Kubalulekile ukuba ingane yakho ikwazi ukuthi ukwehluleka ukuhlolwa kwesayensi noma ukushaya emdlalweni akumenzi isisulu. Ukwehluleka, ukulahlwa, nokudumazeka kuyingxenye yokuphila.
Siza ingane yakho ifunde ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo ngendlela acabanga ngayo, ezwa ngayo, futhi iziphatha ngakho-ke ayihambisani nokuphila ephikelela ukuthi uyisisulu sabantu abaqotho nezimo ezimbi.
Ngisho nalapho ebhekene nobunzima, vumela ingane yakho ukuba ikwazi ukuzibona ingumuntu oqinile ngokwengqondo ongakwazi ukubhekana nokuhlupheka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usuvele ubona izimpawu zokuxwayisa zesimo sengqondo esisisulu , noma unethemba lokuvimbela isimo sengqondo 'sokuhlupheka' ngaphambi kokuba siqale, nanka izinyathelo eziyisikhombisa ongazithatha ukuze unike amandla ingane yakho:
1. Yakha Amasiko Wokubonga
Ukubonga kuyazigcina kuzwela. Sebenzisa isikhathi sokukhuluma ngalokho okubonga ngakho nsuku zonke. Ngisho nalapho ubhekana nezimo ezinzima, isibonelo sakho sibonisa isimo sengqondo sokubonga.
Dala imikhuba yansuku zonke eyosiza ingane yakho ukuba iqaphele zonke izizathu okufanele azibonge ngazo. Nazi imibono embalwa:
- Ngesikhathi sokudla, cela umntwana wakho ngengxenye engcono kakhulu yosuku lwakhe.
- Ngesikhathi sokulala, umcele ukuthi abize izinto ezintathu ezinhle ezenzeke.
- Yakha ibhukwana lokubonga kanye nephini amanothi kulokho okushoyo ukuthi uyayibonga ini namuhla.
2. Fundisa Ingane Yakho Ukuthula Ukucabanga Kwakhe Okungalungile
Ezinye izingane zivame ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokungathembeki kunabanye.
Kodwa ngosizo oluncane, bangabona ukuthi ukucabanga kwabo okungalungile kungenzeka ukuthi akulungile.
Siza ingane yakho ukuba ikhumbule ukucabanga kwayo okungalungile ngokufuna okungafani nomthetho. Uma ephikelela, "Angikwazi ukwenza noma yini ejabulisayo," umkhumbuze ngemisebenzi emnandi esanda kuhlanganyela kuyo. Uma ethi, "Akekho owake wangithanda," bonisa abantu abenzayo.
3. Fundisa Ingane Yakho Indlela Yokubhekana Nemizwa Engakhululekile
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nemizwelo engakhululekile , njengokwesaba, ukukhathazeka, intukuthelo nokudabuka. Izingane ezinamakhono okubhekana nokuphika okunempilo cishe amathuba okuphoqa izenzakalo ezincane ziyingozi.
Ingane eqiniseka ukuthi uyakwazi ukubhekana nokudumazeka, isibonelo, ngeke ifune ukuphila akulungile uma sekuyisikhathi sokushiya indawo yokudlala.
Lala ukuziphatha kwengane yakho, kodwa hhayi umzwelo . Mtshele ukuthi imizwelo yakhe ilungile, kodwa kubalulekile ukusingatha leyo mizwelo ngendlela efanele emphakathini. Mfundise indlela enempilo yokuveza imizwa yakhe futhi umvimbele ekubanjeni iqembu lakhe elihawukela njalo lapho ethukuthele.
4. Fundisa Amakhono Okuxazulula Izinkinga
Izingane ezingenawo amakhono wokuxazulula izinkinga cishe zithatha indlela yokuphila ehamba phambili. Ingane engazi ukuthi ingenza kanjani umsebenzi wakhe wesikole ingahle ishiye esikoleni esingaphumeleli ngaphandle kokuzama ukuthola isixazululo. Noma, ingane engenzi ithimba lebhola lingase liphethe ngokuthi ligijimi elibi.
Fundisa ingane yakho indlela yokuxazulula-ukuxazulula . Ingane ethatha isinyathelo lapho ebhekene nobunzima cishe kunzima ukuzibona njengesisulu esingenasici. Izingane ezinezinkinga ezinhle zokuxazulula izinkinga zingavimbela izikhubekiso ezincane zokuba izithiyo ezinkulu.
5. Siza Abanye Abantu
Kulula ukuthi izingane zicabange ukuthi zinezinkinga ezinkulu emhlabeni. Ukubonisa ukuthi kunabantu abaningi abanenkinga enkulu bangabasiza bona bonke abantu babhekane nobunzima.
Ukusiza abanye abantu bangabonisa ingane yakho ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi incane kangakanani, noma kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga azibonele, unamandla okusiza omunye umuntu.
Ukuzithandela ekhishini lesobho, usize umakhelwane osekhulile ngomsebenzi wegceke noma uhlanganyele eprojekthi yokuxhaswa imali. Yenza ingane yakho ihileleke emisebenzini yenkonzo yomphakathi njalo ukuze ikwazi ukuthola amathuba okwenza umhlaba ube indawo engcono.
6. Fundisa Amakhono E-Assertiveness
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi akudingeki ibe yisisulu esingahambi. Uma enye ingane ithatha ithoyizi esandleni sayo, msize ibuyiselwe emuva. Noma, uma ethathwa ezinye izingane esikoleni, khuluma ngendlela yokubuza uthisha usizo.
Izingane ezinamakhono okuqinisela zingakhuluma futhi zithi, "Ungenzi lokho," noma "Angikuthandi uma wenza lokho." Nika amandla ingane yakho ukusebenzisa amagama akhe futhi uzonciphisa amathuba ukuthi uzoba ube yisisulu.
7. I-Role Play Indlela Yokusingatha Izimo Ezibucayi
Ukudlala indima kuyithuluzi elihle lokufundisa ngoba izingane zifunda kangcono uma zithola ithuba lokusebenzisa amakhono azo kuqala. Siza ingane yakho ifunde ukugwema ukucabanga komuntu oyisisulu ngokumbonisa indlela yokubhekana nezimo ezinzima nezimo.
Uma ethi akekho odlala naye ngesikhathi sokuphumula, msize umkhuba ukubuza ukuthi angadlala nawe yini. Uma eqonda izinqumo zakhe ekuphenduleni izimo ezinzima, cishe uzoba nesinyathelo esihle.
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