.
Ungabe usaphinda unikeze ucabanga nhlobo. Leyo yindlela ephelele yokubhekana nalezi zindondo eziphazamisayo.
Ingabe Le Maphupho Eqinisweni Isho Okuthile?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani ophuphayo, kungakushiya uzibuze ukuthi yini ephakanyisiwe. Ucwaningo lubonise ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe bavame ukuphazamiseka amaphupho. Lokhu ikakhulukazi ngenxa yezingqondo zethu ezisebenza ngokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo ngenkathi silele. Inani lamaphupho alo mkhuba livame ukuqhubekela phambili ekukhulelweni.
Khuluma nomngane wakho womshado / umlingani ngalezi zephupho. Batshele ukuthi yini okuphathelene nawe. Akukho lutho oluzokwenza uhlazeke ngakho. Eqinisweni, ukwabelana ngokukhathazeka kungakusiza uzizwe ungcono ngale ndaba.
Uma uvuka uzizwe ucindezelekile ngala maphupho, ungazama ukushintsha imicabango yakho ngaphambi kokulala. Abanye abantu bathola ukuthi ukusebenzisa ukuzithokozisa namasu wezithombe abangakwazi ukulawula noma okungenani kubonakala belawula okuqukethwe kumaphupho abo.
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