Yini Ongayilindela Ngenkathi Ingane Yakho Isondela Ku-Adolescence
Njengoba izingane zifinyelela eminyakeni engama-10, abaningi bazoqala ukuzicabangela ukuthi bebancane. Kodwa, akusilo njalo icala. Ngenkathi abanye bezoqala ukubuka futhi benze ngokuvuthiwe, abanye bazohlala bebaningi njengabantwana, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
Ukuba ngu-10 kungukushintsha. Kuyinkathi yenguquko enganikeza izinselelo futhi ijabule njengoba izingane ziqala ukwamukela indlela yokukhula.
Ukuthuthukiswa Komzimba
Izingane eziningi zizoqala ukuzwa ukukhula okukhulu okuyisikhathi ngesikhathi sifinyelela ebangeni lesihlanu. Amantombazane avame ukukhula ngesivinini esisheshayo futhi angazithola ngokuzumayo abaqaphi abafana abaneminyaka efanayo.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, abafana abaningi abaneminyaka engu-10 bangase baqale ukukhombisa izimpawu zokukhulelwa , kuyilapho abanye kuzodingeka balinde baze babe ngu-11, 12, noma ngisho no-13. Lokhu ukungalingani ekukhuleni kungabangela ukukhathazeka ezinganeni eziningi, noma ngoba zikhula ngokushesha kakhulu noma zingasheshi ngokwanele.
Kunezindlela ongasiza ngayo ingane yakho inqobe lokhu:
- Khuluma ngokukhulelwa. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulu uma ingane yakho ikhula ngokushesha noma ihamba kancane kunezinye. Qaphela izimpikiswano zomzimba ezingase zivele njengoba izingane ziqala ukuziqhathanisa nabanye.
- Khuthaza ukudla okunempilo nokuzivocavoca. Ukwenza kanjalo manje kungasiza ingane yakho igweme ukukhuluphala futhi ifunde imikhuba engayenza esikoleni esiphakathi . Ku-10, izingane zikwazi kangcono ukubona izinzuzo zalabo abakwenzayo, kokubili ukuthi zibukeka kanjani futhi zizizwa kanjani.
- Hlela imikhuba yokulala enempilo. Ngenxa yokuthi izingane ezineminyaka engu-10 zisebenzisa amandla amaningi, zidinga phakathi kwamahora ayisishiyagalolunye kuya kwangu-10 zokulala ubusuku bonke. Ungazikhohlisi ekucabangeni ukuthi badinga okungaphansi.
Ukuthuthukiswa Komphakathi
Ukucindezela kontanga kungadlala indima enkulu ebuhlotsheni bomphakathi wabaningi abaneminyaka eyi-10. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane zizobe zizimisele ukuhlangana nazo ngokugqoka izingubo ezifanele, ukulalela umculo oqondile, noma ukuthanda nokuphikisa izinto ezifanayo.
Kubalulekile ukugxilisa enganeni yakho umqondo oqinile wokuzibheka kangcono ukubhekana nokucindezela kanye nemithonya esikoleni nabangani. Ngenkathi izingane zalesikhathi zingenza konke ukubukeka zikhulile, zisenokukhubazeka okungazibeka ngendlela eyingozi.
Njengomzali, kunezinto ezithile ongayenza:
- Gada imisebenzi ye-inthanethi yengane yakho. Lokhu kufaka phakathi imidiya yomphakathi kanye nosesho lwe-intanethi. Sebenzisa ukulawula kwabazali kuwo wonke amadivayisi kanye nokulandelela kwe-GPS kumakhalekhukhwini.
- Vumela ubumfihlo bakho kwengane nabangani . Manje yisikhathi sokuqala ukuvuma nokuhlonipha ukuzimela kwengane yakho. Misa imithetho kodwa vumela ingane yakho igumbi ukuthi libonise ukuziphatha okuzimele.
- Siza ingane yakho ukuthola izixazululo. Esikhundleni sokutshela ingane yakho ukuthi yini okumelwe ukwenze, vele ukhethe okukhethwa kukho ukuze akwazi ukukhetha nokuzikhethela . Uma ingane yenza ukhetho olubi, xoxani ngemiphumela yokuzikhethela kunokugxeka noma ukushaya ingane.
- Gxila kumagugu. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi uma ubhekene nezinqumo ezinzima. Ngokugxila ekubalukeni komusa, ukwethembeka, ukungabi nabulungisa, nokuzibheka, ingane ingase ifike esinqumweni esifanele.
- Khuthaza ukukhula komuntu siqu. Manje yisikhathi sokusiza ingane yakho ihlole izithakazelo ezintsha futhi ithole amatalenta amasha. Ukufunda lezi zakhono kuyisihluthulelo sokwakha ukuzethemba. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukukhuthaza imisebenzi yeqembu ukusiza ingane yakho ukuba ithole amakhono abalulekile ekuhlaleni.
Ukuthuthukiswa Komzwelo
Ngenkathi iningi lezingane ezineminyaka engu-10 lizothola ukulawula okuthile kwemizwelo yabo, abanye bangase bawele ngemuva kwemizwelo. Kubalulekile ukuba nozwela futhi ungafaki ukulindela okungenangqondo lapho ingane yakho kufanele khona noma kungabi khona.
Ngokubonisa uzwela, ungafaka izinkambiso eziningi ezifanayo kumntanakho. Ngisho noma eziphatha ngokungenangqondo noma esebenzela ingane, ngokugxila emicabangweni, ungenza ngisho nomcimbi omubi ube ithuba lokufunda.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ongayenza ukusekela ukukhula komzwelo wengane yakho:
- Umzweli we-Label. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ubhale kanjani ukuthi uzizwa kanjani . Ingane engathi, "Ngizizwa ngithukuthele," ngeke kube nemiphumela encane yokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa.
- Qinisekisa imizwa yengane yakho. Ukwamukela ubuhlungu akutsheli nje ukuthi ingane ulalele, kuyasiza ingane ukuba iqonde ukuthi lokho akuzwayo akulungile.
- Fundisa amakhono okubhekana nokubhekana. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uneminyaka engu-10 ubudala ukuthi ufunde indlela yokubhekana nemizwa engakhululekile ngendlela enempilo. Ngakho, kunokuba uzame ukujabulisa ingane, yisiza indodana noma indodakazi yakho ithole amasu okuvuma nokuxazulula le mizwelo.
- Nika imithwalo yemfanelo. Lapho uneminyaka engu-10 ubudala, ingane yakho izokwazi ukuphatha uhla olubanzi lwemisebenzi nemithwalo yemfanelo. Nikeza isiqondiso, kodwa ungagodli noma unxuse. Uma kudingekile, sebenzisa isiyalo esifanele iminyaka ukulungisa ukuziphatha nokukhuthaza umthwalo wemfanelo.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi ingane yakho ayikuthuthuki njengoba kufanele, qala ngokuzikhumbuza ukuthi manje yisikhathi sokuguqula umnyaka oneminyaka engu-10 ubudala. Ayikho indawo ebekwe ngayo lapho indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho kufanele ibe khona. Ngenkathi abanye bezobe betha nge-makeup nezemidlalo, abanye bangase bajabule ukudlala bayodonsa noma bafunde izincwadi zamahlaya. Bobabili baphile futhi baphile kahle.
Uma usenandaba nokuthi ingane yakho ilahlekile, khuluma nodokotela wezingane zakho. Angase afaneleke kakhulu ukuhlola ukuthuthukiswa kwengane yakho nokukudlulisela kuchwepheshe ofanele uma kudingeka.
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