Funda ukuthi kungani ukukhulelwa okungenangqondo kungabangela izinkinga eziyishumi nambili
Ukukhulelwa kuyisimo esinzima kunoma yikuphi okuphakathi, kodwa ezinye izingane zithola kunzima kunabanye. Izingane eziqala ukukhulelwa ezincane kunezontanga zazo zinenkinga engaphezu kokubhekana nazo. Ukukhulelwa ngokweqile, noma ukukhulelwa, kukhula ngokwengeziwe, yilokhu abazali okufanele bazi uma ingane iqala ukukhulelwa esemncane kakhulu.
I-Negative Impact
Umthelela omubi wokukhulelwa kwasekuseni emantombazaneni uye wabhalwa kahle, futhi abazali abaneminyaka eyishumi nambili abahamba ebusheni bangakudinga yonke imininingwane abangayithola ukuze basize ingane yabo kangcono futhi bagweme izinselelo ezingenzeka.
Nazi izizathu ezintathu ezivame ukuxoxwa ngazo ngokuthi kungani ukukhulelwa okungenangqondo kunomthelela omubi phakathi kwamantombazane.
Ngokushesha kakhulu kakhulu
Abanye ososayensi bezengqondo bakholelwa ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kufanele kwenzeke ngendlela ethile ukuze kube ngcono. Isibonelo, izingane kufanele zithole ezinye izinto ezibalulekile ezingokwenhlalo, ezengqondo nezengqondo ngaphambi kokuba zilungele ukukhuthazelela ubunzima bokukhula. Uma ukukhulelwa kwenzeka ngokushesha kakhulu, kungenzeka ukuthi baqedela ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo okudingekayo ebuntwaneni lapho kufika ukukhulelwa. Ngenxa yalokho, amantombazane asekhulile angase akhathazeke yizicindezelo zobusha kanye nezinguquko eziningi ezihambisana nokukhulelwa . Ngenxa yalokho, ukukhulelwa kwasekuseni emantombazaneni kunethonya elibi. Kunobufakazi obuningi bokusekela le ncazelo, okubizwa ngokuthi "isiteleka sokuqeda i-hypothesis". Ngokuyinhloko, i-tweens yokuqala-ukukhula ibonakala sengathi iyakwazi ukucindezeleka kunabangane abajwayele ukukhula.
Ukuzwa Uhlukile Kunabangane
Ukuzwa okuhlukile kontanga kuyinselelo ehlala njalo kubantu abayishumi nambili futhi akumangalisi ukuthi amantombazane ahamba ekufikeni kwentsha ngokushesha kunokuba ontanga bakhe bazokuziqhathanisa nabanye. Le ncazelo, ebizwa ngokuthi "i-deviance hypothesis", iphikisana ngokuthi noma yikuphi ukuhamba komugqa wesikhathi sokuthuthukiswa ovamile kuyabangela ukucindezeleka.
Ngamanye amazwi, izingane nezingane zihamba phambili uma zihlangabezana nezinyathelo zokuthuthukiswa ezungeze isikhathi esifanayo nontanga yabo eminingi. Ekusekeleni le mbono, kutholakale ukuthi kokubili ukukhula-nokukhula -ukukhula kwentsha kuyadumala kakhulu kunokuba "on-time" intsha.
Uhlangabezana nokuguqulwa okuningi kakhulu ngesikhathi esisodwa
Ekugcineni, ezinye izazi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kokuguquguquka ngesikhathi esisodwa kufakazela umthelela omubi wokukhulelwa kwentombazane. Abasekeli be-"multiple transition hypothesis" baphikisana ngokuthi ama-tween enza kahle kakhulu uma kufanele abhekane nokuguquguquka kokuphila okukodwa noma ezimbili nganoma yisiphi isikhathi esithile. Uma ukukhulelwa kufika ngokushesha kakhulu ukuthi kuhambisana nezinye izinguquko - njengokuguquka kusuka esikoleni esiphakathi kuya esikoleni esiphakathi - khona-ke uhlangothi lungase luzwe ukucindezeleka okukhulu kunontanga yakhe. Kukhona ukusekelwa kokucwaninga kwalesi sizathu. Ngokwesibonelo, abafana abavuthiwe ngasekuqaleni kwezingane eziphezulu bafunyanwa bebhekene nokucindezeleka kakhulu kunabo abathinteka kancane kancane.
Okwenza Laba Baqaphele Okubalulekile
Kuzo zonke, okwamanje akucaci ukuthi kungani ukukhulelwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi kusenomthelela omubi kakhulu kuma-tweens, futhi udala izinselele eziningi kumindeni.
Ngokucwaninga okuqhubekayo, ososayensi bangase babone ukuthi yiyiphi yale mibono - noma inhlanganisela yawo - inikeza incazelo enhle kakhulu. Uma benza, siyobe nethemba lokuthi sizofunda ukuthi zingcono kanjani ukulwa nemiphumela ephazamisayo yokukhulelwa kwasekuqaleni. Lokhu kubaluleke ngokukhethekile njengoba ukukhulelwa kwasekuqaleni kufana nokuvamile .
Qaphela: Uma ingane yakho idlula ubusuku obuqakathekileko kubalulekile ukukhulumisana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga ingane yakho ehlangana nayo nodokotela wezingane. Udokotela wengane yakho uzokwazi ukusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ungasisekela kangcono kanjani phakathi kwakho. Ukukhulumisana nezinselelo nokukhathazeka ngodokotela wengane yakho, futhi ube khona ukulalela lapho i-interne yakho idinga ukuvula mayelana nanoma yiziphi izinselele engazange ziyiqonde.
Lesi sihloko sibuyekezwe ngoJulayi 9, 2016, nguJennifer O'Donnell.
Umthombo:
Ge, i-Xiaojia, i-Conger, i-Rand, ne-Elder, uJr., uGlen. Ubuhlobo phakathi kokukhulelwa nokucindezeleka kwengqondo kubafana abasha. I-Journal of Research on Adolescence. 2001. 11: 49-70.