Ukufa komunye umzali kungenza kube inselele ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani mayelana nokukhokha kwezingane. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu oshonile ungumzali wokulondeka noma umzali ongekho ozokunquma ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo okufanele uzithathe ngokulandelayo.
Lokhu kungaba isimo esinzima futhi icala lomndeni ngamunye lizohluka. Kungakhathaliseki isimo sakho esithile, kungcono ukubonisana nommeli endaweni yakho ukufuna iseluleko esithile.
Ngokuvamile, kunezindlela zokuqhubeka nokuthola izinkokhelo zokusekelwa kwengane ngemuva kokufa komzali oyedwa.
Ukufa komzali ongabambisani
Ukufa komzali ongekho ukuphepha kungashiya umzali wokuzimela ebuza ukuthi bazokwazi kanjani ukuqhubeka nokusekela izingane zabo. Nazi imibuzo embalwa edingekayo yokusiza uma unquma ukuthi ungathola kanjani ukwesekwa okuqhubekayo.
Ingabe umzali unenqubomgomo yomshuwalense wokuphila obanzi ukuthi ubiza ingane njengomzuzi? Uma kunjalo, umzali osaphila kufanele abize inkampani yomshuwalense ukuthi aqale inqubo yokuqoqa ngenqubomgomo yomshuwalense egameni lomntwana.
Ingabe umzali oshonile wayesebenza kahle isikhathi esithile? Uma kunjalo, umzali osaphila angakwazi ukuthola izinzuzo egameni lomntwana ku-Social Security Administration.
Ingabe umzali unayo impahla? Impahla yomzali ingafaka izimoto, izindlu, ama-akhawunti asebhange, kanye nemali yokuthatha umhlalaphansi njengama-401k.
Uma umzali engenawo umshuwalense wokuphila, le mali ingase ibe nesibopho sokukhokha noma yiziphi izinkokhelo zokuxhasa izingane ezikhokhwayo.
Ukushona komzali wokulondeka
Uma kwenzeka ukuthi umzali ophelelwa yisikhathi efa, okubaluleke kakhulu kunquma ukuthi ubani ozokunakekela izingane. Lokhu kungase kube umzali ongabambeleli, ugogo nomkhulu, ezinye izihlobo, noma abangane bomndeni.
Futhi, isimo ngasinye sihlukile.
Uma umzali ongeyena ongalungelo lokuvikela, angase afune ukuguqulwa kokusekelwa kwengane. Bangase futhi bafune ukwesekwa kwengane kusuka kwingcebo yomzali wokugcinwa kwempahla (izimpahla) ukuze basize ngezindleko ezihlobene nokukhulisa izingane.
Le ndaba ihluke uma umzali ongekho emthethweni engacabangi ukuthi ingane ingaphansi kwengane ngemuva kokufa komzali. Kulesi simo, umnakekeli wengane angakwazi ukuqoqa ukusekelwa kwengane evela kumzali ongabambeleli futhi afune ukwesekwa kumnikazi womuntu oshonile wokulondeka.
Ukufa komhlanganyeli
Imicimbi ingabuye ibe nzima uma umzali ongeyena ophethe unomlingani. Akuvamile ukuqhubeka nokwamukela izaziso ezivela enkantolo yomndeni lapho oshonile ekhokhiswa ngokusekela izingane.
Kule ndaba, kubalulekile kumlingani osaphila ukubiza inkantolo yomndeni ukuthi achaze ukufa komlingane. Inkantolo ingase ifune isitifiketi sokufa njengobufakazi nokuqinisekisa isimangalo. Ezimweni eziningi, kufanele ithunyelwe ngqo enkantolo yomndeni.
Funa iseluleko sezomthetho
Kuyadabukisa lapho umzali efa. Noma kunjalo, isibopho sokusekela ingane asifi nabo. Kuyinto engcono kakhulu yomntwana ukuthi umzali osaphila uyaqhubeka ethola ukwesekwa.
Umzali ofuna izimpendulo mayelana nokufa komunye umzali kufanele afune usizo kummeli womthetho ofanelekayo womndeni esifundazweni ukuxoxa ngokusekelwa kwengane. Ukwengeza, ummeli wokuhlela impahla angasiza abazali ukuba balungiselele izimo ezingalindelekile, njengokufa noma ukukhubazeka.