Izizathu Zokuba Nesihawu Esithile Kwabazali Bomntwana Abazikhukhumezayo

Ukuziphatha okungalungile akuhlali njalo kubangelwa ukubeletha okubi

Uma ubona lowo mntwana ophonsa amadwala epaki, noma kukhona ingane eyodwa ebhizinisini lokuzalwa elibonakala lifika emanzini wonke umuntu, kulula ukuwahlulela abazali. Mhlawumbe uyazibuza ukuthi kungani bengagcini ingane yabo emgqeni. Noma mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi ubani okhulisa ingane enjengaleyo kumele abe ngumzali oyingozi.

Kodwa, ukucabanga kwakho mayelana nengane eziphatha kabi nabazali bayo kungenzeka ukuthi akulungile. Kunezinye izizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani ingane ingase ingabi ukuziphatha. Nazi izizathu eziyisishiyagalolunye ukuthi kungani ungase ufune ukuba nesihawu kwabanye abazali 'bezingane ezingenacala.

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Awazi Lokho Okushiwo Ingane

Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kokuphila, njengengozi emgwaqeni yokufa noma inhlekelele yemvelo, kungathinta kakhulu ukuziphatha kwengane. Kungenzeka nezenzakalo ezicindezelayo, njengokuhlukana, ukuhamba, noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo.

Lezo zinhlobo zokuhlangenwe nakho okunzima zingathinta ukuthuthukiswa kwengane, ngisho nalapho kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokuzalwa noma ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa komama. Ngakho-ke nakuba kungase kubonakale sengathi ingane ikhetha ukungcoliswa ngaphandle, awukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi kwengqondo yengane.

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Awazi Lokho Okushiwo Abazali

Abazali bomntwana ongenamahloni kungenzeka ukuthi babhekana nokuhlangenwe nakho okunzima ngokwabo. Abazali abaye balahlekelwa yingane bangase babe nobuhlungu obukhulu ukuqondisa ngokufanele ingane yabo. Noma, umzali onomlando wokuhlukunyezwa angase ahlukumeze ukuba ngumzali onempilo kubantwana bakhe.

Okuhlangenwe nakho okucindezelayo ekuphileni kubangele indlela abazali abahlanganyela ngayo nezingane zabo. Umama ongashadile angase abe nenkinga yokuthola isikhathi sokuchitha nezingane zakhe, ezingabangela izinkinga zabo zokuziphatha. Noma, abazali ababhekene nendawo yokuhlala bangase bakhathazeke kakhulu ngesimo sabo ukuze babone ukungalungi kwengane yabo.

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I-Genetics Dlala Indima Ekuziphatheni

Nakuba imvelo idlala indima enkulu ekuziphatheni kwengane, izakhi zofuzo zingase zibe yisici esikhulu. Ucwaningo lwango-2013 olwanyatheliswa kuyi- International Journal of Behavioral Development lwathola ukuthi izici ezinjengokuzithiba okungezona ukuzithiba kanye nezinkinga zokuthukuthela zingathola ifa kubazali.

Ucwaningo olwenziwe ngo-2012 olwanyatheliswa kuyi- Psychological Science lwathola ukuthi izakhi zofuzo zidlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu ezinkingeni zokuziphatha lapho abazali bekude. Uma abazali bengadlala ngokucophelela lokho abantwana babo abakwenzayo, i-biology ingathatha indima enkulu ekuthinteni izinqumo izingane ezizenzayo.

Ngokusobala, ukubeletha kwengane kuzalwa neempembelelo zokuziphatha kwengane. Ezinye izingane zithandeka ngokweqile noma zihlehlisiwe, kuyilapho ezinye zivame ukuba yinkimbinkimbi, inxanxathela, futhi ingesabi.

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Ingane Ingaba Nenkinga Yempilo Yengqondo

Ngezinye izikhathi ukuziphatha okunonya, okungavumelani, nokuzikhukhumeza kubangelwa inkinga yempilo yengqondo noma isifo sokuziphatha . Ukuhlukunyezwa okungafani nokuphikisana , i- ADHD , nokukhubazeka kokuziphatha, isibonelo, kungaholela ezinkingeni ezihlukahlukene zokuziphatha.

Kodwa ngisho nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka noma izinkinga zokukhathazeka, zingaholela ezinkingeni zokuziphatha. Ingane ekhungathekile ingase ibe yinto engcolile ngoba yesaba ukwenza okuthile lapho ingahle ihluleke khona. Noma ingane ecindezelekile ingase ingabi namandla okuthola umsebenzi wakhe.

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Ingane Ingase Ibe Nokuncipha Kwezokuthuthukiswa

Kungenxa yokuthi ingane ineminyaka engu-10 ayisho ukuthi angenza njengomfana oneminyaka engu-10 ubudala. Izingane eziningi zinokulibaziseka kwentuthuko ezithinta ukuziphatha kwazo.

Awuboni ukulibaziseka kwenkulumo, izinkinga zokucabanga, noma ukuphazamiseka kwe-autism spectrum nje ngokubuka othile. Ngakho-ke naphezu kokukhula kwengane noma ubukhulu bezingane, angase angabi nalutho lokuvuthwa ongayilindela.

Ngakho-ke ungase ubone umuntu oneminyaka engu-10 ejikijela intukuthelo esikhumulweni sezindiza noma eneminyaka engu-12 ekhala endabeni. Akusho ukuthi bachithekile noma ukuthi abazali babo abanikezi imithetho eyanele. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubuchopho babo abukwakhiwa ngendlela ongayilindela ngayo futhi bengakakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo kangcono.

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Imindeni ehlukene ineMithetho ehlukile

Khumbula ukuthi ngenxa nje yokuthi ucabanga ukuthi ingane ingenangqondo, akusho ukuthi wonke umuntu ucabanga lokho. Abazali 'abangenalwazi' bangase bacabange ukuthi unzima kakhulu noma kungenzeka ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho ayigcinwe kakhulu.

Wonke umndeni unemithetho ehlukene futhi abazali banamazinga ahlukene okubekezelelana. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi ungase ucabange ukuthi ingane yomunye umuntu ibonakala ingafuni, abanye abantu bangase babheke ukuziphatha kwengane njengokuhlekisayo.

Khumbula ukuthi ezinye izindinganiso zomndeni kanye nokulindela akudingeki kube ngcono noma kubi kunakho. Kunalokho, bangase bahluke.

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Abazali Abangazi Lokho Okunye Okumele Bakwenze

Abazali bezingane ezingalungile kungenzeka ukuthi bazama konke kakade ukuze ingane yabo iphathe. Ukwelapha, imithi, izinsizakalo zasendlini, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nokufakwa kwezindawo zokuhlala kungenzeka ukuthi sekubekiwe. Futhi abazali bangase bakhathele uma kuziwa kokuzama amasu omyalo omusha.

Kungenxa yokuthi ingane yakho ilalele uma umthumela ekuphumeni akusho ukuthi kuzosebenza enye ingane. Noma ngenxa yokuthi ingane yakho ibonakala ifunda emaphutheni akhe uma ususa ilungelo, akusho ukuthi enye ingane izokwenza okufanayo. Abazali bezingane ezingalungile kungenzeka sebevele bezama lezo zindlela ukuthi azizuzi lutho.

Kukhona nethuba lokuthi ukuziphatha kwengane kuthuthukile. Abazali bangase bazimisele ukubekezelela ukukhala nokukhala ngenxa yokuthi ingane yabo ayisayikushaya. Noma, bangase bazimisele ukubekezelela ukuphikisana okuncane uma nje ingane yabo ingazilimazi.

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Kungenzeka ukuthi umndeni uthola ukwahlulelwa ngabanye abantu kakade

Uma ingane ikhubazeka kaningi, kungenzeka ukuthi abazali baye bakhuthaza ukuhlanganyela kwabo okuhle kwama-eye rolls kanye nokubukeka okungcolile kweminye imindeni kakade. Futhi leyo mpendulo yempendulo ayinakusiza.

Ngezinye izikhathi, abazali abahlukumezayo abantwana baphatha cishe inani elihle lokuhlazeka. Bakhathazeka ngokuthi abanye bawaqonda kanjani futhi bangase bazizwe bengenasifanele futhi bexolisa kaningi.

Akulula ukuthatha ingane engalungile ibe yindawo yomphakathi. Abanye abazali kufanele bakwenze ngaphandle kwesidingo, noma kunjalo.

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Kungenzeka Benza Okuhle Kakhulu

Akuwona wonke umuntu ovelayo ekuzalaneni. Kodwa abazali abaningi benza konke okusemandleni abo.

Futhi ngenkathi eminye imindeni inesikhathi esiningi sokuqeqesha iqembu eliphansi kanye nemali eningi yokukhokha ukuhlulwa kwebhola elisha, enye imindeni ihluleka ngempela. Futhi ungase ungaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi lezo zinkinga.

Ngezinye izikhathi, abantu ababonakala bephila ndawonye ndawonye bangase babe nezinhlungu eziningi ngaphakathi. Futhi kaningi, ukuziphatha kwengane kuyisimo senkinga ejulile eqhubekayo emndenini.

Indlela Yokubonisa Uzwela

Esikhundleni sokungenezela ekucindezelekeni kwabo ngokubukeka okungavumelani, ukumomotheka noma ukuqhuma kungahamba okuningi. Uma abazali bebukeka sengathi benza okusemandleni abo, igama lomusa lingase libe lihlelekile.

Ukuthi, "Wenza umsebenzi omuhle," ungamnika umzali ophazamisayo isikhuthazo ayidingayo ukuze adlule ngalolo suku. Noma, ngokusho ukuthi, "Kuzobe ngcono," kungase kumnike umzali okhungathekile kancane ithemba.

Uma wazi umndeni kahle, isipho sokubeletha amahora ambalwa. Isicelo sokuthi usuku lokudlala singase sithandeke kakhulu futhi.

Kodwa khumbula, ngoba nje enye ingane ikhubazekile, akusho ukuthi abazali noma ingane bayabantu ababi.

Imithombo:

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> Lipscomb ST, u-Laurent H, Neiderhiser JM, et al. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwe-Genetic kuhambisana nokubeletha nokunakekelwa kokuqala kanye nemfundo ukubikezela ukuziphatha okukhulayo okuqhubekayo. I-International Journal Yokuthuthukiswa Kokuziphatha . 2013; 38 (1): 70-80. i-doi: 10.1177 / 0165025413508708.