Kuncike ekutheni ukhona kangakanani ngesikhathi sokulahlekelwa kwakho, uzoba nokukhetha okuningi mayelana nokuthi yini ongayenza ngesimo sokugcina somntanakho. Kodwa-ke, kunoma yisiphi isigaba sokulahleka kokukhulelwa , ungaba-futhi ungafuna ukuba nomngcwabo noma isikhumbuzo.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abanye abantu abafuni ukuba nomngcwabo. Uma kunguwe, zihloniphe wena nezifiso zakho.
Akukho okulungile nokungalungile uma kuziwa emingcwabeni ngemuva kokukhulelwa noma ukubeletha, futhi okusemandleni ukwenza lokho okukuhle kuwe, hhayi okungcono kunomunye umuntu.
Kungani Kumngcwabo?
Imingcwabo iyisici esibalulekile senqubo yokulila abantu abaningi, indlela yokusho ukuhlehlisa nokuhlonipha inkumbulo yomuntu othandekayo. Kungase kuzwakale kunzima ukuba nekamelo eligcwele labantu okufanele libhekane nalo, kodwa ungase uthole ukuthola lula ukubhekana nabo bonke esikhathini esifushane.
Umngcwabo ungakusiza futhi uthole ukuvalwa, futhi ube enye yezinyathelo ekutholeni ngokomzwelo kusuka ekukhulelweni kokubeletha noma ekubelethweni okungakazalwa. Nakuba kungenzeka ukuthi utshele ama-goodbyes akho esibhedlela, ungase uthole umngcwabo ube yinto engcono yokugcina futhi eyanelisayo. Kuye ngokuthi ubude kangakanani ngesikhathi sokulahlekelwa kwakho, futhi ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezisanda kuzalwa, ungase ube nethuba lokubona ingane yakho okokugcina.
Isenzo sokukhetha wonke amalungiselelo okugcina wengane yakho singaba ukwelashwa ngezizathu eziningi.
Kukunika ithuba lokwenza izinqumo ezithile kumntanakho lapho eziningi zalezi zinqumo zithathwe kuwe. Njengoba ukuhlelwa komngcwabo kuyinto esiyisebenzisayo emva kokufa, kungakusiza ukuba uvumelane nokulahlekelwa okungazelelwe.
Ungazizwa Ukhululekile
Akuyona into engavamile ukuthatha isikhathi eside njengesonto ukuqedela wonke amalungiselelo omngcwabo.
Kuhle ukuthatha uma nje udinga. Qinisekisa ukuthi utshela umndeni nabangane ukuthi ufuna ukwenza izinqumo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani, noma bangase bacabange ukuthi ukhululekile futhi uzama ukuthatha ukuhlela. Ungavumeli noma ubani ukuba akugijimise enkonzweni ngaphambi kokuba ukwanelise ngazo zonke izinqumo zakho-ikakhulukazi ngoba wena, unina, uzobe uthola ukuphulukiswa kwakho nokuphulukiswa ngokomzimba wakho. Kufanele uzizwe kahle ngokwanele ukuhlala ngenkonzo futhi uphumule kahle ukuze ubhekane nomndeni wakho nabangane.
Thembela Izikhathi Zakho
Abaqondisi abaningi bamngcwabo bazwela kakhulu izidingo nezidingo zabazali. Uma ufuna ukuzibandakanya ekugqokheni ingane yakho emngcwabeni, yisho njalo. Uma ungakufuni, ungazizwa ucindezelwe. Ungase futhi ucele ukuthi abasebenzi bekhaya lomngcwabo bathathe izinyathelo ezingaphezulu noma baqoqe izinwele zezinwele kuwe, uma kunokwenzeka. Uma ufuna izithombe zomntwana wakho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi emalungiselelweni noma ngesikhathi sokungcwaba, khuluma. Ungase ufune ukuqoka umngani ukusebenza ikhamera. Ungavumeli abanye abantu bakutshele ukuthi akufanelekile noma kudidekile. Abantu abaningi bathatha izithombe, futhi bathole lokhu kududuza kamuva, ngisho noma bebuthakathaka okokuqala ngokwenza kanjalo nabangane abahlose kahle noma umndeni.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuyikhumbula ukuthi umngcwabo uyindlela yakho yokuzihlonipha wena nomntanakho, hhayi lokho komunye umuntu. Uma unayo isevisi ingaba mfushane noma isikhathi eside uma ukhetha. Abanye abantu bathola incazelo ekufundeni kobuKristu kwesevisi, kanti abanye bakhetha ukufundwa okungewona okungokwenkolo . Kuhle futhi uma uthanda kuphela isikhashana sokuthula. I-ajenda yakho ayidingi ukudabuka. Ngesikhathi uhlonipha ingane yakho, imingcwabo yenzelwe labo abaphila, hhayi labo abadlulile. Yenze ibe yakho.
Kufanele Ngibe Nomngcwabo Kanjani?
Ungaba nomngcwabo noma iyiphi indawo ozizwa ukhululekile.
Ikhaya lomngcwabo lizoba namakamelo okubuka, noma ungenza amalungiselelo nesonto lakho. Ungase futhi ube nesevisi emfushane emathuneni uma ngabe ingane yakho ingcwatshwe. Eminye imindeni ikhetha ukuba nenkonzo endlini yabo noma endaweni yomphakathi, njengelwandle noma ingadi. Qinisekisa ukucacisa nomqondisi wakho womngcwabo onesibopho sokuthola noma yiziphi izimvume ezidingekayo, uma uhlela ukusebenzisa izindawo zomphakathi.
Umngcwabo ungaba nesipiliyoni esihle futhi isinyathelo esizuzayo endleleni yakho ngokusebenzisa usizi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unesisu noma ukubeletha, ungaba nomkhosi okhethekile wokuhlonipha inkumbulo yengane yakho-noma ngabe ayikho emthethweni nasendlini yakho.
Ukuhlonipha Ingane Yakho
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha noma ungazikhethele ukuba nomngcwabo, kunezinye izindlela ongahlonipha ngayo ingane yakho. Nazi imibono embalwa yesikhumbuzo , kanye nezinye izindlela ezingavamile zokuqinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ayikhohliwe.
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