Kulungile, ngakho iminyaka siye saziswa ukuthi ukuba nobulili ekupheleni kokukhulelwa kuzosisiza ukuba silethe emsebenzini. Kuyindlela eqinisekile yokubangela umsebenzi. Angikwazi ukukutshela inani labesifazane abakhulelwe kakhulu ngiyazi ukuthi ngubani ozimisele ukwenza noma yini (futhi ngisho lutho) ukuletha umsebenzi ngaleso sikhathi. Manje kukhona isifundo mayelana nesihloko sonke esithi akusilo iqiniso.
Kodwa linda! Esinye isifundo sithi kuyiqiniso.
Ngezinye izikhathi kungaba nzima kakhulu ukutshela ukuthi yiziphi lezi zitatimende eziyiqiniso. Iqiniso le ndaba ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukusho. Usuvele uthintana nabesifazane ekupheleni kokukhulelwa, ngokweqiniso ukuthi bangaba nabantwana nganoma isiphi isikhathi. Ngakho-ke uma beya ocansini futhi banomntwana kusasa - bekukhona yini ubulili? Noma ingabe ngabe kwenzeke noma iyiphi indlela?
Yilapho uthola khona kanzima ukusho. Nakhu engingakutshela: Ukuba nobulili nomlingani wakho noma ukujabulela i-orgasm (yedwa noma ndawonye) kuyindlela enhle yokunciphisa ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Kuzwakala kuhle. Abomama nabazali abaningi babika ukuthi ukwenza ucansi kwenza bazizwe besondelene. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuletha emisebenzini noma cha, kungani ungahlanganyeli ucansi?
Ngokuqinisekile, unganginika uhlu olude lwezizathu zokuthi kungani abesifazane abakhulelwe bengase bangafuni ukulala ocansini: kakhulu kakhulu, kuhle kabi, bazizwa bekhathele. Akukho lutho ukudala okuncane , ukubekezela nothando ngeke kusebenze nxazonke uma ngabe uzimisele ukuzama.
Ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokukhululeka kwengqondo ngokuqinisekile kusiza inqubekela phambili yomsebenzi ngokushesha uma iqalile. Amama amaningi athi ukulala ocansini kubasiza ukuba balale. Futhi ukumane uxhumane nomlingani wakho kungaba yinto enkulu kakhulu lapho nonke nilungiselela ukubhekana nobuzali.
Ngakho-ke, ngingathembisa ukuthi uzoba nomntwana uma ulala ocansini lapho ukhulelwe?
Cha. Ungakwenza? Yebo. Kuye izinzuzo kubonakala sengathi zengezela ubulili ekupheleni kokukhulelwa kube yinto enhle futhi okungenzeka kubangele ukusebenza - kahle, lokho kuyi-cherry phezulu!
Uma udinga ukuba ingane izalwe ngenxa yenkinga yezokwelapha nawe noma umntwana, uzodinga ukuthola indlela uma ukufakelwa okune-oomph eyengeziwe ngemuva kwayo. Lezi zingaba izindlela zokungeniswa kwemvelo (isb. Ukuvuselela i- nipple , amafutha we-castor , njll), izindlela zokungeniswa kwezokwelapha (isib. Ukuphula isikhwama samanzi, i-Pitocin, njll) noma inhlanganisela yezindlela zokubhaliswa. Udokotela wakho noma umbelethisi uzokutshela uma kunjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi basikisela izindlela zemvelo ezinsukwini eziholela ekufakweni kwezokwelapha.
Ngishiye amazwana mayelana nemicabango yakho ukuthi noma ngabe ucansi ekukhulelweni kwekwephuzile kubangelwa ukusebenza.
Funda kabanzi: Izindlela Zokukhishwa Kwemvelo | Izikhundla zocansi ekukhulelweni
Umthombo:
UKavanagh J, Kelly AJ, Thomas J. Ukulala ngokocansi kokuvuthwa komlomo wesibeletho kanye nokufakwa kwesibalo sabasebenzi. Database Cochrane Yokuhlolwa Okuhlelekile 2001, Issue 2. Art. Cha: CD003093. I-DOI: 10.1002 / 14651858.CD003093
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