Kunezinselele ezimbalwa ezinkulu kunomzali obheke kunokuba abhekane nokukhulelwa komlingani wakhe. Ngesikhathi umlingani wakho eyobhekana nezinselele ezinkulu ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ekubhekaneni nokukhulelwa kwesisu, obaba banomuzwa wokuthi ukulahlekelwa okuhlobene nokukhulelwa kabi.
Kuyini Ukuthatha Umshado?
Incazelo elula yokukhipha isisu ukuqedwa kokuzenzekela kokukhulelwa.
Ukushada indiva kuthinta cishe ama-25% kubo bonke abesifazane abakulindele futhi ngokuvamile kwenzeka phakathi kwamasonto amane nesithupha. Ukuthatha umhlalaphansi njalo kwenzeka njalo ngaphambi kweviki le-13 lokukhulelwa. Amathuba okukhulelwa kwesisu aphezulu ekukhulelweni kokuqala kunakuqala.
Izimo ezihlukumezayo zenzeka ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Cishe isigamu singenxa yokungajwayelekile ebusweni noma ku-placenta, kuhlanganise nezinkinga ze-chromosomal. Ngezinye izikhathi iqanda lihambela indawo engafanele eholele ekutheni isisu siphume kancane. Ucwaningo lwamuva luye lwaxhuma ukungcola kwemvelo noma ukusetshenziswa kwe-caffeine ngokweqile ezingcupheni eziphakeme zokukhulelwa kwesisu. Ngakho impendulo emfushane yilezi zikhathi eziningi, ukukhulelwa kwesisu kwenzeka ngokuphelele ngaphandle kokulawula komama olindele.
Kodwa kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ukukhulelwa kwesisu kusho okungaphezu kwencazelo yencwadi. Kunemiphumela emihle ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokomoya kubantu abashadile abathola ukukhulelwa kwesisu.
Yiziphi Imiphumela Zomshado?
- Imiphumela yomzimba. Kulo mama, kunemiphumela eminingi ebuhlungu futhi engathandeki yokukhulelwa kwesisu. Ngokuvamile kuyoba nokuphaphazeka kwamanzi okwesilisa nokudlula amaqabunga amakhulu. Lokhu ngaphakathi futhi ngokwalo kuyinto engamangali kumama nomlingani wakhe. Ngempela, ingabe igazi lingakanani kakhulu noma zingaki ama-clots amaningi kakhulu? Ungatshela kanjani okumele ulindeleke nokuthi yini engekho? Ngaphezu kwalokho, umzimba womama uvame ukuphendula njengoba wenza uma ebeletha, ngakho-ke, amabele akhe angakhula futhi abe nethenda. Amahomoni ayo angabangela ukungathinteki ngokomzwelo nangokwenyama okungalindelekile, okwenza kube nzima ukuzwa ukulahlekelwa.
- Imiphumela engokomzwelo . Kubo bobabili umama nobaba, kunezinkinga ezibalulekile ezingokomzwelo. Ngokusobala, umuzwa wokulahleka ungokoqobo kubazali abalindele. Ukuba namaphupho akho okushona kwengane kungaba yinto enkulu. Bobabili ningesaba ukuthi niphinde nikhulelwe, ningafuni ukubeka ingozi emzimbeni nangokomzwelo wokukhulelwa kwesisu. Umzwa wokungabi nalutho okuhlangenwe nakho kwamama kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Kungase kube nemizwa yecala noma yokuhluleka. Futhi kungase kube nomqondo wokucindezeleka jikelele noma ukudangala.
- Imiphumela engokomoya. Okuhlangenwe nakho okungahambi kahle komzimba kungabangela amadoda ukuba aphendule ngokholo lwabo noma alahleke ekudleni kwabo okungokomoya. Bangase babuze imibuzo enjengokuthi, "Uma kukhona uNkulunkulu, ngabe wayevumele kanjani lokhu kwenzeke kimi nomkami?" Ngokuvamile, lezi zinhlobo zemibuzo ziphela ngokushesha njengoba obaba abagxile ngokomoya baphendukela emthandazweni nasekholweni, kodwa futhi bangaba nemiphumela ehlala njalo njengoba sizama ukubuyisana nosizi lwethu nezinhlelo zethu zenkolelo.
Uthinta Kanjani Ubaba?
Obaba abaningi abathola ukukhulelwa kwesisu abaqaphela ukuthi bekungeke kube khona intombazane encane yokubuka ikhula noma umfana omncane ukudlala ibhola noma ukuhamba naye. Ngokuvamile amaphupho kababa kababa anjengokoqobo futhi anenjongo njengoba unina.
Isimo sengqondo esivamile sabantu besilisa lapho sibhekene nobunzima ukulungisa izinto (lokho kungenye yezikhalazo ezinkulu kakhulu esithandana nabo). Kodwa ukukhulelwa kwesisu akukwazi ukulungiswa. Akukho lutho kodwa isikhathi esizophulukisa ukulahleka kokulahlekelwa impilo yobumama. Ngalokho, ubaba uzozizwa engenamandla futhi engenathemba ukuphendula imizwa yakhe kanye nokudabuka okwenzeka ngumlingani wakhe.
Kufanele Ngibhekane Kanjani Nokudabukisayo Kwami Nokomngane Wami?
- Yazi ukuthi ungathini nokuthi yini ongayisho. Amamazana amaningi aphelelwe yiphutha asikisela ukuba amadoda abo azame ukubaduduza ngomyalezo wokuthi "usengaba nabanye abantwana." Umama, lo mntwana wayehlukile futhi ekhethekile. Ukuba nezingane eziningi kunoma iyiphi inombolo ngeke zisuse umzwelo wokulahlekelwa. Ukukhuluma ngezinye ukukhulelwa kungase kube indlela yethu yesilisa yokuzama ukuyilungisa. Okushiwo ngumama kuyindlebe yokulalela, isihawu nokuqinisekiswa ngothando lwakho ngaye. Lolu hlobo lwesimo sengqondo luzomsiza ukuba asebenze ngokuphumelelayo nokulahlekelwa kwakhe.
- Khuluma noma ubhale phansi. Amadoda ngokuvamile awabizi amanye amadoda efonini ukuze akhulume ngemizwa yabo, ngisho nasendleleni yokukhulelwa kwesisu. Akuyona nje indlela yethu yokusizi. Kodwa obaba abathile baye babhekana nokuthula nokuphulukiswa ngokubhala ezinye zalezo zemizwa futhi "banika impilo" ephepheni. Lokho kungaba usizo kakhulu kubazali osizi.
- Sekela umlingani wakho. Umlingani wakho uzovame ukuzwa ukulahlekelwa kwengane ngokucophelela okuthandayo. Ngakho-ke thatha isikhathi sokuhlala naye, ubambelele, ulalele ukhuluma naye. Ukuhlala nje futhi ukumsekela ngokusebenzisa usizi lwakhe kuyomsiza ngempela ukuba asebenzise okuhlangenwe nakho.
- Matasa. Amadoda azovame ukuphendukela kumsebenzi wokusiza ukuvuselela imizwa yokudabuka nokulahlekelwa. Akuyona indlela embi yokubhekana nakho konke okuqhubekayo okuzungezile. Ukuba matasa (kodwa hhayi ematasa kakhulu ukusekela umlingani wakho) kuzosiza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kuzokugxila kusiqondiso esihle.
Ukushada indiva kuyinkinga enkulu kumbhangqwana olindelekile. Ngokuhlala ugxilise ekusekeleni futhi ngokuqaphela ukuthi leso sikhathi sizosiza inqubo yokuphulukisa, ungathola ukuthula njengoba nje usilalela ngokulahlekelwa impilo eyodwa ekhethekile.