Yazi Ngokungcono
Kukhona izindlela eziningi zokuqala ingxoxo nobaba wakho, futhi kuyiqiniso nokuthi ezinye ziphumelela kakhulu kunabanye. "Baba, ngichitha imoto yakho entsha," izoqala ingxoxo, futhi ingakusiza ukuba wazi kangcono ubaba wakho, kodwa ingxoxo ngeke ihambe kahle kakhulu. Kungenzeka kube ingxoxo emfishane kakhulu futhi enempilo kakhulu, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi ayikho enye yokuholela ebuhlotsheni obuhle obuningi.
Kodwa kuneminye imibuzo emangalisayo ongase ucabange ngokubuza ubaba wakho okuzokusiza ufunde kabanzi ngaye, yini eyenza akhathaze, futhi angakusiza uqonde kancane ukuthi kungani eyiyo. Kusukela ekubuzeni mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwasebuntwaneni ukuthola ukuthi kungani efuna ukuba ngubaba ekuhloliseni ukuthi wakhulisa kanjani isimo sakhe sengqondo ngothando, imali noma umsebenzi, ukubuza imibuzo eyinhloko kungasiza ukuqala izingxoxo ezithile ezimangalisayo neziqondayo.
Njengoba uqala inqubo, ungase uthande ukucabangela ukurekhoda ingxoxo noma okungenani uthathe amanothi bese ubeka phansi imicabango yakho mayelana nesipiliyoni. Lokhu kungadala isisekelo somlando womuntu siqu kababa wakho, noma okungenani irekhodi elingabelwa nomndeni nabangani bakababa wakho.
Mayelana nobuntwana bakhe
- Yiziphi ezinye zezinkumbulo zakho zakuqala? Lo mbuzo ungavusa izindaba ezithakazelisayo mayelana nezinto ubaba wakho azikhumbula mayelana nobuntwana bakhe. Ngezinye izikhathi izinto esizikhumbulayo kusukela eminyakeni yethu yokuqala zinezimpikiswano ezinkulu kithi njengoba sikhula.
- Yini oyikhumbula kakhulu ngobaba wakho? Lo mbuzo ungathatha izinhlobo eziningi. Ungase uthande ukuthatha isikhathi esiphezulu embuzweni othi, "Yiziphi izici ozihlonipha kakhulu kuyihlo?" Kunoma yikuphi, imibuzo elandelana nalesi sigaba ingasiza ekuchazeni ukuthi ubaba wakho wakha kanjani isimo sakhe sengqondo futhi asondela kubantwana. Kungase futhi kuholele ezingxoxweni ezijulile mayelana nomlando kaBawo.
- Ingabe kukhona okufisa ukuthi ubuze abazali bakho kodwa akwenzi? Lo mbuzo ungasiza ubaba ukuba agxilise kulokho okungenzeka akulahlekelwe ukukhula noma ezintweni azikhumbulayo ezingazange zikhulunywe njengengane.
- Ubani umngane wakho omkhulu esikoleni esiphansi ? Ukubuza lo mbuzo kuzosiza ubaba ukuba akhumbule izikhathi ezimnandi azisebantwaneni kanye nabantu abazihlanganisa nazo lezo zikhathi. Landela ngemibuzo mayelana nalokho akwenza nomngane wakhe ngaphandle kwesikole noma ngemisebenzi yakhe eyintandokazi yangaphandle ekhulayo.
- Uke wanqoba umklomelo? Cishe wonke umuntu uthanda ukuqashelwa, futhi abuze umbuzo onjengalokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izinto ubaba wakho aziwa njengobusha. Kungakunika ukuqonda lapho izipho zakhe ezikhethekile kanye namathalenta ayefana nensizwa.
- Yini ofuna ukuyenza lapho ukhula? Kungaba okuthakazelisayo ukuthola umbono wezinguquko zikababa zakuqala kanye nezithakazelo ngokubuza imibuzo ngalezi zindlela. Landela ngemibuzo mayelana nokuthi yini eyashintsha eyamholela endleleni ehlukile (uma elandela indlela ehlukile).
Mayelana nokuphila kwakhe omncane omdala
- Wahlangana kanjani nomama? Yonke indaba yothando inokuqala okuthakazelisayo futhi ubaba wakho cishe uzothanda ukukutshela ngakho. Angakhumbula ngokuhlukile kumama wakho, kodwa lokho kusalungile. Umbono wakhe ubaluleke kakhulu kunamaqiniso acacile. Futhi lo mbono uzobaluleka njengoba ucabangela umlando wakho womndeni wakho.
- Yayiyini umsebenzi wakho wokuqala futhi kwenzeke kanjani? Amadoda amaningi ahlanganisa ukuziqhenya kwabo ngemisebenzi yabo, futhi ukukhuluma ngalokho akufunde emsebenzini wakhe wokuqala uzoqala ingxoxo ngomsebenzi wakhe kanye nomsebenzi wakhe.
- Ingabe unomeluleki okhulayo? Ngezinye izikhathi, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni yethu esemdala, abantu ngaphandle kwabazali bethu banendima enkulu ekuthuthukiseni kwethu. Ukufunda ngabeluleki bakababa bakho kungakusiza ukwazi ukuthi ubani obathonya impilo kababa futhi wamsiza ukuba ashintshe kusukela ebuntwaneni aze abe umuntu omdala.
- Imaphi amaphutha akufundise kakhulu ngokuphila? Lona umbuzo omuhle kakhulu ozayo futhi uzosiza ubaba ucabangele ngalokho akufundile ezikhathini ezinzima. Ungathola futhi umbono omncane emlandweni wakhe siqu kanye "nomuntu" wakhe ngokubuza ngeziphambeko azenze ekuphileni kwakhe kwasekuqaleni.
- Abantu abakukwazi esikoleni esiphakeme babezokuchaza kanjani? Lokhu kungaba umbuzo ochazayo mayelana nokuthi ubaba wakho angase acabange kanjani abanye abone noma bambone. Ngokuvamile umbono wethu ngokwethu ukhona eminyakeni yethu yobusha, futhi ubaba uzoba nethuba lokuzindla ngalo nokuthi kanjani iminyaka yakhe yesikole esiphakeme ithonya kuye.
Mayelana nokuba nguBaba
- Zikhona yini izinto oyifisa ukuthi wenze ngendlela ehlukile njengobaba? Imibuzo kule migqa izosiza ubaba ukuba acabangisise ngekhwalithi yendima yakhe njengobaba futhi angase abone ezinye izinto ezingathinta indima yakho njengomzali .
- Yini oyithokozela kakhulu ngokuba ngubaba? Lo mbuzo uzokusiza ubaba ukuba akhumbule ezinye izikhathi ezingcono zokuphila kwakhe njengobaba futhi akusize ubone ukuthi uthandani ngendima yakhe. Umbuzo omuhle wokulandelela ungase uhlanganise nezinto ayezithande kakhulu ngokuba ngubaba.
- Ucabanga ukuthi obaba banamuhla banezinto ezilukhuni noma ezilula kunalokho owaba nazo? Lona umbuzo omkhulu ukusiza ubaba ukuba abonise izinguquko ezenzekile kusukela eba ngubaba. Ungase uthole umbono omuhle ngombono wakhe wezobuchwepheshe , ukuzijabulisa, ukholo , umsebenzi, njll nombuzo onjengale.
- Yimaphi amasiko ubaba wakho adlulisela kuwe ukuthi wadlulisela kubantfwana bakho? Ngezinye izikhathi, asinakukwazi ukubona okuthile okushiwo ngubaba wethu. Imibuzo enjengale izokusiza ukuba uthole ukuqonda emlandweni wakhe siqu nokuthi amasiko afaka kanjani indlela yakhe yokuba ngubaba.
- Yisiphi esinye sezikhathi ezinzima kunazo zonke owaba ngubaba futhi kungani kunzima? Ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuba ubaba futhi izikhathi lapho kunzima kunakho konke kungakunika ukuqonda okukhulu ukuthi kungani ubaba wabazali ngendlela akwenza ngayo futhi angakunikeza umqondo wokwesaba ngaye ngendima kababa.
Mayelana nokubukwa kwakhe komuntu siqu
- Yiziphi izikhathi ezintathu ezijabulisayo ekuphileni kwakho kuze kube manje? Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uthole umqondo walokho okubalulekile kubaba wakho ngaphezu kwesikhathi sakhe sokuphila nokuthi yini eye yamsiza ukuthi athole ukwaneliseka komuntu siqu.
- Ingabe kukhona okufisa ukuthi uke wazibonela ukuthi awukaze uhlangabezane nakho? Lena yindlela elula yokuthola ukuzisola kukababa noma izinto nje aziphupha kodwa azizange azibonele. Kungaba impendulo edabukisayo noma ehlukumezayo, kodwa umbuzo ozokwenza ube nokuqonda ezweni likababa.
- Iziphi izenzakalo zezwe ezithinte kakhulu kuwe? Ukubona ukuthi ubaba wakho angene kanjani emhlabeni futhi izenzakalo zesikhathi sakhe zinganikeza ulwazi oluthakazelisayo. Lo mbuzo ungakusiza ubone ukuthi izikhathi zakhe zithonya kanjani impilo yakhe.
- Kukhona yini owake wafuna ukungitshela kodwa ungenakho? Ukuvula umnyango ngombuzo onjengalokhu kungafaka ulwazi oluningi ebuhlotsheni bakho bomuntu nobaba wakho.
- Ungathanda ukukhunjulwa kanjani? Zama ukubuza lokhu ngendlela engenza ubaba wakho acabange ukuthi ushiya impilo nganoma isiphi isikhathi maduzane. Kodwa ukuthola lokho ubaba akulindele ngefa lakhe kuzokudala ulwazi oluthe xaxa futhi kuzokusiza ubone ukuthi yiziphi izici zokuphila kwakhe ezibaluleke kakhulu kuye.