Ukuzwa ngemiphumela emibi yokungabodwa kwabazali kwabantwana, kusukela ezinkingeni zezomnotho kuya ezindabeni zokuthembela ezihlobene nokulahlwa kungase kuzwe kunzima. Kodwa kuthiwani ngemiphumela emihle yokukhuliswa umzali ongayedwa? Phakathi kokukhulisa izingane zakho ngokwakho, ungase ucabange ngesimo sakho njengebhonasi, kodwa kunezinye izimo ezinhle kakhulu zokubeletha okungabodwa okufanelwe ukunakwa. Izingane ezikhuliswa abazali abangabodwa zivame uku:
Thuthukisa izibopho eziqinile
Ukusebenzisa ikhwalithi ngesikhathi esisodwa nezingane zakho kukuvumela ukuba uhlakulele isibopho esiyingqayizivele esingase sibe namandla nakakhulu kunokuba bekungeke kube njalo uma ungenalo umzali oyedwa. Ngokuqinisekile, lokhu kuyiqiniso kubazali abaningi bokulondeka, kodwa futhi kuyiqiniso kubazali abaningi abangenalo ilungelo lokudlala indima eyingqayizivele ekuphileni kwezingane zabo.
- Ungalokothi unciphise ukubaluleka kwendima yakho.
- Qaphela uma isibopho sakho akusikho lapho ufuna khona ukuthi sibe khona namhlanje, ungazama ukusiqinisa.
- Ukuxhumeka kwakho nezingane zakho ngeke kuphele uma beba ngu-18; isibopho sizoqhubeka nokuguqukela eminyakeni yobudala yabantwana bakho.
Thola u-Community Authentic
Sonke siyazi kahle inkulumo ethi "Kuthatha idolobhana ukukhulisa ingane." Izingane ezikhuliswa emindeni yabazali abangabodwa zivame ukuzungezwa nomzana wabasekeli, ngokoqobo. Ezimweni eziningi, amalungu omndeni owandisiwe azoqhubeka nokudlala indima ebalulekile ekuphileni kwezingane. Futhi abazali abangabodwa abangasondeli eduze komndeni bangakhetha ukuhlanganyela emacembu omphakathi-kubandakanya amaqembu okusekela omzali abangabodwa, amasonto, kanye namasinagogeni-okuyinto enqoba wonke umndeni.
- Joyina iqembu elilodwa lokusekela komzali.
- Funa amaqembu omphakathi azokusiza ukuba uxhume emphakathini wangakini.
- Faka isandla esikoleni somntanakho.
Yabelana ngezibopho
Izingane ezikhuliswa emindenini yabazali abangabodwa azikona nje "imisebenzi" yokusebenza ukuze zithole imali. Kunalokho, umnikelo wabo kuwo wonke uhlelo lomndeni kuyadingeka. Isidingo sangempela sosizo lwabo kusiza izingane zakho ukuthi zibone ukubaluleka komnikelo wazo futhi ziziqhenye ngomsebenzi wazo.
- Dumisa izingane zakho ngokusiza nxazonke zendlu.
- Bazise ukuthi uqaphela imizamo yabo.
- Lindela ukuba banikele futhi baqonde uma becela ukuba basize.
Funda indlela yokusingatha izinkinga
Izingane ezinomndeni ongayedwa womzali zifakaza amakhono okuxazulula izingxabano ezenzweni. Bafika ukubona abazali babo bebenza kanzima-naphezu kokuhlukana kwabo-ukusebenzisana nokusebenza ndawonye ngokuphumelelayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane ziphoqelelwa ukuba zibhekane nokudumazeka kwabo ekuqaleni kokuphila.
- Phendula ngokudumazeka kwezingane zakho ngokusekelwa, isikhuthazo nozwela.
- Buka lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho njengamathuba okukhula okubalulekile, ubasize babe abantu abadala abazwelayo, abanomusa, nabanakekelayo.
- Ngeke ukwazi ukuvimbela njalo izingane zakho ukuba zizizwe zidabukile noma zidumele, kodwa ungabasiza ukuba bakhulume futhi babhekane nemizwelo yabo.
Funda ukuthi ungazithola kanjani izinto ezibalulekile zokuncintisana
Izingane ezikhuliswa emindenini yababelethi abangabodwa ziyazi ukuthi ziyizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwabazali babo, kodwa aziphathwanga njengokungathi ziyisikhungo somhlaba wonke. Le ndlela enempilo isisiza ukulungiselela izingane "zezwe langempela."
- Siza izingane zakho zilinganisele izidingo zabo kanye nezidingo zabo ngezidingo zomkhaya wonke.
- Qaphela ukuthi kulungile kuwe njengomzali ukuphishekela izidingo zakho siqu, njengesidingo sesikhathi esedwa noma ingxoxo yabantu abadala.
- Fundisa izingane zakho ukuveza izidingo zazo ngenkathi zihlola nezidingo zabanye.