Yazi ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu eziyiziflegi ezibomvu
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kuvamile kulabo abalingani emva kokukhulelwa noma ngemuva kokulahleka kokukhulelwa. Lokhu akumangalisi nanoma ubani oye wahlaselwa ukukhulelwa. Kodwa ukhona kuphi umklomelo phakathi kokudabuka okuvamile nokucindezeleka komtholampilo? Lokho kungaba umbuzo onzima.
Izimpawu Zokucindezeleka
Ngokusho kweNational Institute of Health Mental, izimpawu zokucindezeleka zimi kanje:
- Imizwa eqhubekayo yokudabuka, ukungabi nalutho, ukungabi nethemba, inecala noma ukungabi namandla
- Ukuthukuthela noma ukuphumula
- Ukulahlekelwa intshisekelo kwimisebenzi yangaphambili ejabulisayo
- Ukukhathala namandla aphansi
- Izinkinga ekugxileni nasekuthatheni izinqumo
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
- Izinguquko zokudla
- Imicabango yokuzibulala
- Izinhlungu eziqhubekayo noma izinkinga zokugaya ezingaphenduli ekwelapheni
Yiqiniso, ukubuka lolo hlu, cishe wonke owesifazane oye wachitheka ukukhulelwa kwesisu kungenzeka ukuthi kunenani lalezo zimpawu. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi iningi labesifazane kufanele litholwe ukuthi lunesifo sokucindezeleka - ukuphendula okubuhlungu okujwayelekile kungalingana nokucindezeleka, ikakhulukazi kumuntu obuka ngaphandle.
Usizi Noma Ukucindezeleka?
Akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma ubani obuka ngaphandle angakwazi ukudweba umugqa ojwayelekile esihlabathini phezu kwalokho okukusizi nokukhathazeka komuntu othile. Abacwaningi abaye bahlola usizi ngemuva kokungahambisani nesisu abazange babeke imihlahlandlela yokuhlukanisa usizi ekucindezelekeni.
Esinye isici singase sibe ubude besikhathi lapho izimpawu zigcina khona, kodwa akusikho umkhawulo wesikhathi nokuthi yini engavamile ukulila.
Ayikho iphuzu elibekiwe lapho "ufanele" ukubhekana nokuhlupheka kwakho kokukhulelwa komzimba , futhi kubantu abaningi, kubonakala sengathi kuyindlela yokuphila yonke. Ukudabuka isikhathi eside akusho ukuthi udinga ukuhlolwa kokucindezeleka.
Mhlawumbe isibonakaliso esingcono kakhulu singaba imizwa yakho mayelana nokuthi usizi lwakho nokudabuka kwakho kuthinta kanjani impilo yakho yansuku zonke. Nakuba ungase ungabi nomuzwa wokuthi uphuma embhedeni ekuseni ngemuva kokulahlekelwa kwakho, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kufanele uqale ukuzizwa sengathi ungasebenza, uhleke amahlaya, udle futhi ulale ngokujwayelekile, futhi ujabulele imisebenzi yakho oyithandayo - ngisho noma usacasuliwe kakhulu ngokukhulelwa kwesisu. Uma ungazizwa sengathi uqala ukukwazi ukubhekana nesimo, ungase ube nokucindezeleka.
Uma unomuzwa ungase ucindezeleke noma uma unomzingeli ukuthi ungazuzisa ukufuna usizo, khuluma nomunye umuntu. Ungabona umeluleki wezinhlungu, uchwepheshe womndeni, isazi sezengqondo noma udokotela othembekile ukuze uthole iseluleko. Noma ubani kulaba bantu kufanele akwazi ukukukhomba endleleni efanele yokuthola usizo. Futhi uma uzizwa uzibulala, sicela ucele usizo ngokushesha.
Khumbula ukuthi noma ngabe ucindezelekile emtholampilo, ukwelashwa akudingeki ukuthi ube nemithi elinganayo. Imithi iyindlela enhle kakhulu, kodwa abanye bangase bahlanganise nokuya eqenjini lokusekela, ukuya kokweluleka ngokwakho noma nomlingani wakho noma ukusebenzisa ezinye izidakamizwa ezingekho izidakamizwa zokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.
Ubani Okhulise Ingozi Yokucindezeleka Ngemuva Kokushada?
Abanye besifazane banengozi enkulu yokuthuthukisa ukucindezeleka kokugula ngemuva kokukhulelwa kwesisu. Uma ngabe unomlando wokucindezeleka ngaphambi kokulahlekelwa kwakho, uzobe usengozini yokwandisa esinye isiqephu. Ukwengeza, abesifazane abangenabantwana abaphilayo noma abanenkinga yokuzala esikhathini esizayo kungaba ingozi yokubhekana nezinkinga zesikhathi eside ekubhekaneni nokukhulelwa kwesisu.
Futhi uma noma yikuphi kwalokhu kusebenza kuwe, sicela ungacabangi ukuthi kufanele ubhekane nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuphela. Awusiye wedwa, futhi kukhona abanye ngaphandle lapho abazoqonda ukuthi uyaphi, ngisho noma kungekho muntu empilweni yakho obonakala ewutholile.
Uma ungenalo umndeni onomusa nabangani abangakusiza ngalokhu, thola umeluleki noma iqembu lokusekela ukuthembela.
Imithombo
UDaly, Ocebile, "Ingozi Yokucindezeleka Ngemva Kokushada Ngesandla Ngokuvamile." I-Psychiatric News Jun 2008.
I-National Institute of Health Mental, "Ukucindezeleka." 3 Meyi 2008.