Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umndeni wakho uya endaweni yokukhulekela njalo, noma ungakaze uqale imikhuba engokomoya ecacile, ingane yakho ingase ifune ukuzama ukholo olusha yedwa. Mhlawumbe uzwe abangane abathile bekhuluma ngeqembu elisha elisha abaya kulo. Noma mhlawumbe, ufunde ngomunye umkhuba ongokwenyama ongokwenyama futhi ufuna ukuthola okwengeziwe ngakho.
Ukuhlola izinkolelo ezintsha, imikhuba engokomoya, nezinkolo ezehlukene phakathi nokukhula kungaba yinto evamile. Ukuhlola izinto ezintsha nokuthola ukuzimela kuyingxenye yokuba umuntu omdala, intsha eningi inesithakazelo ekufundeni ukuthi abanye abantu bakholelwa ngani endaweni yonke, amandla aphezulu, noma incazelo yokuphila.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwentsha enempilo kuhilela ukuphendula umbuzo othi ' Ungubani ?' futhi ikakhulukazi kuhilela izinkolelo zabo ezingokomoya. Intombazane ingase ibuze ukuthi ungubani ngokwemigomo enkulu yomhlaba wonke.
Isicelo sokuya esontweni elisha noma ukujoyina inhlangano yenkolo kubangela ukuba abazali abaningi bangaboni kahle. Kodwa esikhundleni sokuthi akekho ilungelo-okungaholela kuye ukuthi akholelwe ukuthi wena nenkolo yakho bazimisele ukuhlala phansi ukuze uthole inkulumo enhle engasiza ekukhuliseni ukholo lwakhe, ngisho nangokwakho.
Khuluma Ngaphandle
Lesi sifiso sokuzama inkolo entsha noma isimiso esingokomoya sivela endaweni ethile. Mbuze ngakho-ingabe omunye wabahlobo bakhe ukhuluma ngalomunye umkhuba ongokomoya? Ingabe indodana yakho yathola ngalokhu ngemuva kokwenza ucwaningo eyedwa? Yini ezwakala ekhangayo ngakho?
Buza ingane yakho uma kukhona okuthile mayelana nomkhuba womndeni ongokomoya awuthandi-kungenzeka ukuthi isonto lakho lizizwa licindezela , lendabuko noma lihle. Mhlawumbe ufuna indlela yokuxhumana nezinkolelo zakhe ngokujulile kakhulu, noma ngendlela angakwazi ngayo ukuxhumana kangcono ngesikhathi sokuphila kwansuku zonke.
Zizimisele ukulalela, ngaphandle kokudlulisa isahlulelo. Ukwazi ukuthi unesithakazelo umbono wakhe kungakhuthaza kakhulu intombazane enomuzwa wokuthi awuqiniseki ngezinto. Ukukhuluma ngezinto ezikusiza kusiza kokubili ukuqonda izinkolelo zomuntu nokuthi yini ezwayo ngokomoya njengabantu ngabanye.
Hlola Izinkathazo Zakho
Kubalulekile ukuhlola ukukhathazeka onakho mayelana nokuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ihlole ukholo olusha. Ingabe ukhathazekile ukuthi angashiya zonke izinkolelo ozame ukuzenza kuye? Ucabanga ukuthi ukwazi kwakhe kubangelwa izizathu ezingalungile (njengokuthi unqotshwa intombazane ehamba esontweni ethile)?
Noma ingabe yinto engathà sina nakakhulu? Mhlawumbe inkolo ingane yakho ofuna ukuyihlola iphethe izinkolelo ezithile noma ikhuthaza imikhuba ethile ephikisana ngqo nalokho okukholelwayo.
Ngokusobala, uma enye inkolo iphikisana namagugu akho, kudingeka ukhulume nengane yakho mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho. Futhi kungase kudingeke ukuthi ubeke imingcele kulokho okuvumela ingane yakho ukuba yenze. Kubalulekile ukukhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi amanani akho abalulekile ngokwanele ukuthi ufuna ukuphila ngokuvumelana nabo.
Uma ungazi okuningi ngemikhuba engokomoya enganeni yakho ebonisa intshisekelo kuyo, vula ukuze ufunde kabanzi. Ungathola ukuthi ezinye zezinkolelo ozicabanga ukuthi ziyiqiniso noma ezinye zezinto ozizwile, azilungile.
Cabanga ngeqembu elisha
Amasonto amaningi nezinhlangano ezingokomoya zinezinhlangano zentsha ezihlose ukwenza umkhuba ongokomoya ukhumbule intsha. Uma indawo yakho yokukhulekela ineqembu lentsha, mhlawumbe ingane yakho ingathanda ukuyizama ukubona ukuthi imsiza yini ukuhlola ukholo lwakhe ngokujulile.
Noma mhlawumbe umngane esikoleni wammemela emhlanganweni weqembu lentsha kwelinye isonto. Buza umngane wengane yakho lokho okuthokozisa ngakho ngeqembu (uma ingane yakho ivulekile umqondo), noma shayela umholi weqembu lentsha ukuthola ulwazi oluthe xaxa mayelana neqembu uma ukhathazekile ngakho.
Ezimweni eziningi, amaqembu ezentsha anikeza inkundla evulekile yabasha ukuthi baxoxisane ngezinto ezibathinta, kanye nendlela yokubhekana nalezi zindlela ngezindlela ezingcono kakhulu. Ngisho nezintsha ezingabonakali enkolweni noma ezingokomoya zingase zijabulele ukuhlelwa kweqembu elisha, okungenakugwetshwa, ngakho kungaba yinto enhle kumntanakho, ikakhulukazi uma esazi abanye abaya khona futhi bajabulele imihlangano.
Amaqembu amaningi asebasha ahlanganyela emisebenzini ehlukahlukene yomphakathi kanye nemicimbi yentsha. Ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ihileleke, ngisho noma ungahlanganyeli nezinkolelo ezifanayo, ingaba yinto enhle.
Izinkonzo Zokukhulekela
Ukuya kwenye indawo yokukhulekela kungasiza ingane yakho ukuba iqonde kangcono izinkolelo zakhe. Uma omunye wabangane bakhe owaziyo abamemela enkonzweni, kungaba ithuba elanele ukuba ingane yakho ingene kulo mzwa ngaphandle kokuzizwa uhlukanisiwe ngokuphelele.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi uphazamisekile ngaleli themba, shayela abazali bomngane futhi ubabuze kancane ngalokho okumele ukwenze; lokhu kungakusiza nokuba uthole umqondo ongcono ngalokho abakushoyo nokuthi ngabe uzizwa ukhululekile yini ngemibono.
Uma ungenaso isiqiniseko ngakho, cabangela ukuya enkonzweni kanye nentsha yakho, bese uphuma nge-brunch noma kwasemini ukuze uxoxe ngokuthi bobabili nizizwa kanjani ngalokho okuhlangenwe nakho. Futhi kuyithuba elihle lokuxoxa ukuthi yiziphi izici ezijabulisayo noma ezithuthukisayo, ezazizijwayele futhi ezahluke ngokuphelele kunomkhuba womndeni.
Ukwesekwa kwakho ngesifiso sakho somntwana ukuhlola okungokomoya kuzombonisa ukuthi uyayihlonipha imibono yakhe nokuthi uyaqonda ukubaluleka kokuseshwa uma kuziwa kokholo. Ukuphoqelela izinkolelo zomndeni enganeni kungamcindezela , kodwa ukwesekwa nokuvuleka ekufuneni kwakhe kuyomsiza ukuba athole "umphefumulo" ukudla akufunayo-ngisho noma ethola ukuthi impendulo ilungile phambi kwakhe, yonke indawo.