Ukukhulisa umntwana onenkinga yokuphikisa okuphikisayo kuyinselele enkulu. Izingane ezinezimpikiswano eziphikisayo ziphikisana ngazo, zenqaba ukulandela izinkombandlela, futhi zithola injabulo ngokucasula abanye ngezinhloso.
Naphezu kwalezo zinkinga zokuziphatha, izingane ezinezinkinga zokuphikisa eziphikisanayo zingaba zihlakaniphile, zidalwe futhi zizinakekele. Futhi ngosizo lokungenelela kokusiza abazali, ukuziphatha kwabo kungathuthuka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukukhulisa umntwana onenkinga yokuphikisana nokuphikisa kuyinto ehlukile. Kudinga indlela ehlukile yokuqondisa.
Nikeza ukunakwa okuhle
Izingane ezinezimpikiswano eziphikisanayo eziphikisanayo zivame ukubamba izinzwa zabantu. Ngenxa yalokho, ukuxhumana kwabo abaningi nabantu abadala akubi. Bathola imiyalo eminingi, izikhalo, nemiphumela kunezinye izingane.
Ukulinganiswa kwansuku zonke kokunakekelwa okuhle kungaba yisihluthulelo sokuvimbela izinkinga zokuziphatha. Dlala imidlalo ndawonye, ugijime ngaphandle, noma wenze iphrojekthi ndawonye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho iziphatha kanjani ngalolosuku, mnike ukunaka kwakho okungenani okungenani imizuzu engu-15.
Ukunika ingane yakho ukunakekelwa okuhle kuzonciphisa imizamo yakhe yokunaka ngokuziphatha okubi. Ngakho cabangela isikhathi sakho sekhwalithi ukutshala imali ekunciphiseni izinkinga zokuziphatha esikhathini eside.
Misa Imithetho Ecacile
Izingane ezinezimpikiswano eziphikisanayo ziphikisa ukuphikisana ngemithetho.
Babheka izinyathelo futhi baveza ukukhathazeka lapho izinto zingabonakali zilungile.
Nciphisa izimpikiswano ezithile ngokusungula imithetho ecacile yasendlini . Thumela imithetho esiqandisini noma kwenye indawo evelele endlini.
Bese, ubheke ohlwini njengoba kudingeka. Lapho ingane yakho ithi, "Angifuni ukwenza umsebenzi wami wesikole manje," khombisa ukuthi, "Imithetho ithi umsebenzi wesikole uqala ngo-4: 00."
Gcina imithetho elula futhi ungenzi uhlu lude kakhulu. Faka imithetho eyisisekelo mayelana nezindaba ezifana nomsebenzi wesikole, imisebenzi yasekhaya, isikhathi sokulala, nenhlonipho.
Dala uhlelo lokuziphatha
Dala uhlelo lokuziphatha ukubhekana nezinkinga zokuziphatha kwengane yakho njengokuhlukunyezwa, ukukhuluma emuva, ukwenqaba ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole, noma ukuthukuthela.
Thola ukuthi umphumela wengane yakho uzothola uma ephula imithetho. Chaza imiphumela kuye esikhathini esingaphambili.
Ukwengeza, xoxisana nganoma yimiphi imiphumela emihle ayoyithola uma ebonisa ukuziphatha okuhle. Amasistimu emivuzo , ikakhulukazi izinhlelo zezomnotho we-token , ingaba amathuluzi asebenzayo kakhulu kubantwana abane-disorder disorder disorder.
Hlangana Nemiphumela
Izingane ezinezifo eziphikisanayo eziphikisanayo zidinga imiphumela emibi engalungile yokuziphatha okungalungile. Uma uvumela ingane yakho ukuba ibalekele ngokuphula imithetho ngezinye izikhathi, ngeke ifunde.
Uma ecabanga ukuthi kukhona ithuba eliyisishiyagalolunye ozolidiliza futhi uzinikele lapho ephikisana naye, uzokhipha isinqumo sokuthi kufanelekile ukudubula. Futhi uzoba nokuphikisana okuningi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Gwema ukulwa kwamandla
Izingane ezinezinkinga zokuphikisa eziphikisanayo zilungile ekukhokheni abantu abadala ukuba zibe nezingxoxo ezide. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthatha izinyathelo zokugwema izinkinga zamandla ngoba azizuzisi noma zikhiqiza.
Uma utshela ingane yakho ukuthi ihlanze ikamelo lakhe futhi iphikisana nani, melani ukuphikisana. Uma isikhathi eside esigcina ngempikiswano, isikhathi eside esibheka ukuhlanza ikamelo lakhe. Kunalokho, mnike imiyalelo ecacile futhi unikeze umphumela uma ekhetha ukungalandeli.
Ungazami ukuphoqa ingane yakho ukwenza okuthile. Awukwazi ukumenza ahlanze ikamelo lakhe. Awukwazi ukumphoqa ukuba enze umsebenzi wesikole. Ukuphikisana, ukugxila, nokukhala akusebenzi.
Kodwa-ke, ungenza lokho kungamjabulisi uma ekhetha ukungenzi lokho okushilo ngokumnika imiphumela. Uma engenzi lokho oye wamtshela, mnike esinye isixwayiso esichaza ngokucacile lokho okuzokwenzeka uma engenzi lokho okushoyo.
Yithi, "Uma ungasuki ikhompyutha okwamanje, uzolahlekelwa amalungelo akho e-elektronike emahoreni angu-24 alandelayo." Uma engathobeli ngemva kwemizuzwana embalwa, landela ngokulandela.
Thola Ukusekelwa
Uma ingane yakho ingatholi usizo lochwepheshe ngokuqhubekayo, ungase ufune ukuyihlola. Ukuqeqeshwa komzali kuvame ukuyingxenye enkulu yokwelapha futhi umeluleki ochwepheshe angakusiza ngamasu wokuguqula ukuziphatha ekhaya.
Amaqembu asekela angasiza futhi. Ukukhulisa ingane ngokuphikisana nokuphikisana okungahambisani nakho kungakhathaza futhi kukhulume nabanye abazali abaqonda ukuthi kubalulekile.
Zifundise ngokwakho ngangokunokwenzeka mayelana nokuphikiswa kwesifo sokungcola. Ukuyiqonda kungabalulekile ekusizeni ingane ukufunda amakhono amasha ukuphatha ukuziphatha kwakhe.
Imithombo
I-American Academy of Child & I-Psychiatry: I- Oppositional Defiant Disorder .
I-Webster-Stratton C. I-Incredible Years: Abazali, othisha, kanye nochungechunge lokuqeqesha izingane: Uhlelo lokuqukethwe, izindlela, ucwaningo nokusabalalisa 1980-2011 . Seattle, WA: Iminyaka Engavamile; 2011.