Izinhloso Ukuzama Ukuzama Nokuzikhandla Abazali Bangalindela Kubantu Abadala Aba-18
Intsha eneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili iyaqala isikhathi esithakazelisayo ekuphileni kwabo - isikhathi senkululeko eyengeziwe kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi. Ngenkathi intsha, njengabantwana bonke, ikhula ngamazinga ahlukene, kunezimo ezithile ezisezingeni elijwayelekile eminyakeni ethile. Nakhu okuyizinhloso zokulwela nokuthi yini abazali abangayilindela kusukela eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala.
Inkinga Yokuphila Entsha: Ukudla Nokudla
Umntwana oneminyaka engu-18 usendleleni eya ekubeni yedwa futhi benza izinqumo zabo ngokuphathelene nokudla nokudla.
Baye bahlakulela imikhuba yokudla okunomsoco okuzoyilandela ekukhuleni kwabo.
Ukuba nenkululeko yabo entsha etholakalayo kungenza ingane yakho ingathandi ukwenza iseluleko esihle sokudla okunomsoco kuwe. Bavame ukuzizwa sengathi sebevele 'bazi' futhi abakwazi ukuthola ukuthi kungani uzobaxhaphaza ngezinto ezincane ezinama-vithamini noma ukudla imifino yabo. Lokhu kuvamile futhi akukho sizathu sokumisa 'i-harping' yakho - zama nje ukusiza ithoni nokungafundi.
Uma ingane yakho ihlala kude nekhaya, imali ingaba inkinga uma kuziwa ekuthengeni ukudla okuhle, njengoba ukudla okunomsoco kuvame ukubiza kakhulu kunezihlobo zabo zokudla okungenamsoco. I-saladi cishe ingadla okuningi kunezinketho zokudla okusheshayo ze-dollar.
Inkinga Yokuphila Entsha: Ukulala
Ukulala ngokuvamile akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu kwentsha eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala. Bavame ukuzama ukuthola okungaphezulu kosuku ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kokuthi kuseni kusasa lapho kungekho mfana othanda ukuvuka.
Kodwa laba bantu abadala banemithwalo yemfanelo abayidingayo ukuze bathole ukuphumula ukuze benze konke okusemandleni abo. Ngakho-ke, umsebenzi wakho ukuwasiza ukuthi abone ukuthi ungathola kanjani okuhle kakhulu kokubili zomhlaba uma ungakwazi.
Nakuba kubalulekile ukugwema ukugxila ingane yakho, kungase kudingeke ukuthi usethe imingcele embalwa. Uma ukuphila komphakathi wakho kwentsha kuthola indlela yokulala, umkhuthaze ukuba ahlale ekhaya ubusuku obubodwa ngesonto ukuze akhiphe futhi axindezeleke.
Ngesikhathi ubuthongo bungase kungabi yinto ebalulekile kubantwana bakho abaneminyaka engu-18 ubudala, isikhathi sokuphelelwa yisikhathi kufanele sisacindezelwe ngoba sibonisa inhlonipho kubo bonke abahlala ekhaya. Intsha efika ekhaya noma nini ngaphandle kokubiza ibangela ukucindezeleka kubazali nakudadewabo.
Inkinga Yokuphila Entsha: Ukuzivocavoca
Uma ingane yakho inomkhuba omuhle wokuzivocavoca, ubasize bayigcine. Umuntu owenza indlela yokusebenza emzimbeni esebenzayo eminyakeni yakhe esemdala kanye neminyaka eyishumi iyothatha leyo mikhuba emihle ibe ngumuntu omdala.
Hlola ulwazi lwendawo yokuzijabulisa lomzimba futhi udlulisele ku-teen yakho eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala. Lapho intsha eyazi ukuthi inikezwa yini endaweni yayo, iyoyisebenzisa ngokunenzuzo.
Inkinga Yokuphila Entsha: Ukucindezeleka
Intsha eneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye ubudala ijwayele ukujabula ngomzuzu owodwa futhi igcizelele okulandelayo. Izwe labo liyashintsha ngokushesha, lisho abangane abangesikoleni esiphakeme futhi benza indlela yabo emhlabeni jikelele ekolishi noma emsebenzini. Kungenye yezikhathi ezicindezelayo kakhulu zokuphila komuntu kuningi izinqumo kanye nezinguquko kuzoba phezulu emoyeni kubo.
Siza ingane yakho ukuba isingathe ukucindezeleka kwalezi zinguquko zokuphila ngokuzakhela ukuzethemba kwabo ngezikhumbuzo zamakhono namakhono abo okuphila , ukulalela imibono yabo nokuzivumela ukuba zenze izinqumo zabo zonke izinkathi ngenkathi ziyazi ukuthi zithandwa futhi zisekelwa.
Ukuziphatha, Imithwalo yemfanelo, nokuLawula
Beka imithetho yakho yendawo yengane yakho eneminyaka engu-18 ubudala ohlala ekhaya, ngoba bangase baqale bacabange ukuthi manje babantu abadala, imithetho oye waba nayo endaweni ayisasebenza. Chaza ingane yakho ukuthi lokhu akunjalo futhi uzama ukwenza kanjalo ngaphambi kokuba ibangele inkinga noma impikiswano. Lapho beneminyaka engu-18, kufanele bakwazi ukulandela imithetho yendlu ngaphandle kokuba ukhumbuze.
Ukuncintisana kuyisihluthulelo sokuhlala nomuntu omdala oneminyaka engu-18 ubudala oye waphumelela esikoleni esiphakeme futhi ulindele ukuya ekolishi noma ufuna umsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele. Hlala uxhumekile kumntanakho ngokukhulumisana okuvulekile nganoma yiziphi izinkinga ongase ube nazo ngokuziphatha kwazo.
Bacele ukuthi bakusize ukuthi ufike nesisombululo.
Umsolwa oneminyaka engu-18 uzohamba ngokuzibandakanya ngokweqile ukuba engenzi lutho ngqo ngemuva kokuphothula esikoleni esiphakeme uma engenayo umsebenzi wehlobo noma isikhathi esigcwele. Lokhu kungase kungabi inkinga uma ingane yakho isendleleni eya ekolishi noma esikoleni sobuchwepheshe phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa. Bangasebenzisa ikhefu ukuze balungele. Kodwa uma ingane yakho ingakwenzanga izinhlelo zekusasa labo, ingahle ibe nemikhuba emibi engayizuzisa yona. Uma kunjalo, faka ingane yakho iqale ekutholeni umsebenzi ngokushesha.
Kubuyekezwe ngu-Amy Morin, i-LCSW.