Yenza Ukuguquka Kwamalungelo Okungaphezu Kwezingane Zakho

I-Custody Swaps Ukuba I-nightmare yezingane zakho? Zama Lawa Amathiphu

Ukuguquka komthetho kungaba nzima kithina njengoba kusemantwaneni. Sebenzisa lawa macebiso ukuze wenze isilondolozi sakho esilandelayo sishintshe elibushelelekile kubo bonke abathintekayo.

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Khulumisana Ngaphandle Kwakho Ngaphambi Kokuhlela

Ukuxhumana okuhle ne-ex yakho kubalulekile. Kumelwe uhlakulele uhlelo oluqinile phambili ukuthi uzophatha kanjani ukuguqulwa kwesigceme. Izinto okudingayo ukubhekana nazo ngaphambi kokushintshaniswa kwesitoreji esilandelayo kufaka: ubani oqoqa izingane, kuphi, futhi ngasiphi isikhathi? Ungakhohlwa izinto ezincane ezingase zibe ezinkulu kubantwana bakho, njengokungathi i-ex yakho ihlala ngaphandle noma ingena ngenkathi kuphuma phansi.

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Nika Izingane Zakho Isixwayiso Esiphakeme Esanele

Lokhu akuyona nje iphuzu lokuthola izingane zakho zilungele ubusuku obuzayo. Bakudinga ukwazi ukuthi yikuphi okumele balindwe ngenkathi behla. Ngokucacile ungaba, ngcono. Isibonelo, uma i-ex yakho ishiya izingane futhi unqume ndawonye ukuthi angeke angene ngaphakathi, yilokho okudingeka izingane zakho zikwazi kusengaphambili. Futhi akudingeki kube "into enkulu". Kungaba njengokulula njengokuthi, "Ubaba uzokwehlisa lapha ekhaya ngeSonto, kodwa uzofika."

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Banike Izinqumo

Ukukhetha kuyithuluzi lokunika amandla izingane, ikakhulukazi lapho beqala ukufunda ukubhekana nezinguquko abangazifuni noma abacelayo. Ngakho-ke uma ulungiselela izingane zakho ekushintsheni kwakho okulandelayo, zama ukubanika izinqumo. Isibonelo, imuphi umdlalo wevidiyo ozoletha noma isiphi isitifiketi ukupakisha. Gwema ukwenza ukuba bakhethe phakathi kokunethezeka kokubili, noma kunjalo. Isibonelo, awufuni ukutshela ingane yakho eneminyaka emibili ukuthi ukhethe phakathi kwebhedi yakhe ethandwayo ne-blanket.

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Khuluma Mayelana Nalokho Ababheke phambili

Ngenkathi ungase ungabheke phambili ekubeni ngaphandle kwezingane zakho ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, kungokwemvelo ukuba babe nesibindi mayelana nokuguquka okuzayo. Zama ukufaka izicathulo zakho bese ucabanga ukuthi bangase babheke phambili. Bese ukhuluma nabo njengendlela yokuzilungiselela ukuguquka kwesitokisi esizayo. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukunciphisa noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka abanakho mayelana nokuthi uzoba olungile ngenkathi behamba, futhi.

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Qinisekisa Impahla Yabo Ebaluleke Kakhulu

Yiziphi izinto izingane zakho azikwazi nje ukuphila ngaphandle? Kungenzeka kube isilwane esithandwa kakhulu, noma kungenzeka kube yindawo yokudla kwasekuseni oyintandokazi aba nayo njalo ekuseni. Cabanga futhi ukuthi ngabe ama-blanket kanye nemilenze kufanele ifakwe ohlwini lwawo lokupakisha. Noma yini esiza izingane zakho zizincenga lapho zikhathazekile, noma zizisiza ukuba zilale, kufanele zicatshangelwe. Nakuba akuwona umsebenzi wakho ukwenza ukuphila kwakho kube lula ngesikhathi sokuvakashelwa okunwetshiwe, uqiniseke ukuthi ingcebo yezintandokazi zezingane zakho iphakanyisiwe kuzokwenza isikhathi sihambe ngokushesha kakhulu kubo.

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Izinketho Zokunikezela Zokunikela

Eminye imindeni inquma ukuthi kungcono ukuthi ungahlezi amakholi wefoni noma izingxoxo zevidiyo phakathi naphezulu. Uma unqume ndawonye ukuthi labo abaphakathi koxhumana nabo benza abantwana bakho bakhathazeke futhi bakhulelwe ekhaya, bese ulandela ugundane wakho. Kodwa uma unqume ukuvumela amakholi wefoni noma izingxoxo zevidiyo, qiniseka ukuthi uxoxe ngemingcele phambili. Isibonelo, ingabe babiza kuphela ngesikhathi sokulala, noma bangabiza noma kunini? Ukuba nesimiso kusengaphambili kuzosiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi konke kutholakala ngesikhathi esihleliwe.

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Yenza Isiko Sokuhle

Lokhu kungase kube inkulumo ekhethekile oyisebenzisayo njalo noma ukulandelana kwezinkukhu nokuqabula. Isibonelo, ungase uthi "Ngiyakuthanda enyangeni futhi ngibuyele" njalo, noma "Ukubamba kamuva, kiddo!" Lolu hlobo lwenqubo evamile lungaduduza izingane zakho, futhi kuwe!

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Ngaphandle Kokuzizwa Kokuthula Nokubeka Izinkathazo Zakho Zakho

Okokugcina, qiniseka ukuthi awukhiphi ukukhathazeka ngokwakho kokuhlukanisa phakathi nokushintshwa kwesitokisi. Lokhu kuyinto izingane zakho ezizoziqoqa kalula, futhi kuzokwenza ushintsho olunzima kakhulu kubo. Ngisho noma kufanele 'uzikhohlise' uma wenza kanjalo, 'yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ukhululeke umqondo wokuthula nokuzola njengoba uthumela izingane zakho ukuba zichithe isikhathi sakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lezi zinguquko zizoqala ukuzizwa zingokwemvelo, futhi mhlawumbe uzothola ukuthi 'uyazama' lowo mqondo wokuzola kancane kancane.